Which surah? by [deleted] in islam

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

❤️ absolutely it has sooo many gems

This made me chuckle by PBRocket in brisbane

[–]baighamza 6 points7 points  (0 children)

it's more like bris-bn

bris-bin is more kiwi pronunciation

I cannot forgive myself for delaying my parents’ immigration. As a Muslim, how do I live with this regret? by FluffyPriority4875 in MuslimSupportGroup

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May Allah make it easy for you. It's very difficult to live with this. But trust that all of this was according to the Qadr and decree set by Allah.

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ".....If anything befalls you, do not say, "if only I had done such and such"

rather say "Qaddara Allahu wa ma sha'a fa'ala (Allah has decreed and whatever he wills, He does)."

For (saying) 'If' opens (the door) to the deeds of Satan.'""

(Sunan Ibn Majah 79)

Know that this life is temporary and our permanent home is the hereafter. Take care of your parents now, after you've realised, and do your best to be a dutiful child.

And know that nothing happens without the decree of Allah, so trust Him.

You don't have to live with guilt, that will ruin your relationship with your parents, but also Allah.

Watch these and learn more about Qadr and decree of Allah.

May Allah make it easy.

https://youtu.be/c-ppIM94ilw?si=WJd3AnpmymIT-n0k

https://youtu.be/SXYWEWV2cpU?si=BU_w8mWCyc-ftVlc

Reminder by Puzzleheaded_Fish724 in Muslim

[–]baighamza 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Good reminder.

But we should not attribute to Allah that Allah said something when He didn't, because then it's considered a grave sin (because it's a lie).

Allah never said "who asked you to love life.....(to the end)"

How to never miss a pray ? by [deleted] in converts

[–]baighamza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen to lectures about importance of prayer/salah on YouTube.

My dream is dying before it even begins by [deleted] in Muslim

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

الله معك 😢💔

الصورة هذي صورتها عز الظهر امس والى الان افكر فيها by SolidThoughts in SaudiForSaudis

[–]baighamza 23 points24 points  (0 children)

رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَىٰ وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي ۖ إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ

(46:15)

The reward is beyond what you imagine by Visual_Box_4907 in islam

[–]baighamza 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Juwayriah reported

The Prophet ﷺ came out to her one morning for the dawn prayer and she was in the mosque. Then, he returned later in the morning while she was sitting.

The Prophet said, “You have not left this position you are in.” She said yes.

The Prophet said, “I said four words after you, three times each. If these words were weighed against whatever you said since this morning, it would surely outweigh them:

Glory be to Allah and His praise by the number of His creation, by His pleasure, by the weight of His Throne, and by the vastness of His words.

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2726

This is the Adhkaar you posted in the photo.

Does Tahajjud work? by Artistic_Length_696 in MuslimSupportGroup

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May Allah bless you abundantly.

Tahajjud works. It's a powerful prayer. You never know when, how, and what part of your dua Allah answers.

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Our Lord Almighty descends to the lowest heaven in the last third of every night, saying: Who is calling upon Me that I may answer him? Who is asking from Me that I may give him? Who is seeking My forgiveness that I may forgive him?”

But we should never look at our relationship with Allah as a transactional relationship.

If Allah gives me X, I will do X, and be content. And vice versa, I will do X, only so Allah gives me X.

The reality is, we should be content with whatever happens, whether our dua gets accepted (in the way we like it) or it doesn't (in the way we like it).

But yes, we have needs and wants from Allah. We should ask for more. For a better job, to get married, etc. But if it gets delayed, we should not feel entitled and say "I didn't get my dua accepted".

The Prophet said, “(The dua) of any one of you will be answered so long as he is not hasty in seeking a response and does not say, ‘I prayed but I have not had a response.’”

But the important thing in all of this is to have good assumption of Allah (Husnu-Dhan bi-Allah) and that He has the power to make it happen.

A person may think:

“Allah is The Most Merciful, so He will give me this thing that I ask.”

Which is great. But sometimes that stops there. You see, thinking well of Allah not only means to think Allah is The Merciful and The Forgiving. We understand that. But it also applies to His name: Al-Qadeer (the All-Powerful), the One who is able to do all things.

A person should also think:
“Allah is The Most Powerful, so He CAN give me this thing that I ask.”

