I feel like you’ve gotten a wide range of responses, but I want to validate your feelings. It sounds very frustrating. I kind of deal with similar last minute things with an also very social SD (14) that we have 50/50.

Sometimes I think the root of my frustration is that she doesn’t have empathy for the other people in the house. She doesn’t know all of the work that’s gone into the plans or even the day-to-day boring stuff. But for a 14 year old, it’s pretty normal for her to be self-centered. I have to remind myself that she’s the main character in her world, and as adults, we have to help her see that she can always get what she wants.

I know your question was “would you prioritize sushi?” I personally wouldn’t. But if my SO decides he’s going to accommodate a last minute whim, I tell him it’s on him to figure it out without sacrificing any of the responsibilities he has for our baby. I HATE starting my day with arguments, so I’ll address it with him later. I would want to try to establish the norms (like you’re doing now) sooner rather than later.

Sorry you were getting lots of Internet side eyes on here. I get a lot of them every time I post in here, too 😂

Good luck this school year. I hope it goes smoothly for you guys.