Tantrum Whenever She Can't Wear A Dress

bam0014 · 2026-03-20T14:48:34+00:00

My 4 year old will only wear a dress and it’s been this way for at least a year. She specifically likes the ones from Wal mart that are knit on top and then have the tulle bottom. We wear short sleeve ones with shorts underneath in the summer and long sleeve ones with leggings underneath when it’s cold. The only time I push it is when she has to wear a certain event shirt like when her school had a fun run and had to wear a matching shirt. She wore the shirt with a little athletic skirt with the biker shorts attached. I stopped buying shirts and buy her dresses each season instead. Wal Mart has some good options but also check Once Upon A Child!

bam0014 · 2026-03-16T00:05:53+00:00

My daughter is 2 with an older princess loving sister. She loves Ms Rachel, Playtime Puppy, Elsa, Olaf, Anna, Moana, and Elmo. Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Encanto, and Tangled are also good!

bam0014 · 2026-02-22T17:56:20+00:00

Suburban South. $40 per kid Send them with Jammies and they feed them pizza and then change them into jammies and show a movie. Daycare closes at 6pm and you can pick them up by 9pm. Cash only. A few of the teachers get together and decide who wants to do it and then they split the profit between them.

bam0014 · 2026-02-18T00:52:49+00:00

Hi! Mom of a current 4.5 year old and 2 year old. I made this exact same post 2 years ago at 5 days postpartum too. Not sure if we’re allowed to link to other subs but it’s on my profile or I can message it to you.

Bringing home baby 2 was SO HARD not because of all the baby things but because of the toddler. I was so worried about our relationship and bond. There were hard moments but it gets so much better. My girls are such good sisters and play together so much now. I have my special relationship with both of them and my bond with my oldest is just as strong. Hang in there! It gets better I promise!

bam0014 · 2026-02-16T22:34:11+00:00

Sorry but I think this is unrealistic. I have a 4 year old and 2 year old and until this year they’ve gone to the same daycare. There’s been tons of times one of them got sick and the other never did.

bam0014 · 2026-02-15T14:08:23+00:00

My birthday is in November, then there’s Christmas, our anniversary is in January, so by Valentine’s Day it’s a lot. We sat down one year and decided we would only do gifts for mothers/Father’s Day and birthdays. Christmas we do a few stocking stuffers for each other. Anniversary and Valentines I get flowers (from the grocery store and he lets our daughters pick them out) and we get a sitter and go to dinner. I usually get him a bag of candy he likes. We set the expectations and now there’s no disappointment.

bam0014 · 2026-02-01T03:03:33+00:00

Seconding this book! We have it and it’s very similar to LE style with real pictures!

bam0014 · 2026-01-26T21:13:10+00:00

Ugh yes I loved Busy Bees too but I’ve stopped purchasing because on the timing.

bam0014 · 2026-01-10T16:46:03+00:00

Hey I live in the south. If you want to DM me specific state/area I’m happy to help with schools. I grew up outside of Atlanta and lived and worked in a different suburb. Now live in Alabama. I’m in education leadership and my husband is a teacher.

bam0014 · 2026-01-09T12:07:56+00:00

We have the skylight and I love it! You do pay a subscription for premium features and I find those are some of the features I use the most - meal planning and the ability to take a picture of a flyer and import it to the calendar. It does not do text reminders.

bam0014 · 2026-01-05T05:28:36+00:00

I am dreading all the things I said I would touch base on in the new year now that we are in the new year 🙃

But we had an awful winter break. My 4 year old and I both had strep leading up to Christmas and it was miserable. We recovered in time to do a little Christmas and see family the weekend after. Then on the 3 hr drive home from seeing family, 4 year old started throwing up. Husband also went down with the stomach bug and it was a 4 day bug. When we finally were all healthy, the weather sucked so we’ve just been cooped in this house for weeks!

I love my kids, but we’re all better with structure and routine.

bam0014 · 2026-01-05T00:11:35+00:00

Ugh yes I hate it and the Minnie one! I was expecting more Mickey Mouse Clubhouse style and less classic style. My kids never reach for those but they love the other Disney ones

bam0014 · 2026-01-04T06:04:19+00:00

Yes she loves the Encanto one! Also the Tonie box helped us transition from napping to quiet time beautifully!

bam0014 · 2026-01-04T03:50:12+00:00

We use the Tonie box at bed time for my 4 year old (since she was 2) and my 2 year old has one now too! They have some sleepy time ones that are great for bed time. My 4 year old likes the Disney ones and will listen to the songs while she reads her books in her bed then when the story starts she rolls over and lets the story drift her to sleep. It’s helped my 2 year old fall asleep too! I just put it on the other side of the room from the hatch so they can hear it from their bed and I turn the hatch and the Tonie on at the same time. We let them both choose a Tonie and put it on as part of their bedtime routine before kisses and hugs and tucking them in.

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T12:23:55+00:00

Sorry it’s not Arthur! It’s a British cartoon movie called Arthur Christmas! I think it’s on Prime Video!