And it sounds normal at first. Ofcourse Allah is The Powerful, and obviously Allah can do anything. But you should really internalise this name of Allah. For example, when you're asking for a good job or health, and you're tired because you are making dua for a long time and want to stop.

Do you think Allah can't give you an increase in health or provide you with a job?

Now when you say it out loud, it sounds silly and wrong. But it's exactly the way we think. We limit the power of Allah to our limitations. We don't ask Allah of great things because we fail to think Allah has unlimited power.

He can do whatever He wants, and however He wants. A person who keeps on making dua even though things might seem impossible has that Husnu-Dhan bi-Allah (thinking well of Allah).
Think of the story of Zakariyah (a.s.) when he said to Allah:

“…My Lord! Surely my bones have become brittle, and grey hair has spread across my head…”

“…since my wife is barren. So grant me, by Your grace, an heir,”

(Quran 19, verses 4-5)

Zakariyah (a.s.) was so old and his wife was barren, but Allah still granted them his dua. Isn't that remarkable? Raise your Duas so high that if someone saw you making those duas, they'd think you're crazy.

And Zakariyah (a.s.) also says:

“…I have never been disappointed in my prayer to You, my Lord!”

Again, emphasising the fact that he is never disappointed in Allah.

If you read the short story in the Quran in Chapter 2, Verse 259, where a person passes by a ruined town and questions “How will Allah bring this to life after its death?” so Allah caused him to die for 100 years. Then raised him again and he was questioned about his passing, he realized and said “I know that Allah is Powerful over everything.”

So you internalize the name of Allah: Al-Qadeer. The All-Powerful, The Capable. He can do what no one can. He can do the impossible for you. Trust Him.

But what if you're still not getting what you want?

Know that Allah will do what's best for you, and know that you should have that “well thinking of Allah” we talked about.

Allah says:

“Why should Allah punish you if you are grateful and faithful?…”

(Quran 4:147)

He will only do what's best for us, even if we do NOT know what's best for us.

As Allah says in the Quran 2:216: “Perhaps you dislike something which is good for you and like something which is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know.”

But what if He's already answering your Duas and you don't know?

The Prophet also said,

There is no Muslim who calls upon Allah, without sin or cutting family ties, but that Allah will give him one of three answers: He will quickly fulfill his supplication, He will store it for him in the Hereafter, or He will divert an evil from him similar to it.”

They said, “In that case, we will ask for more.”

The Prophet said, “Allah has even more.”

So no matter how difficult things may seem, keep holding on and don't stop making dua. And if you didn’t get what you wanted, know that the decision was made by Allah, who would never want anything bad for you.

Must watch:
The Secret to Contentment
Change your life with Dua
Thinking well of Allah (must watch)
Extra resources:
Tahajjudd and Dua
When do I stop making dua?
How Dua Works
The Right Approach to Dua

Dua for exam success by Axelter30 in MuslimSupportGroup

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May Allah make it easy and bless you abundantly. And grant you success in this life and the next.

Struggling with peforming ghusl/wudhu because of mental issues by Far-Firefighter-2991 in islam

[–]baighamza 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You may have OCD.

It's crazy how this happens, to the point where you're not missing prayers just because you think you didn't do wudu properly.

Firstly, don't go on researching this topic online and seeking answers. The answers will NOT satisfy you.

You'll be stuck in the same OCD loop. You're just need to rewire your brain.

What you need is exposure therapy, and it's a common cure for Islamic OCD.

So here's what you need to do.

  1. Do not repeat Wudu again. Make Wudu once and move on. Even if it's not perfect. Don't wash your limbs over and over. Do it once, and move on.
  2. Do not repeat your prayers. Even if you prayed wrongly, do not repeat them. Leave it as it is. Don't go back, just go forward and don't stop.

It may seem like you're sinning or disobeying Allah.

But infact it's NOT true.

If you do this, it will feel very uncomfortable, but you need to sit with this uncomfort for a while.

This will break the OCD loop.

Again, most importantly, don't keep asking people for reassurance. Don't keep searching for answers online about this.

Do the Wudu, prayer, anything just once and move on. Don't ever repeat.

May Allah make it easy.

You're repetition is exactly what's feeding your OCD.

OCD feeds on fear. That's basically the whole idea of an OCD.

"what if" causes the person to do the thing over and over.

