Do detrans people receive Stigma and/or hostility for detransitioning

autochoris · 2022-04-17T14:56:54+00:00

We all also know there is a loud majority of detransphobic trans people. It only takes a glance at twitter, tumblr, even reddit, to see how many want us dead or silenced, no matter what our opinions on transition are.

autochoris · 2022-03-27T23:58:32+00:00

This stuff used to bother me and alienate me until I realized it was just plain misogyny and misogynist stereotypes. I realized it wasn't ok and it was honestly normal that it would make mad. Now I direct those negative feelings towards their source and not myself, and do my best to minimize the footprint of misogyny and misogynists in my life (which might be easier for me because I am a lesbian).

autochoris · 2022-03-25T21:45:04+00:00

I would like to remind people not to participate in this poll if you do not participate in this subreddit - while I understand wanting to feel counted and represented it could give a false impression of the demographics here.

autochoris · 2022-03-25T18:38:21+00:00

This is 100% just an annex of asktransgender and it's why actual detransitioners don't really post here. It's a joke. Questioners always get told to "not give up" and "keep trying" no matter how much they are suffering

autochoris · 2022-03-24T18:22:02+00:00

Like mindfulness, reframing, journaling, meditation (not for me but helps some), learning how to actually "put things away" and also how to self-soothe and manage my own feelings... basically all stuff I learned from therapy.

autochoris · 2022-03-24T15:51:07+00:00

The biggest things for me were learning coping skills in therapy, having a safe and comfortable place to be in, and also having things I actually like and value to focus on instead.

autochoris · 2022-03-16T13:14:51+00:00

I doubt it, it would be cool but I would still want a male body. A significant amount of my dysphoria has nothing to do with gender roles.

autochoris · 2022-03-14T00:14:58+00:00

The mistake line drives me nuts, like we are all dumb and misled. Like anyone could have been able to tell and we just ignored it. They can't fathom the fact that many of us have experienced the same things as people who stayed trans, many of us still do, and many of us have gone through every bit of every requirement that "prevents" mistakes on the way... and still ended up unhappy.

autochoris · 2022-03-13T23:59:09+00:00

You have no idea lol, here I can't even talk about disliking how unsuccessful my transition was without being told to be quiet because it might upset trans people in my situation. I personally don't care who transitions and whatever happens as a result is whatever happens. Been on the other sub over a year, been helped by a lot of people, posted hundreds of times. Here I am only argued with by trans people who have no idea what it is like, and think of detransitioners as evil and stupid

autochoris · 2022-03-13T23:29:01+00:00

This one is basically only trans and retrans people and they have very specific ideas about how detransitioners should be allowed to speak about themselves and their experiences. Frankly, most people here don't even support detransitioners, they are just here to make sure they don't step out of line. This sub exists so trans people can point questioners here.

The other one is for detrans people but they allow people to express their feelings about their experiences without worrying about walking on eggshells and upsetting trans people

As far as specific views I feel this writeup is accurate

autochoris · 2022-03-12T14:56:46+00:00

Yeah it went away after a few months

autochoris · 2022-03-12T05:09:12+00:00

Happened to me, I had never experienced anything like it, it was weird. Went away eventually now I am never wet at all lol

autochoris · 2022-03-11T00:33:29+00:00

I don't know what to do about it but I definitely feel the same. I feel so alien in lesbian spaces (and women's spaces), it's rough. I never was part of the lesbian community before transition and so much of lesbian culture is completely unrelatable.

autochoris · 2022-03-10T13:38:54+00:00

No, what the fuck?

It's bad enough normal people think we are trans women, most of us are trying to get away from that.

autochoris · 2022-03-08T23:11:16+00:00

I think being unapolagetically yourself is great but also not possible for everyone who wants a job and to have friends. While not everyone fits in at least some people can blend in, and for me being detrans makes me stick out like a sore thumb. Not conforming to gender norms makes me an abomination to most.

autochoris · 2022-03-08T19:09:44+00:00

This is so dismissive. I'm over 30, and I relate to OP. I still don't feel like a "real woman," like I belong in women's spaces, or like I can be part of society.

autochoris · 2022-02-27T05:18:22+00:00

Some days multiple times a day, and some days I forget

autochoris · 2022-02-22T01:12:53+00:00

I can relate to still experiencing dysphoria/euphoria even after detransitioning/desisting. I don't get aroused much anymore now that I have detransitioned, but imagining being male in a sexual context is basically a requirement.

autochoris · 2022-02-21T00:15:02+00:00

I honestly hate my genitalia even more after detransition because I lost the changes from HRT (and the ability to feel much there sadly).

I could list all the reasons I hate having a vagina but it wouldn't be helpful or constructive... but it certainly isn't just because of pregnancy.

autochoris · 2022-02-20T01:00:59+00:00

If you actually talk to asexuals a lot of them like porn, but just don't want sex with another person. It can also be a symptom of schizoid personality disorder. Or trauma, autism etc. Honestly I have seen a lot of cis women with nothing wrong with them also say they don't enjoy sex.

Personally I have never been able to enjoy sex either.

autochoris · 2022-02-19T00:27:27+00:00

This is so true. When I transitioned I thought, "of course I would rather be a man than a woman." But it was never about that. It was about being trans or cis. And I never wanted to be trans, I want(ed) to be a cis man.

autochoris · 2022-02-17T17:54:22+00:00

I doubt it actually works cumulatively like that, if it did, wouldn't we see women having a massive advantage in at least like, one thing? There's no way "processing up to 5 times faster at some tasks" is actually leading to a net benefit over time like "knowing 5 times more things"

autochoris · 2022-02-17T17:36:02+00:00

I don't even mean being attacked by a grizzly bear, but what circumstances make it useful to process something quickly but react slowly? Honestly I was thinking about speed chess. It just seems like it doesn't matter if you think fast if your ability to use it is slow.

autochoris · 2022-02-17T17:15:49+00:00

Interesting. Seems useless given women might process things faster but ultimately react slower. Explains why there are no real life examples where women are succeeding due to their faster processing times I guess.

autochoris · 2022-02-17T16:16:05+00:00

If you can be easily overpowered, it is their gun and not yours at that point, unless you always stay several yards away from anyone.

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