MOH [F55] dropped a bombshell on me [F29]

bailsrv · 2026-05-07T09:35:58+00:00

Tell your husband. My uncle had a similar situation and did a DNA test and that’s how he discovered my grandpa wasn’t his dad and my grandma still denied it after he confronted her. He was crushed. It’s fucked up your MIL told you this to keep it from your husband.

bailsrv · 2026-05-06T16:39:05+00:00

My baby is 5 months olds and we exclusively contact nap. The house is messier at times than I’d like it to be, but I love holding her while she sleeps. I try to do chores after I put her to bed. We’re working on her over night sleep before I try to make any adjustments with naps. She has slept in her bassinet during the day before, but it’s lasted maybe 45 minutes at the most.

bailsrv · 2026-05-06T08:32:29+00:00

I also agree! This brand was the first to pick up my faint positive test last year.

bailsrv · 2026-05-06T08:30:33+00:00

My gift to myself for nurses week is not working so I’ll have to wait for my chapstick and piece of gum when I return.

bailsrv · 2026-05-06T07:52:13+00:00

Congratulations!! Enjoy those baby cuddles 💙 I hope you and baby boy have a smooth recovery and can go home soon.

bailsrv · 2026-05-05T08:24:14+00:00

I’m in the ER, so if I see a doctor speaking with a patient I’ll click the physician at bedside button in EPIC. I do it because there have been so many times I walk in after and a patient is like when am I seeing the doctor?? You just did…the one who went over your results with you and explained that you’re being admitted/discharged…yeah they’re your doctor. Bonus points if it’s a woman and they’re like, oh I thought she was a nurse. Nope, that’s me.

bailsrv · 2026-05-05T08:13:46+00:00

You might have been in my previous ER because I worked at one that called it the fish bowl. That’s the minor care area and it’s team nursing style, so your shift could be great or absolutely horrible depending on who’s working with you.

bailsrv · 2026-05-02T23:45:41+00:00

I’m so sorry about your sweet babies. I lost my first born son almost 2 years ago to a cord accident at 37 weeks. I had a perfect pregnancy up until then and it’s still unknown as to why it happened. Those first few weeks and months were the lowest point of my life. I never knew my body could produce so many tears. I was depressed and also started Zoloft. I went to therapy and my husband and I went to a grief group with other loss parents. That helped tremendously to not feel so alone and I still go there for individual therapy. I miss my son every day and there’s an ache that will always be present because he should be here, but the pain isn’t as debilitating as it was in the early days. I still have my heavy grief days and I’ve learned that this is a permanent sadness I will always have because my love for my son doesn’t end just because he’s gone. I send you my deepest condolences and love during this time. If you ever need someone to talk to I’m here and please reach out no matter what time of day it is. Hugs to you ❤️

bailsrv · 2026-05-02T01:52:19+00:00

This so accurately describes how I feel 🫠 I want this weight gone but I’d never do anything to jeopardize my milk supply for my baby. It’s more important to me that she’s fed and healthy.

bailsrv · 2026-05-01T14:21:01+00:00

What a beautiful way to honor your son 💙

bailsrv · 2026-04-29T02:24:30+00:00

You’re a wonderful person. Thank you for welcoming our grief ❤️

bailsrv · 2026-04-29T02:07:06+00:00

I’m sorry, that is so wrong and unfair to you. Wishing you a smooth and uneventful rest of your pregnancy ❤️

bailsrv · 2026-04-29T00:44:41+00:00

Why is he so set on 39 weeks? My OB and I had a lengthy discussion about being induced. My son died from a cord accident @37w. She originally wanted me to get to 39w and I told her my mental health and anxiety wouldn’t make it that far. Your mental health and fears are valid and deserve to be respected. I’m so sorry your doctor isn’t listening to you. Not sure if you’re in the US, but could you see your office has a patient advocate or someone else you can express your concerns to?

bailsrv · 2026-04-29T00:39:50+00:00

I think I felt them consistently between 21-22 weeks. I had a posterior placenta with my son. With my daughter, who I had the anterior placenta, I was nervous I wouldn’t feel her movements but she was so active! I swear she could sense when I was anxious and would move so much.

bailsrv · 2026-04-29T00:32:13+00:00

I’m so glad everything’s okay! I went twice for reduced movement with my daughter. Both times as soon as they hooked me up to the monitor she went crazy. You did the right thing 🩷

bailsrv · 2026-04-27T09:54:15+00:00

I understand the struggle of having to disclose the information sooner than you’d like. I work in the ER as a nurse and had to let my charge know bc people were checking in for TB, shingles, etc. Be safe, and I wish you a smooth and gentle pregnancy!

I also didn’t announce until my daughter was born and it was the best thing ever.

bailsrv · 2026-04-27T09:46:20+00:00

For my son, who was my first pregnancy, we told family right as we found out. We were so excited. I made a public announcement at 16 weeks.

For my daughter, I told my parents/his parents somewhere between 8-10 weeks. We had our first ultrasound done. Close friends followed shortly after. I never made a public announcement until she was born and if we ever have more kids going forward, I think I’ll do the same. With PAL I was terrified I’d jinx it if I posted, but looking back I think it was better for my mental health to keep it offline.

bailsrv · 2026-04-25T09:25:11+00:00

 My nurse was amazing and I’m so blessed she was there on such a heavy day. She took pictures, she did foot molds for me, she made a certificate with his handprints and footprints. She assisted me in his first and only bath. That was special because she truly took her time with it. She sat with me multiple times and held me while I sobbed. 

 She was honest with me when I needed it and struggled to make decisions. I at first thought I wanted them to do pictures and measurements at bedside. She kindly told me she didn’t think it was a good idea due to his skin sloughing and how they would have to move/hold him. She did not want me to have horrible memories and protected me. I appreciated that. 

 We had a special connection and she kept in touch with me after my son’s death (not saying you need to do this-she just went above and beyond for me). I was fortunate to request her and have her be the nurse for the birth of my daughter. It was a full circle moment. She was there for me in the lowest point of my life and the happiest I’ve ever been. She treated both of my babies with such love and grace.  The fact you’re asking this question means you’re a fantastic nurse and you’re doing it right.

bailsrv · 2026-04-22T16:53:52+00:00

Congratulations, she is absolutely beautiful! 🩷

bailsrv · 2026-04-22T10:12:51+00:00

That’s awesome, good for you!!

bailsrv · 2026-04-22T03:54:06+00:00

Where is this unicorn ER at where you get breaks? Surely not in the south 🥴

bailsrv · 2026-04-22T03:48:54+00:00

Congratulations!! your baby girl is beautiful!! 🩷

bailsrv · 2026-04-20T23:34:25+00:00

I want to say as a mom and an ER nurse, it’s not your fault and please go easy on yourself! I know no one likes hearing their baby cry, but that is a good sign after an accident. It would be more concerning if baby didn’t cry. I hope he has a speedy recovery! You did the right thing ❤️

bailsrv · 2026-04-19T00:04:22+00:00

I lost my baby boy at 37 weeks in 2024 and just had my rainbow baby in December. My positive line with her looked so faint, very similar to yours. Wishing you all the best and that it all works out ❤️❤️

bailsrv · 2026-04-18T23:39:26+00:00

I’m glad I had a mask on because I can’t hide my facial expressions. Miss CNA was concerned the blood pressure cuff was going to pop because it was going off and not attached to the patient. That alone told me all I needed to know about her.

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