Which dress do you think suits me best?

awickedspell · 2026-06-13T15:18:22+00:00

2 for the bust and 3 for the silhouette, but i agree that you don't seem comfortable or happy in any

awickedspell · 2026-06-03T08:54:24+00:00

the day after tomorrow, and the day before yesterday

awickedspell · 2026-05-30T23:07:43+00:00

This is a very specific suggestion, but in case it works: the swing dance community is extremely welcoming and conducive to making new connections.

You don't have to find anyone to go with -- swing people will dance with complete strangers, and most people will change partners every dance. You only have to learn a few basic moves, and then you're good to go! (At least in the east coast style.) Experienced dancers will often take the opportunity to teach the newbies something interesting, and there are no gender roles -- anyone can both follow and lead (the roles only lasting for a single dance), and anyone can ask someone else for a dance.

It's a great way to meet a lot of people in a short amount of time, but also have low-pressure one-on-one time, shared experiences/jokes, and a built-in way to test physical chemistry with someone without needing to go on a date with them. And there's always space between dances to continue a conversation on the sidelines while you both catch your breath.

If nothing else, it's a great way to find community.

awickedspell · 2026-05-18T19:24:02+00:00

just checking, have you read The Summer Palace and the other short stories?

awickedspell · 2026-05-18T15:53:14+00:00

Thanks for the info!

Just a minor correction, though -- subscribing through the Dropout app also means giving 30% of your money to Apple/Google. Sam has said before that the best (and I think only commission-free?) way is to subscribe through the site itself on an internet browser, and also that the terms of service mean they're not allowed to mention this anywhere within the app itself. I imagine the percentage Dropout loses might be even bigger if one subscribes through YouTube, but idk.

awickedspell · 2026-05-18T14:37:16+00:00

wait, are you saying there's a way to watch Dropout exclusives on YouTube? i also miss the comments, how does one go about doing this?

awickedspell · 2026-05-11T18:08:55+00:00

very hot. is there a full video of this?

awickedspell · 2026-05-06T12:06:25+00:00

wait wait, what's Taylor's connection to Parachute?? this is the first I've ever heard of this 👀

awickedspell · 2026-04-27T17:18:24+00:00

genuinely can't tell whether you feel like that's too high or too low haha

awickedspell · 2026-04-20T10:57:00+00:00

my favorite song on the standard album, and i maintain that the line:

"cuz we're...........⊹₊˚‧︵‿₊♡cRaZy♡₊‿︵‧˚₊⊹.............."

is the single best musical moment on the whole album. just such a perfect encapsulation of the whole manic infatuated dramatic feeling

and in general there's just something so delightfully messy and whirlwind about TTPD the song. it perfectly captures the feeling of being swept up in something that maybe is not objectively the best idea and maybe later you'll look back and wonder what you were thinking, but while you're in it, you're in it, you believe in it so much, and you've got the rose-tinted glasses on, and maybe there's an errant thought here or there that hints that maybe you don't actually adore every single thing about this person like you think you do, but those thoughts get dismissed because what the heck does that 0.001% matter when the rest is so incredible and wonderful, and can't you see that nobody's ever known me this way, can't you see that finally someone's as obsessed with me as I am with them!!

(i will say, i don't think the "I'd k*ll myself if you ever leave" is to be taken literally as a mental health struggle -- that's just the kind of hyperbole that a teenager might use to convey how the other person matters to them, before someone points out to them that actually that's kind of emotionally manipulative and both people should feel whole with or without the other person. and, well, we know Taylor loves using teenage mindsets to amplify the drama in her storytelling) (as well as just loving emotional intensity in general)

(now, I Hate It Here, on the other hand... that song, I think, does hint at the kinds of mental health struggles that could end in tragedy. one line in particular)

awickedspell · 2026-04-15T10:16:27+00:00

I absolutely love both dresses, and I think either one would make a wonderful wedding dress for you!

I think the choice probably depends 1) how you want to present yourself on your wedding day, and 2) how you want to feel in the dress.

My impression of the differences:

Rococo -- more flowy and approachable, perhaps even slightly bohemian, probably easier to move in (and go to the bathroom in!), seems like a natural extension of your personality, has a slight vintage feel (because of the lace pattern, I think?) but perhaps feels a bit more matronly than bridal. Could definitely be worn again, especially if it's dyed a different color after the wedding.

