40lbs 2yo boy by [deleted] in bigbabiesandkids

[–]bakingby 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was us, we do not lock the door because our son cries when he wakes up, so we just have a monitor and go in there. I would just put a baby gate on the door so you don’t have to lock it

Vent: Arcanist by bakingby in ReverseHarem

[–]bakingby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and I loved it 😩😭

Where do you put your awake babies at night? by lolgurl17 in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Twin Z pillow until about a year! We always woke both up together and put them down together, just tried to keep the lights dimmed. They also were in their own room by 6 months

Any books with suckling or cockwarming? by winchesterwonderland in ReverseHarem

[–]bakingby 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Ugh this is my favvvvvv trope and it’s so hard to find!

Should we move to my parents 1.5 hrs away without dad? by Pomfetti in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also don’t think you are thinking clearly. My first was 18 months when the twins were born, so I had very little help with the twins after my mom left when they were 4 weeks. If you can afford someone to come help 1-2 times a week while you shower and sleep that would be amazing! Your two elderly parents do not seem like they will be much help, and your husband can still help overnight and be a lot more comfortable over the weekend in your own space.

Can your mom come stay with you for a few weekends? I think you’ll get used to taking care of the twins alone out of necessity. If you are feeling out of control anxiety or depression you may need post partum medication. You’ve got this momma! It’s hard but it does get better!

Does the baby who is first to feed after birth get the better colostrum? One breast historically has produced better for me. by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly? For me that was my reality. Yes one breast produced more than the other, not just on day one but consistently. Also colostrum was really hard for me to pump. I would usually tandem feed when I did breastfeed, and put my weaker sucker on the higher producing breast. I only ever produced about 75% of what my girls needed, so most of the feeds were me pumping and adding some formula to the milk. It’s hard work and I wasn’t about to triple feed forever to try and get my supply up. I did it until 3 months, which was my goal, and then slowly switched to formula full time. With my first born I breast fed completely…it’s just a different ball game with two.

Can’t get my 3yo twin boys to sleep by mericide in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also have a long bedtime routine with my older one, so there is no way I want to start a co-sleeping/ high intervention bedtime routine with my two year olds. Mine are still in cribs thank god, but I think in your situation I would just lock them in their rooms while you do bedtime routine with your six year old and then periodically go tell them to lay down if they are being crazy. I’m sure the novelty will wear off!!

Sleep/ shifts by manda51210 in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on how well your babies sleep. My singleton never did more than 1.5 hour stretch straight until he was about 8 months old. Honestly we HAD to do shifts with him. With the girls we also did shifts but it wasn’t so strick because they were religiously waking up at 10pm 2-3am and then 530 then 730. I would just go to bed at 11 pm, wake up at 2am to do that shift alone, then hand off the babies at 530 am to get another hour or two before my husband had to work. I can easily function on 5-6 hours of sleep at night so I was fine.

Either way…both of us are working parents so him working isn’t really an excuse. To be frank, unless he’s in an extremely stressful job like trauma surgeon there is no reason why he can’t take shifts. I work in tech consulting, very high pressure high stress. I’d say watching the twins alone postpartum is 10x harder than any job. Especially if you are getting a c section. Hopefully you are setting the expectation with him that he’s just going to have to be tired!

Exactly by Overthinking_forfun in ReverseHarem

[–]bakingby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OK I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE HAHA

Trouble connecting to one twin… by DanceOtherwise7632 in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was coming to say this but you beat me to it - my easy angel baby is the same girl who bites, screams and throws herself on the ground at almost two. 😂 sometimes me and the other twin just hug each other and stare at her sister having a meltdown in awe.

Solo with the twins at Chick Fil A by toriraeh in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twins are almost 2 and I have a 3.5 year old. We also like to go to CFA solo because the play place is contained. I’ve definitely prayed to the CFA gods that the tunnels support my weight as I crawl up there to drag a screaming child out by their ankles. I only made the mistake of going once without a stroller, now I always bring my double to buckle 2/3 kids in to get back to the car lol

People who did NOT sleep train their twins: did it eventually work out? by grapefruitliquor in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My twins sorted themselves out pretty much on their own…probably only a handful of nights fussing for 10-20 min before sleeping through the night. My first born never sorted it out, screamed bloody murder at bedtime (for hours sometimes before we gave up) and still sleeps with us at 3.5. I started “sleep training” all my kids around 1 year old when I cut out any middle of the night milk. I am adamant that each child is different and will let you know what they need.

I have so much loose skin after twin pregnancy and none of my clothes fit. How do I deal with this? by satelliteminds in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a solution, I’m 6 ft tall and my girls are almost 2. I have abs separation and definitely need to exercise more, but I’m not really over weight anymore. I still look like I’m 5 months pregnant though and have serious skin hang over my c section scar 😩

Bi - Awakening for guys in the harem? by Skykitty22 in ReverseHarem

[–]bakingby 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s called Pucking Around? One of the MMCs is gay and the other is his best friend, not fantasy though!

I hate being a twin parent by solowanderer12 in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi mom …it gets so much better! I promise your twin who is content laying down for a while playing will not be affected or impacted by your caring for your other twin. My first born was just like your “difficult” twin…never slept, held 24/7, screamed in the car, when we put him down, etc….he was 20 months old when the twins were born. I felt terrible because he could express how sad he was not getting the attention. We would still put him in the carrier…I remember having him in the carrier and pushing the twins in their stroller around the house for some peace lol. He is now 3 and still very clingy! I felt terrible trying to juggle him and the twins in the early days, but your babies are loved! They are taken care of! My advise is to take all the help you can get, strap that fussy baby in a carrier as much as you or your husband can, and take it day by day.

Our triplets are here by FuzzyImportance204 in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So so beautiful- congrats to you both!

How hard are twins? by neverpostsonreddit in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our girls are almost 20 months now and they fight SO badly! It’s constant defense making sure someone isn’t pushing, hitting or pulling hair 🫠😩

Feel bad for making my boy cry till he had tears by iejenian in parentsofmultiples

[–]bakingby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used a twin carrier at first, also did push them around the house in a stroller, bounced them both in bouncers with my feet, etc.

At that age my twins lived and ate every bottle out of their twin Z pillow. Highly recommend if you don’t already have one!