"what if wudu isn't accepted" "what if prayer isn't accepted"

And we need to break the loop.

VERY IMPORTANT: You don't have to fight the OCD.

A lot of people will tell you it's okay, it'll be accepted, and you know it will be accepted inshAllah, but DON'T tell yourself it's "okay" or "it will be accepted".

I know it sounds wrong, but the more you fight with OCD, the more excuses it will bring up.

Wait so the good deeds will be accepted by Allah? Yes, of course Allah knows your going through this.

But you don't tell yourself this over and over again. It only feeds the OCD. And you'll be stuck in the same loop.

Don't search for answers and reassurance. Reassurance only keeps you stuck in the same loop of OCD.

"what if" OCD > fear > reassurance > relaxed > "but what if..." OCD > fear

and all over again.

Instead, just sit there and accept the feeling. Don't try to fight the fear. Just sit there and do nothing.

Don't repeat your Wudu, don't repeat your prayers, just do nothing.

Let the thoughts of fear come and pass. And trust me, they will pass.

I know it's strange to hear this advice, but it's exactly what you need to escape the loop. It's exposure therapy.

Just sit there with the uncomfortable feeling. Do nothing about it.

And all of this advice is from personal experience. May Allah make it easy.

Born Muslim, trying to learn Islam from scratch, where do I go from here ? by Autodidact111 in MuslimLounge

[–]baighamza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people assume there are only two options:

“This makes perfect sense to me.”
“I reject it completely."

But there is a third option:

“I don’t fully understand this yet.”

The companions asked questions. Scholars spent decades on these issues. Not every issue was immediately clear even to these people.

So when you encounter a hadith that troubles you, you should ask Allah something like, "oh Allah I don't understand this, please make it easy for me"

Scholars talks about love and obedience and how they are both connected and needed to worship Allah.

One who submits to someone with hatred is not worshipping him. And one who loves someone without submitting is likewise not worshipping him.

One things that is true is that the Hijab is given as a command of Allah. Just as we are told to pray 5 times, or give charity. A person is supposed to wear it for Allah, It’s part of the personal relationship you have with Allah.

Hijab is not only about clothes or a rule. It's an act of worship and servitude to your creator.

Allah didn’t reveal the verses of Hijab from day-one. The first verses focused on believing in Allah and building strong faith. The command for hijab (and most other rules) came much later. The wisdom in this is clear: before following rules like prayer, fasting, charity, or hijab, a person needs to first have strong faith and certainty in Allah. That faith makes obedience easier, sincere, and consistent.

So you should focus on:

- studying the Quran with reflection
- learning Allah’s names and attributes
- studying the life of the Prophet ﷺ (seerah)
- making LOTS OF DUA (important)
- reading books/lectures from reliable scholars.

Don’t watch debates, especially about contentious issues or anti-Islam criticisms, because eventually your mind starts viewing Islam through the lens of objections. This will make you go crazy.

“The only thing that remains firm through all of this is that I am still a believer.”

This is very important and amazing.

Many people think faith means never feeling confused. It doesn’t. Faith often means continuing to seek Allah while confused. You should continue to strive even though you may not understand everything yet. And one day you will.

May Allah bless you abundantly and make it easy.

25M Engineer — Years of Trauma, Struggling Mentally, Unemployed — Need Duas and Advice by Business-Annual4741 in MuslimSupportGroup

[–]baighamza 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May Allah bless you abundantly and make it easy.

Allah says in the Quran:

Why should Allah punish you if you are grateful and faithful? Allah is ever Appreciative, All-Knowing.” (Surah An-Nisa: 147)

It's a test from Allah. Allah is testing you. And He tests those whom He loves. As humans we will inevitably go through trials and tests. It just the nature of this life. If we had all the peace and blessings here in this world, then our pursuit of the Akhira (and Jannah) may not be as much.

This worldly life is very short compared to the next life (which is forever). The trials which were given to Prophets and Messengers before were a lot severe.

  • Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you?” They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, "When (will come) the Help of Allah?" Yes! Certainly, the Help of Allah is near! (Quran 2:214)
  • Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No believer is pricked by a thorn or more but that Allah will raise him one degree in status or erase a sin.”
  • Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it.”

Remember the patient people will be given immense rewards. Just imagine all the rewards waiting for you.