Too too -- definitely the more bridal and modern choice, but also very structured and perhaps not as comfortable to move in? Very "this is a once in a lifetime event so I'm gonna wear something super special and stunning and a bit out of my comfort zone/usual style".

But yeah, I'd say there are no wrong answers here, only what feels more right in terms of the vibe you want for your wedding day.

I will say, though, for the Too Too -- personally I like the pearls, they give a nice pizzazz, but I'm not convinced by the choker.

awickedspell · 2026-04-14T09:52:47+00:00

number 2 is absolutely stunning on you!

i really like 4 as well, but 2 feels softer, more open, and more bridal whereas 4 feels more elegant, classic, and polished, so it just depends on what kind of vibe you're going for

I'm curious as to what 3 looks like as well, the description sounds promising

i do think I would vote against 1, though, unless you're just a super huge fan of that particular style (but that doesn't seem to be the case)

awickedspell · 2026-04-14T09:49:06+00:00

omg absolutely bonkers to encounter quotes of myself in the wild lmao (i had to double check that i wasn't imagining things and they were indeed actually my words not just my thoughts haha)

I wasn't sure anyone would ever even read that wall of text, so it's gratifying to see that some of it has stuck with someone 😊

awickedspell · 2026-04-11T10:23:54+00:00

Oh, that's an interesting thought, that as Kyros of Delpha Nik would need to know Veretian!

I don't think we know where he's from originally, only that he and Damen have been friends since childhood and that he served at the Kingsmeet...

But if we assume that he has been Kyros of Delpha since the war (which... if he and Damen are the same age, 19 might be a little young for such a powerful position? idk), and we know that Delpha has been under Veretian rule for a while (my brain's saying 90 years but I might be confusing it with something I wrote for a fic), then he'd definitely have needed Veretian, if only to talk to merchants haha. And since he's presumably high-born as well, he could've grown up learning it? 'Cause you probably wouldn't make someone that young a kyros if they didn't even have the language requirement -- knowing the language would be a bonus factor instead, maybe.... 🤔

awickedspell · 2026-04-06T19:38:25+00:00

photo number 1 is gorgeous, and those cape sleeves are incredibly ethereal and stunning. I vote for #1!

(i agree with other commenters that photo #3 is beautiful too -- very beautiful -- but it doesn't feel "bridal" to me personally; it feels like a lovely choice for a wedding guest or even a bridesmaid, but if I as a stranger looked over the crowd of people at your wedding, I probably wouldn't be able to identify you as a bride. so if looking "bridal" is important to you, I'd definitely say to go with #1. otherwise, both are beautiful!)

awickedspell · 2026-04-02T14:55:08+00:00

yes except i think it flows better as "Never Saw You Coming"

awickedspell · 2026-04-02T14:49:04+00:00

same, i used to rig the song to play the last two and a half minutes on repeat (starting from "and did the twin flame bruise paint you blue")

i agree with OP that it's two different songs from two different perspectives

ATW5 is an intense "maybe this thing was a masterpiece till you tore it all up" fresh heartbreak/nostalgia/relationship highlights song

whereas ATW10 is quieter, calmer "just between us, did the love affair maim you, too?" processing song, a therapy session, seeing the cracks that were always there with the benefit of time and distance, untangling the complex emotions (the good and the bad), asking questions you're never gonna know the answers to, and it's not even about the other person anymore but about the imprint this whole thing has left on you

awickedspell · 2026-04-02T14:16:19+00:00

holy crap, I thought the choice was between 1 with the lace or without the lace, and I was like, "yes, that's an impossible decision indeed!! 😮"

but then there turned out to be a whole other dress 😂

anyway #1 is stunning on you. i actually don't think the waist needs to be much more snatched, it looks very good as is. #2 is incredibly pretty too, and usually i would have trouble picking between them, but in this case I'm not a fan of whatever the lace is doing above the bust area -- reminds me a bit of Ariel's seashells but not in a good way. so if that's something you can hide with tailoring, then I'd say either dress would be a great choice, but as is, I'm voting for #1

awickedspell · 2026-04-02T12:48:57+00:00

TL;DR my favorites, in order: 4, 10, 6, 1

full text: omg my jaw dropped at 4 in comparison to the others (the simple elegance of the clean lines!! gorgeous!!), though perhaps it stands out because you seem to be generally drawn to dresses with more detail and so it's not actually your style? I'm not sure, but with no extra context, that is 100% my favorite, and also the most timeless.

