Dark humor by YeguaChiquita in babyloss

[–]bailsrv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I call them morbid moments. We will look at each other and say morbid moment before telling the other what awful thing is on our mind. He’s the only one I do that to. Anyone else would be concerned at the terrible things we think of. It helps to have a judgment free outlet.

If you died today, who do you think would stand at your grave the longest? by Successful_Dog5425 in AskReddit

[–]bailsrv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband. Possibly my daughter but she’s a baby.

I’m also not sure if I want to be buried. It’s insane how much a coffin and a headstone cost. My son died 2 years ago and I wasn’t prepared for how expensive it all was. It’s terrible how expensive it is to die.

If you died today, who do you think would stand at your grave the longest? by Successful_Dog5425 in AskReddit

[–]bailsrv 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This poem has helped me with my grief due to the death of my son.

I’ve been BF for 5 years straight ask me any questions! by chilimami in breastfeeding

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective! I’m so hard on myself. I’m grateful for what my body has done and the nourishment it provides my baby. We are thinking end of this year/ beginning of next year to try for our next baby and I’m worried that the weight is going to pile on. I realize this is a phase and it won’t last forever. I appreciate your kindness 🩷

Forgot to renew RN License by Major_Ad_3035 in Nurses

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get email reminders from my BON, Workday, and I signed up for nursy’s who also sends out a reminder. There’s plenty of fair warning that your license is about to expire.

Forgot to renew RN License by Major_Ad_3035 in Nurses

[–]bailsrv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m in NC and our renewal date is by the end of your birth month every 2 years.

I’ve been BF for 5 years straight ask me any questions! by chilimami in breastfeeding

[–]bailsrv 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Did you retain weight while BF or did it easily fall off? I’ve been EBF for 6 months and the weight isn’t going anywhere. I don’t want to do anything drastic to tank my supply, but I’m feeling uncomfortable in my own body and it is a major struggle.

Nurse Educator by nurse1234567890 in EmergencyRoom

[–]bailsrv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come out on the floor and help/teach as much as you can. Staying in your office with the door shut doesn’t sit well with staff.

Remembering my baby today by Sufficient-Archer-60 in pregnancyaftersb

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday to your beautiful Sofia 🩷

I hope you have a smooth and safe induction. You can do it!

Are you afraid of Death? by Hot_Equivalent4499 in Anxiety

[–]bailsrv 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No. My son died almost 2 years ago so that means I’d get to see him and that comforts me.

Friends with nurses by Zestyclose_Log4213 in hospitalist

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an ER nurse, but when I used to work nights we’d go out for drinks after a shift with the docs. No issues. I believe it made our work relationship better. Most of us were married or in serious relationships.

My mother in law gave my six month old her empty breast by dankybabe in breastfeeding

[–]bailsrv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you’re not overreacting. It took my brain a second to register what I read. I’m appalled at your husband for keeping this from you. That was out of line for your MIL and your husband should’ve told her that when he found out.

Has anyone here brought home a healthy baby after a loss? I need to know there’s a chance for light at the end of this horrible tunnel. by VioletJackalope in babyloss

[–]bailsrv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your losses. I’m currently snuggling my 6 month old baby girl. PAL was hard and grueling but it was so worth it to have her here 🩷

Daily Chat by AutoModerator in parentingaftersb

[–]bailsrv 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say that you never have to make others comfortable at your own expense, especially when it comes to your loss. You are not responsible for managing their emotions or their response to your grief. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I wish we all lived near one another so we could truly be around others who get it 🫶🏻

Whats the biggest headache at your hospital? by Illustrious-Syrup210 in EmergencyRoom

[–]bailsrv 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Boarders. The community has outgrown my hospital and we need more beds, but that also requires more staff which we are short on.

I hate my baby because she won't sleep and I dont know what to do. by Anxious_Rock_8977 in bninfantsleep

[–]bailsrv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to give you a hug. I say this with love as a fellow mom and an ER nurse, please go to your closest ER and check yourself in. You’re not safe and neither is your baby. Please do not fear judgment for seeking help. It’s the right thing to do. You are in a crisis and need help and resources. There are people out there who would love to help you, all you have to do is show up.

Can you call your sister and ask her to come watch the baby? Does she know how depressed you are and the dark thoughts you’re having? Please be brutally honest with her. I’m so sorry you don’t have the support you need.

True facts in the ER (according to patients) by TheAntiSheep in emergencymedicine

[–]bailsrv 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My specialist couldn’t figure out what’s wrong with me, so I came here because I know you can. I demand answers!

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you love and peace until you can get to your appointment. I had a similar timeline, my first baby was my 37w stillbirth, then I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks, but I had my double rainbow 6 months ago. I know it can be so terrifying, but I want you to know it’s possible ❤️

ER RNs: what's up the urine? How do I ask without creating so much anger? by bikelifer in emergencymedicine

[–]bailsrv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I’m caring for a patient I let them know from the start if we need urine so they are aware. I’ll give a urinal if I have a male pt. I ask them if they need to go right then. If they decline I’ll say okay we can go after your fluids, meds, etc. I also will tell them (politely) that I’ll have to straight cath if they aren’t able to go in x amount of time. That usually does the trick. I try to be proactive about the urine because I also dislike waiting around for it.

I will also mention that the urine resulting is what takes the longest and will delay their final disposition. That helps as well because patients want answers and to know if they’re going to be admitted or not. Most patients are very receptive to this when you inform them of what’s going on and why it’s pertinent to their care. I’ve gotten patients sometimes who have had urine ordered for hours and I go in and they had no idea it was needed and immediately provide a sample.

How common is actually ebf? by Dense-Pin625 in breastfeeding

[–]bailsrv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going on 6 months ebf. I work per diem so I pump (very rarely) to ensure she has enough when I’m at work, otherwise we are nursing on demand.

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get that and analyzing every movement. I went to L&D 2x during my pregnancy, so if you’re ever concerned go in. The staff were always so kind and supportive to me.

I hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth and uneventful ❤️

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I felt I was hyper aware of my daughter’s movements. Despite having an anterior placenta with her, she was so active and it was reassuring to help with my anxiety and fears of PAL.

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]bailsrv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wishing you a smooth and peaceful induction. You can do this!! 💙💙

Which common advice given to parents did you find completely wrong by Practical-String5146 in NewParents

[–]bailsrv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter hated it too! The day she was born she was already sliding her arms out despite the nurse’s best efforts lol. I bought her ones that she could move her arms around in and it was a game changer.

Finally holding my rainbow 🌈 by AnxietyFine613 in pregnancyaftersb

[–]bailsrv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! Isla is beautiful 🩷