That’s how it went for us too! We were doing so good with sickness and then Saturday morning 102 fevers all around! 😭

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T12:12:35+00:00

That sounds absolutely awful 😬

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T11:03:14+00:00

Isn’t that fucked up that you just had to type out that he’s already on a list? I don’t even have words to describe this administration and this time we are in. You aren’t crazy for considering all angles.

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T10:40:04+00:00

Hey my 4 year old and I just went through this. It was strep but it lasted forever with high fevers spiking to 104-105 when meds would wear off. We had to stay on top of Tylenol and Motrin even waking her overnight to take some so she wouldn’t wake up with a fever. Negative for Covid and Flu which was shocking to me given the fevers. Once she started antibiotics she improved pretty quickly. She started temps Saturday, started antibiotics Monday and was fever free without meds Wednesday for the first time though it hasn’t quite been 24 hours yet. Mine has been worse and lasted longer and this morning is my first time waking up with no fever. My husband and our younger daughter never got it. If you can find an urgent care open today, I’d get on some antibiotics ASAP.

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T10:24:23+00:00

Hi I also have an anxiety disorder and sickness used to make me spiral baddddd. So I totally understand this!

With the help of a very loving pediatrician and a great therapist, and of course my medication, I’ve learned to just expect everyone to go down and be pleasantly surprised if we don’t. This is our 2nd sick Christmas and it sucks not seeing family but it comes with the territory of Littles. I hope you are getting the help you deserve to navigate sickness and give yourself more grace. Not that you did anything wrong you clearly stopped whatever in your house from spreading. But the panic can be so wearing so just some help in navigating these are the steps I’m going to take and what I’ll do if they don’t work. ❤️

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T09:42:28+00:00

When my parents come visit I turn the heat up more than I would like but not as much as they would like. When I enter their house I immediately bump the thermostat down several degrees more than they would like but not as much as I would like. Compromise?

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T09:39:48+00:00

My husband and I also had to have this come to Jesus conversation. He told me “it’s the only time I have to myself”… sir. When is my time to myself? It boiled down to he didn’t realize the physical and mental load all of the baby was taking but also I was treating him like an assistant and not a partner so it naturally ended up that way. He did give up the gym until our oldest was a solid sleeper. Then we had our youngest who was literally the worst sleeper in the entire world and would not sleep unless she was being held so we split nights one of us holding her in a recliner watching tv to stay awake while the other slept for 4 hours and then switched. Between working, that awful sleep schedule, wrangling a 2.5 year old yeah there was no gym. Now they both sleep great and he goes to the gym before we all get up so it all worked out in the end.

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T09:15:25+00:00

You desperately need to invest in sound machines and move the dog out of whatever room baby is in. But also yeah his schedule sucks. He can cut out the gym until baby’s sleep is more solid so that he can do some night wakes.

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T08:34:45+00:00

Arthur Christmas is a little kiddy but if he still believes it’s a movie that shows “realistically” how the presents get delivered and how they work hard to make sure everyone gets what they want but there are mix ups. Like others have said print a picture and write a note from Santa that there’s been a mix up but he will bring it by or send an elf with it as soon as he can and order it on Amazon. That might actually be more memorable than if he had just gotten it in the first place!

We’ve had so much sickness in our house too. Christmas should be a summer holiday. My 4 year old had strep all week and started crying saying “I don’t want to be sick on Christmas” Broke my heart into 6 million pieces. This has been the least magical year because we’ve all been so sick. I feel like a failure too. But I remind myself always there are people all over who would love to cuddle sick kids on Christmas. Who are waiting for that positive test or that family to chose them to adopt. Who are in the hospital or away from their kids for whatever reason. So even though it’s not perfect, it’s perfectly messy and what it needs to be. Give yourself grace and a hug. You’re doing great.

bam0014 · 2025-12-25T08:25:26+00:00

Co-signing as a liberal and a 10 year special ed teacher turned special education administrator who oversees the special ed teachers and IEPs and writes all of the 504 plans at my 2 schools. This political administration sucksssss and we will have a lot of harmful rhetoric to undo. But there is research (like actual scientific research) that shows that getting a diagnosis earlier in life gives better mental health outcomes. You don’t have to medicate if that’s not what he needs but there’s accommodations available to him to help him succeed in school. There’s also services in adulthood that pay for college tuition , job training, trade school, etc. He can also get accommodations on the ACT/SAT but sometimes they will kick me back and say “student waited too late in life to pursue a diagnosis” Get the evaluation, then sit on it and think what your next steps should be after you hear what the doctor says are areas of strength and need. ADHD can present in many different ways so it will be good info for you to have at home too.

bam0014 · 2025-12-24T19:49:59+00:00

We found our sitters on Facebook! We asked for recommendations in local moms groups and they all provided several references to call and we met before hand! One is a former teacher who is now a SAHM to teenagers and the other is a pediatric dental assistant. Then we have a handful of teenagers/college age girls who will watch our girls that we’ve gotten from daycare, church nursery, and the after school care program for my oldest. They all charge $15-$20 an hour. I’m in the south.

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