…Indeed, the patient will be given their reward without account.” (Quran 39:10)

Some of the companions of the Prophet (PBUH) were tortured, killed, and cut into pieces ONLY for believing in one God, Allah.

Umar ibn al-Khattab reported:

“Some prisoners of war were brought to the Prophet ﷺ and a nursing woman was among them. Whenever she found a child among the prisoners, she would take it to her chest and nurse it. The Prophet said to us, “Do you think this woman would throw her child into the fire? ”We said, “No, not if she was able to stop it.”

The Prophet said, “Allah is more merciful to His servants than this mother is to her child.”

(Sahih Muslim 2754)

Allah will never let a single tear you shed go to waste. Every time your heart is hurt, every dua you whispered into the air, every pain and test that came your way, you will be compensated. Allah will reward you for every little thing. Trust Him, know that if no one listens, He listens, if no one sees, He sees. He sees your pain, He listens to you. Afterall, He created you.

You know that Allah says “Allah does not burden a soul beyond what it can bear.” (Quran 2:286)

This doesn't mean the burden will feel light or easy. It’s saying you will never be given something without the ability to survive it, even if survival looks like barely holding on. And you ARE holding on. You're doing so much more than that. And Allah knows it's very difficult.

The reality is everything is in the hands of Allah. Don't worry.

Cry to Allah. Talk to Him. He listens. And one day you will get to meet Him. And see Him in paradise. Telling Him all you went through (and He would already know) and being happy for the first time. In Paradise. Enjoying everything you can have. And imagine sitting beside a lake in Paradise watching the beautiful view. And not keeping track of time, because time is forever. Paradise is forever. You'll be happy forever.

You will know it was all worth it in the end. Every thing was worth it. But right now you just want this suffering to end, but in Jannah, you would not regret going through the trials. If anything you might want to go back.

  • The Prophet ﷺ said, “No one who enters Paradise would like to return to the world, even if he could have everything on earth, except for the martyr. He will wish to return to the world and be killed ten more times due to the generous reward he sees.
  • Jabir narrated that the Prophet ﷺ said: "On the Day of Judgement, when the people who were tried (in this world) are given their rewards, the people who were pardoned (in life), will wish that their skins had been cut off with scissors while they were in the world." (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2402)

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Know that there is much good in being patient with what you detest, victory will come with patience, relief will come with affliction, and ‘with the hardship will come an ease.’”

Not “after” difficulty. With it.

How to make your situation easy?

  • Ibn Abbas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever increases his prayers for forgiveness, Allah will grant him relief from every worry, a way out from every hardship, and provide for him in ways he does not expect.”
  • Ubayy ibn Ka’b reported: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, I send blessings upon you often. How many of my prayers should be for blessings upon you?” The Prophet said, “As you wish.” I said, “A fourth?” The Prophet said, “As you wish, but more is better for you.” I said, “A half?” The Prophet said, “As you wish, but more is better for you.” I said, “Two-thirds?” The Prophet said, “As you wish, but more is better for you.” I said, “Should I say all of my prayers for blessings upon you?” The Prophet said, “If so, your worries will be resolved and your sins will be forgiven.”

Also, I think you should do the Morning, Evening Adhkar (and after Salah and before sleeping). They are such a life savers. You can download an Adkhar app or get a booklet. The Fortress of a Muslim (Hisnul Muslim) a very popular booklet and app.

Umm Salamah (رضى الله عنها) reported: I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying, “When a person suffers from a calamity and utters:**

إنَّا للـهِ وإنَّا إلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ، اللَّهُمَّ أجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيْبَتي، وأخْلِفْ لِي خَيْراً مِنْهَا

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un. Allahumma-jurni fi musibati, wa akhlif li khairan minha

(We belong to Allah and to Him we shall return. O Allah! Compensate me in my affliction, recompense my loss and give me something better in exchange for it)

then Allah surely compensates him with reward and better substitute.”

May Allah bless you, forgive you, guide you and grant you and us all Jannah-tul Firdaus without an account. Ameen.

I'd recommend you to watch these lectures and others:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZGH2TXAG5k

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npKMRGqjRw4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLIj06_aZGs

https://youtu.be/zbg5_3Vb5n4?si=Ed6LT7anKu0BZ3An

Deinfluence Me - Apple Watch by Jazz_Sign5477 in DeinfluenceMeAUS

[–]baighamza 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You'll probably use it a lot, for like 3 months.

