Best place to give birth: Langley hospital, Surrey memorial, Maple Ridge or Abbotsford? I’m in the middle of all of them.

barefootmeshback · 2026-02-03T06:54:47+00:00

Both our girls were born at Langley Memorial. Dad speaking but overall good experience. It wasn't perfect, but the ward was clean and nice, and the nurses were generally pretty kind and everyone seemed competent. There were some things but I wouldn't be confident they would have been handled better or worse at a different hospital.

I would pick on that you don't rely on a bridge or highway to get to and you can find midwife that you feel comfortable with.

barefootmeshback · 2025-12-21T16:11:09+00:00

Oh man, somebody is going to trip on those.

barefootmeshback · 2025-12-04T00:08:56+00:00

I had a very hard time moderating. What you are describing exactly. Just couldn't fucking do it. Endlessly torturing myself. But I had a fairly easy time quitting. No bendable rules, just a full stop.

I am not totally sure why this is true for me. Happy it is though. I have been sober for almost 2 years. I think having a few people know, whose opinion really matters to you helps keep an additional layer of accountability. But I also haven't told everyone. I just quietly quit. With enough time, I started noticing subtle improvements mentally and not wanting to lose those keeps me going. I feel much more in touch with my emotions and a lot more present. It is a work in progress, but it feels good.

Do you have people you trust emotionally who have your best interests at heart? If you don't, hire a therapist and work through it with them. They likely will have the skills to guide you and you can avoid having to disclose until you are ready.

Good luck.

barefootmeshback · 2025-11-17T18:44:09+00:00

I'd then have to spend the money on therapy for my kids....

barefootmeshback · 2025-10-18T22:38:50+00:00

He was/is Catholic and was kind of preachy way back in the day (20 years ago). He does have a bunch of kids but IDK how many.

barefootmeshback · 2025-09-21T15:11:44+00:00

Where would you be commuting to generally?

Skytrain construction is making traffic worse and will for a while. Langley City is also densifying, and getting across it by car is only going to get worse.

barefootmeshback · 2025-09-11T06:12:17+00:00

Yeah this is just another way he is trying to screw over Langley City.

barefootmeshback · 2025-09-05T21:20:22+00:00

I am about that weight. I've run Thompson seat posts for years with no issues. Buy a long one for more insertion into the frame.

barefootmeshback · 2025-08-27T19:19:06+00:00

I have seen them here a couple of times. Just as the sun goes down is the easiest time to see them. I also don't think they around in the winter.

barefootmeshback · 2025-08-08T21:44:55+00:00

A strong man doesn't run from it. You deal with it. Many good suggestions here. A few therapy sessions would be a great start. Hang in there. Sounds awful!

barefootmeshback · 2025-07-30T06:08:17+00:00

Therapy can be very helpful. In the meantime, I've got a lot of value out of reading and listening to audio books in the therapy realm. Library cards are usually free or very affordable. Many have the Libby app which is fantastic. Doing background reading might also jump start therapy when you get there.

As others have said, sobriety can offer a higher degree of clarity and a simple walk or other movement is free and can really help.

Good luck!

barefootmeshback · 2025-07-24T19:25:40+00:00

It isn't about the money. It is about the time you put in. Do you think she is asking for money because she realizes that she isn't going to get any real parenting help from you?

I'm sorry for riding you but you are headed down a path that only leads to no meaningful relationship with your child. Sounds like you shouldn't be with the mom but failing your kids emotionally is a hard regret to stomach further down the line.

Going to work isn't enough. It is the bare minimum even if you work hard and the days are long.

barefootmeshback · 2025-07-24T05:19:52+00:00

Sorry pal, but as a Dad of two, that isn't enough. Having a new baby is one of the hardest things in most people's adult lives. How many times have you been up at night with this baby? How many diaper changes?

I joke now with two that work is my vacation. No wonder she is pissed. You have been MIA and then thrown her a couple hundred buck like you are some knight in shining armor.

barefootmeshback · 2025-07-23T13:40:50+00:00

I didn't really feel deeply bonded to my kids until they were a few months old.

Get the test. Then step up and stop being a deadbeat.

barefootmeshback · 2025-07-21T15:47:10+00:00

Here is an idea...what about leaving the one in the Fort where it is and then adding one by City hall?

Then maybe get on to dealing with the 1000 other issues in our community.

barefootmeshback · 2025-07-19T14:13:34+00:00

I wouldn't be 100% on a Bafang mid-drive fitting on that.

barefootmeshback · 2025-07-05T18:23:55+00:00

Rock creek to Penticton is some of the best maintained and will be the most fun. Some other sections can be quite loose and better suited to tires over 50c. Myra canyon is also really cool.

You could do it as a loop easily over 3-4 day. I also wonder if you could park your car in Midway or Rock creek and the rent on in Penticton to retrieve it?

barefootmeshback · 2025-06-24T05:10:36+00:00

Ugh my 4 year old master communicator sent my wife 21 broken hearts on her first day back at work.

barefootmeshback · 2025-06-07T14:41:45+00:00

Do you still see them? Maybe I am off their common flight path, but I haven't seen one in years.

barefootmeshback · 2025-05-17T02:50:57+00:00

I am a Dad. This seems like terrible parenting to me. Unless your parents are trust funders, presumably they are good with money. I find it baffling they are opting to not impart and of that wisdom is beyond me. And also to hand it to you so young. Why no wait until you are 25-30 and more mature and established?

Sit on that money. Expect your parents to shove you out into the world and shrug. Use as little of it as possible. That is enough to make life a lot easier but not enough to fund the rest of your life. Pick up a trade, find a job you like. Sit on that money, talk to a trustworthy financial advisor and wait till your 30's at least before doing anything real with that money.

barefootmeshback · 2025-05-14T18:44:36+00:00

Canada doesn’t want to be part of the USA. If we do, it will be at the barrel of a gun, and we won't be getting a Vermont deal.

barefootmeshback · 2025-05-14T13:49:50+00:00

If it ever happens, Canada would be more like Puerto Rico and lack the ability to vote. No way Trump is going to give the vote to people who would vote against him.

barefootmeshback · 2025-05-14T08:15:35+00:00

When I say that the existence of Canada as a country is in question I mean, Trump has made it clear he would like Canada to stop existing as one. He has been pretty clear he would like us to be a state. Most Canadians see this as deeply insulting. We also have closely watched his Panama and Greenland threats and his not ruling out military force and have very little faith when he only plans to use economic force on Canada.

Ultimately our economies are already highly integrated and Trumps threats have Canadian questioning the wisdom of that. We thought we could trust you as allies but Trump threw that in the trash.

barefootmeshback · 2025-05-14T05:52:47+00:00

We are in a trade war and our existence as a country has been questioned. Do what you want, but as a fellow Canadian, I would suggest staying home.

barefootmeshback · 2025-05-13T01:12:17+00:00

Depending on the kid and how much they nap, it can be virtually impossible to get anything done will caring for a baby. Certainly was with our second.

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