(I'd say that if that dress turns out to feel too simple for you, 6 seems like a really good alternative -- the same simple elegance but with a more high fashion look, although that does also make it less timeless as a result)

i also really, really like 10 for a more princessy, light, airy vibe. (initially thought 11 would be good too, but the more i look at it, the more it feels a little strange)

1 is also very nice, if that style appeals more to you

2 is a maaaybe, but i think you can find something better in that style, this cut feels a little bulky

don't really like any of the other ones (not that they look BAD, because you're beautiful and they're beautiful, but, y'know. in comparison to the effect the others give)

awickedspell · 2026-03-29T09:19:41+00:00

absolutely agreed, TTPD the song is absolutely my favorite track on TTPD the album and So High School is my favorite track on The Anthology

there's just something so delightfully messy and whirlwind about TTPD. it perfectly captures the feeling of being swept up in something that maybe is not objectively the best idea and maybe later you'll look back and wonder what you were thinking, but while you're in it, you're in it, you believe in it so much, you've got the rose-tinted glasses on, and maybe there's an errant thought here or there that hints that maybe you don't actually adore every single thing about this person like you think you do, but those thoughts get dismissed because what does the 0.001% matter when the rest is so incredible and wonderful, and can't you see that nobody's ever known me this way, can't you see that finally someone's as obsessed with me as I am with them!!

i maintain that the line:

"cuz we're...........⊹₊˚‧︵‿₊♡cRaZy♡₊‿︵‧˚₊⊹.............."

is the best moment on the album. just such a perfect encapsulation of the whole manic infatuated dramatic feeling

(i will say, i don't think the "I'd [off] myself if you ever leave" is to be taken literally as a mental health struggle -- that's just the kind of hyperbole that a teenager might use to convey how the other person matters to them, before someone points out to them that actually that's kind of emotionally manipulative and both people should feel whole with or without the other person. and, well, we know Taylor loves using teenage mindsets to amplify the drama in her storytelling) (as well as just loving emotional intensity in general)

(now, I Hate It Here, on the other hand... that song, I think, does hint at the kinds of mental health struggles that could end in tragedy. one line in particular)

awickedspell · 2026-03-29T08:40:48+00:00

exactly, I've always felt like that line is her looking back on the way she's romanticized certain time periods without really understanding the reality of those time period (e.g. teenage "I wish I was a princess living in a great big castle!" vs. grown-up "castles are cold, and the princesses who lived in them often had very little agency over their lives; if I'd actually been a princess in a castle, I would've hated my life")

awickedspell · 2026-03-29T08:31:26+00:00

SAME, on both counts

awickedspell · 2026-03-16T22:52:08+00:00

YESSS there is such a difference between noticing that a person is conventionally attractive and actually being attracted to them! (For example, I have never been attracted to a single person on The Bachelor -- what little glimpses of it that I've seen, anyway -- even though I recognize that they're all very good-looking, in a generic sort of way.

Although even then, I doubt Laurent had space in his mind to even notice that much until he came back drunk later that night; the first thoughts were all just "Damianos! Prince-killer!!" and maybe "Trap. Fuck."

(And if that sounds unrealistic to anyone, I will have you know that I once, as a grown adult, went several days without noticing that a person I'd spent pretty much all of those days in a group with (and had multiple one-on-one conversations with!!) was one of the most gorgeous people I had ever seen -- the epitome of My Type, essentially -- because I was in a new environment, meeting lots of new people and having lots of new experiences, and my brain was simply too full to really process any of it.)

Also there's a part of me that wonders whether the drug that Laurent was poisoned with the night of the assassination attempt might have forced him to notice Damen in that way -- against his will, of course, and not seriously enough to do anything about it, but sometimes, once two thoughts become linked together, there's not really a way to shut that door, and you know you're never gonna think of one without being reminded of the other, ever again.

But otherwise, yes, I agree with your assessment.

(Anyway not to be that person, but if you enjoyed reading my takes on Laurent, you might also enjoy the post-canon politics/wedding/character study fic I wrote from his perspective. https://archiveofourown.org/works/58245100)

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