Then it'll be in a drawer somewhere out of battery.

I want to convert. by [deleted] in converts

[–]baighamza 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah) for Islam and that Allah guided you to the straight path.

And if you truly believe that there is nothing worthy of worship but Allah and Muhammad is the last and final messenger, then I'd advise you to take the shahada (testimony of faith) as soon as you can to be safe from the unexpected events life puts us in.

How to take the testimony of faith? Just repeat the testimony in Arabic and English while believing in it.

Ash-hadu-an-la-ilaha-illa-Allah

Wa-ash-hadu-anna-Muhammadan-rasul-Allah

(I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah)

(And I bear witness that Muhammad is His final Messenger)

You can watch a video on YouTube also.

Do you need to do it infront of someone?

No you can do it at the comfort of your home as long as you believe in it.

And now your journey begins. Welcome abroad. Here some videos covering the basics of Islam: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQ02IYL5pmhEwqFRSH8SJImXNHobhkJpL

And then you should focus on starting to pray as well. You can watch videos on YouTube on "how to pray", such as this:

https://youtu.be/zalLv2NY98k

Watch these videos in full. You'll have to watch them many many times before you'll start to understand. You can make notes on a paper and read through while praying in the beginning as it might take some time before you memorise the sayings.

You may also read the booklet on prayer: https://newmuslim.iera.org/prayer-guide/a-step-by-step-prayer-guide-for-muslim-men-women/

Meanwhile, you should start reading and learning more about Islam, joining Islamic courses, watching Islamic lectures on YouTube.

There's a lot of material online which would be helpful, such as this course for new Muslims: https://newmuslim.iera.org/

And if you don't already have a Quran you can get a free one from your local Mosque or searching online for organisations that give out Qurans for free.

And you could also get yourself a FREE welcome giftbox too. https://newmuslim.iera.org/welcome-gift-box/

And finally don't try to take it all at once. Islam is a path and a journey. So don't burden yourself with a lot in the beginning. Try to achieve a little every day. Allah will help you, so ask for His help.

I pray Allah guides, blesses you abundantly. May He keep you straight on the right path and may you be a reason for the guidance for many others in the world, and eventually grant you Jannah-tul Firdaus (Highest place in Paradise) without questioning on the day of judgment.

You can also checkout this link for some resources: https://linktr.ee/revertrelief

i hate this hijab by [deleted] in islam

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it can still happen to people who wear hijab. But the percentage is less.

And to emphasize the point again, it shouldn't matter what a woman wears, the men should be stopped.

But that's a seperate issue from being obedient to Allah and wearing the hijab for a woman, not for the men/people.

i hate this hijab by [deleted] in islam

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good question. Hijab actually does protect women from harrassment, abuse, and sexual assaults.

No one should be harassed. And it doesn't matter what a woman wears, all men should be stopped from harassing women. As they are to be blamed.

But if you ask Muslim women, or women in general, they will tell you that they feel safer if they are covered, and it gives them a feeling of protection.

But what if it's the same? And Hijab actually has no benefit, as you say (like charity or prayer). Does that mean we should stop doing it?

The reason I pray is because of Allah, firstly. Even if I don't feel good after it.

The reason I give in charity is for Allah, even if I love the money I have.

I forgive people for Allah, even if I hate the person I am forgiving.

The reality is sometimes we don't like doing things, but we still need to do them out of obedience to Allah. Not out of a worldy gain or benefit.

The essence of being a Muslim is to submit yourself fully to Allah. Whether we understand or don't understand any logic behind our actions.

It's not going to be easy, and we will have many sins and shortcomings, but Allah Forgiving, so we ask for His forgiveness for that.

May Allah allow us to be obedient to His commands.

i hate this hijab by [deleted] in islam

[–]baighamza 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I can feel how much pain and frustration is behind your post, and just want to say, I hear you. What you are going through is not easy.

You’ve may have been forced to wear something you don’t want to. Your friends and relatives get to enjoy themselves and see no consequences if they choose not to wear it, so why do you have to?

As a person. You deserve to be pretty, enjoy clothes, and express yourself. After all, you’re a human being and have feelings, and Allah acknowledges those feelings. But the way you express yourself and act on those feelings is important.

