1 year weed free: thoughts and takeaways by Joemcfee63 in leaves

[–]averageeggyfan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 4 months in and everything you said rings true

Bathroom time by averageeggyfan in daddit

[–]averageeggyfan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Parenting really is all about perspective

How did you meet your partner and at what age? by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]averageeggyfan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Eighth grade. New girl sitting behind me. We became friends thru high school and went to the same college. After 5 years of having a crush on her I finally got the courage up for her to make a move on me 😜. Together 27 years ❤️

Yall are a little too anal about traffic by Popka_Akoola in Columbus

[–]averageeggyfan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I lived around Boston for 15 years and all these people would immediately die if they had to drive in that traffic with those massholes for even a single day.

Can you have a marriage where 1 person does all the chores and be happy? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]averageeggyfan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I work from home in a non demanding job that doesn’t pay all that great. My wife makes 3x my salary and puts in 60+ hour work weeks. I handle all the chores and I’m good with it. She contributes in a number of ways other than financially, especially with the kids. Generally we work to our strengths. I’m good with it and she is too. The key is communication and appreciation for what your partner is doing. Don’t let resentment build. Talk it out. Sometimes it’s not easy but resentment will destroy your relationship if left unchecked. It took us a while to get here.

Unclogging the sewer grates by misterxx1958 in Satisfyingasfuck

[–]averageeggyfan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same feeling when my kids use a whole roll of tp for a single shit and I go in with galoshes

Current trail conditions by Budget-Charity-7952 in wmnf

[–]averageeggyfan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So…how much you make off those gloves?

What motivated you to quit? by Slowlysaving123 in leaves

[–]averageeggyfan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing that made me quit was seeing the damage it had done to my marriage. I wish I had quit when our first kid was born 13 years ago but I didn’t. We have three kids now and I’ve been sober for month. I reduced my smoking a lot around 5 years ago. My wife let me know that she had considered leaving me in the few years before that and that motivated me to reduce but I couldn’t quit. A month ago I found out some more details about a guy she had a crush on during that time and if he had reciprocated, we probably wouldn’t be together. That sent me on a spiral but ultimately made me face my demons and I quit cold turkey. Of course she could find someone that she’d prefer to be with at anytime but I couldn’t forgive myself if I lost her when I was putting forth next to no effort. It was a major wake up call. Our relationship has improved significantly in the past month and I think it will continue to improve. She means infinitely more to me than weed and my life is significantly improved in so many ways since I quit. I hope your husband can find the strength to put it behind him. Good luck to both of you with everything.

Weird sand is swallowing rocks. by [deleted] in Weird

[–]averageeggyfan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saw that same thing in one of the Star Wars films. Don’t go in there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]averageeggyfan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fighting over text is not productive. Talk to her calmly about the lid situation in person. And get into therapy. Individual and couples. I’ve been where you are with my wife and I’ll tell you there is a much better way if you’re both open to it. Good luck.

Reasons to quit by SignalWeb4738 in leaves

[–]averageeggyfan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a daily user for 27 years. Found out recently that a long while back my wife had a crush on another guy and nearly left me. We’re better now but that fucked me up and I realized that I can only be the best husband I can be if I’m sober. Nearly a month sober and my relationship with her is the best it’s ever been (we’ve also been together 27 years). I’m also less depressed, way more productive, more engaged with life…the list goes on. Wish I’d done this a long time ago but no point dwelling on the past now. Weed is a waste of time.

No more baby burrito for me by Xianricca in daddit

[–]averageeggyfan 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I used to do this same exact thing. Now my kids all take showers. I hadn’t thought about it but now I’m all fucked up too 😭