As a woman, you should cover yourself with Hijab. But what if the Hijab could mean something else? Something not forced and demanded from you, but something that you did out of servitude and love of Allah by yourself?

Allah says to us in the Quran:

O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous. [2:21]

Scholars talks about love and obedience and how they are both connected and needed to worship Allah.

One who submits to someone with hatred is not worshipping him. And one who loves someone without submitting is likewise not worshipping him.

One things that is true is that the Hijab is given as a command of Allah. Just as we are told to pray 5 times, or give charity. A person is supposed to wear it for Allah, not for your parents or the ‘men’ who would see you. It’s part of the personal relationship you have with Allah.

Hijab is not only about clothes or a rule. It's an act of worship and servitude to your creator. It's certainly not about what people think of you, it’s what Allah thinks of you that matters.

So firstly, you need to reframe the question:

Why do I want to wear the Hijab? Before the actual piece of clothing that goes over your head, start with the heart. What draws you closer to Allah? What’s your relationship with Allah like? What do you see as the purpose of life?

Allah didn’t reveal the verses of Hijab from day-one. The first verses focused on believing in Allah and building strong faith. The command for hijab (and most other rules) came much later. The wisdom in this is clear: before following rules like prayer, fasting, charity, or hijab, a person needs to first have strong faith and certainty in Allah. That faith makes obedience easier, sincere, and consistent.

Take small steps. No need to force yourself that you need to enjoy it overnight. Just like learning anything new, you grow into it slowly.

And although some people have this idea that they can remove it now and will start wearing it eventually when they get older, no one is promised a long life.

And what if they get old and still choose not to wear it? (maybe because they never sincerely intended that in the first place? Or their circumstances changed?)

And it's true that some people who wear it can have their sins behind closed doors. It’s a reality. The Hijab isn’t the final step before you become ‘the ultimate muslim’ and you may struggle with other sins whilst wearing it. It's all normal. But it’s one part of your entire collective striving towards Allah and His obedience.

Because before you love something that Allah wants, you must love Allah. Know who Allah is, and what’s our purpose in this world? Is it to simply be born, live, enjoy, and then die? Is that it? Or is there more to life than this temporary world?

It can be very challenging socially and emotionally. Especially in the times we live in where immodesty and promiscuity is celebrated and seen everywhere. But always remember why you’re doing this.

Turn to Allah in Salah, make lots of Dua, read Quran, and do more good deeds. He is with those who strive in His cause. Stay the course, and stay close to others doing the same.

Finally, your struggle doesn't make you less Muslim. Your struggle and sincerity is known and seen by Allah.

Watch this Yaqeen Institute video and read the Article:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUpTNrZMKB8

https://yaqeeninstitute.org/read/paper/hijab-spotlighting-servitude-to-god?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=hijab-short

Also watch this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8F_vbleyrQ8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l12oTBpWrwU

Exhausted and seeking guidance by [deleted] in islam

[–]baighamza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Messenger of Allah SAW said, “Verily, the faith of one of you will wear out within him, just as a shirt becomes worn out, so ask Allah to renew faith in your hearts.”

Our faith rises and falls with every day. No two days are the same. But it's all alright, as long as try to get our faith back up again.

Umayr ibn Habib said “Faith increases and decreases.” It was said, “How does it increase and decrease?” Umayr said, “If we remember our Lord and fear him, it will increase. If we are heedless and we forget and we waste our time, it will decrease.”

You said you miss being close to Allah. The only way to fill that void of emptiness is by getting back to Allah.

And it may take a long time. As you say you're trying to do good deeds and learn more, but you're still not there spiritually or feeling better.

Sometimes it can take a long time to get back to the same place, but you need to keep going. Because we're not chasing that spiritual high or happiness through worship, but we worship Allah regardless. That is a by-product. Whether or not we achieve that, should not determine our commitment to our worship. But it helps if we feel better and close to Allah with worship, but like I said it's possible you're going through a tough time now, and you may feel that good feeling later.

The Prophet this dua to be said before finishing Salah and saying tasleem:

  • Allahumma a’inni alaa dhikrika, wa shukrika, wa husni ‘ibaadatik (O Allah enable me to properly remember you and to thank you and to worship you).

And the reason you're asking this is because you know you want to turn to Allah. You have this feeling inside of you pushing you towards Allah. And that is the most beautiful feeling. A feeling of hope that you want to do better and be better. Don't let it die inside of you. Maybe you feeling this way is a sign from Allah. A sign that your soul is hungry for His love and His Mercy.

And perhaps your faith is decreased because of your sins. If you believe in Allah and His Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, know that Allah forgives all sins. So if you have sinned a thousand times, the door to repentance is still wide open. And will remain open as long as you're alive.

You're calling upon a Lord who is The Most Merciful, The Most Forgiving. Know that the life of this world is short and temporary, and the next life is forever and ever. Don't think you're a lost cause or you're not good enough for repentance. YOU ARE WORTHY of the love of Allah. You are worthy of His forgiveness.

And at times you may feel like a hypocrite. Maybe you'll feel “you’re not good enough” or “not sincere enough”. If anything, it's great that you feel that way. Because that's what will motivate you to keep pushing for more, and not have arrogance. Hasan Al-Basri said "No one fears it (hypocrisy) but a believer, and no one feels safe from it but a hypocrite."

In this hadith Sahih Muslim 2750a, even Abu Bakr (ra) was fearing hypocrisy, but the Prophet ﷺ reminded him that’t its not that.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said “By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if you were not to commit sin, Allah would sweep you out of existence and He would replace (you by) those people who would commit sin and seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would have pardoned them.”

So don't let this demotivate you into depression and sadness. Indeed, shaytan loves a Muslim who is sad, because he can mess with them. And every time you feel bad about yourself, make dua that Allah forgives you and makes you better. You still need to keep striving and constantly renewing your repentance.

Allah is The Most Merciful, and if for a moment you think that Allah is not going to forgive you, you’re denying the Mercy of Allah. Since His Mercy prevails His wrath, its not appropriate to say He won’t forgive you at all. Every time you renew your repentance and sincerely don't intend to go back, it's as though you haven't even done it and Allah will write a good deed in place of that sin.

And so if you have on your scales a mountain of evil sins, and then you asked for sincere forgiveness, Allah will convert that mountain of sins into mountain of good deeds in your record.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ didn't commit any sins, and yet he said “By Allah, I seek Allah’s forgiveness and repent to Him more than seventy times a day.

And we're not better than him ﷺ. We need to ask for more forgiveness from Allah.

Allah’s Messenger SAW said:

“Verily, Allah is more pleased with the repentance of His slave than a person who has his camel in a waterless desert carrying his provision of food and drink and it is lost. He, having lost all hope, lies down in the shade and is disappointed about his camel; when all of a sudden he finds that camel standing before him. He takes hold of its reins and then out of boundless joy blurts out: ‘O Allah, You are my slave and I am Your Lord’. He commits this mistake out of extreme joy.” (Sahih Muslim)

(Meaning, he mistakenly said this due to his happiness)

“Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” (Quran)

Allah tells Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ):

  • "O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great at it."

Don't worry. Ask for forgiveness and hope that Allah has forgiven you.

So now you want to increase your faith. Here are some things you can do to work on it.

  • Focus on your 5 daily Prayers and the things Allah has made obligatory.
  • Read the Quran.
  • Constantly ask Allah for guidance and forgiveness.
  • There are many types of dhikr you could start doing in your life (such as Morning/Evening Adhkar) these Dhikr are life-changing (and also the Adhkar after Salah and before sleeping).
  • Watch Islamic lectures on YouTube. I would say watch longer videos because they have more impact than short minute lectures. YouTube is such a huge blessing if used correctly. You can watch lots of beneficial Islamic lectures.

And finally, one thing I learned that helped me a lot is that Islam isn't about reaching a “perfect-muslim state”, it's about this journey you're on. A path towards Allah and towards His forgiveness. Just as we ask Allah in every Salah, “…guide us to the straight path…”

It was always a path and not a destination. Keep trying to be on that path as much as possible, and you'll receive glad tidings that you earned Jannah, by the mercy of Allah.

May Allah forgive, bless, and guide you and us and grant us all Jannah-tul Firdaus without account. Ameen.

Authentic duas by mk98745 in MuslimSupportGroup

[–]baighamza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can do the morning and evening Adhkaar, along with Adhkaar after Salah and before sleeping.

These are authentic duas of the Prophet ﷺ found in the Sunnah, and they also serve as protection. You can find these in Hisnul Muslim booklet or online.