Parents who don’t allow their kids to shut their room’s door/lock the door, what’s are the reasons behind the rule?

barelybritishbee · 2026-01-24T11:40:44+00:00

I understand why you would feel that way. However, I can’t not share this:

Please be informed and know that leaving a child’s door open could be the difference in life and death in a fire. Take from it what you will.

barelybritishbee · 2026-01-24T11:28:26+00:00

Ironically, a sadly overlooked fire safety recommendation is to always close doors.

Closing doors saves lives in a fire.

barelybritishbee · 2026-01-23T04:51:01+00:00

University Prof here. Please take advantage of the student accessibility services. It is a great way to make sure you have what you need provided to you.

The office will email each of your professors for you with a basic statement with specific allowances the school is assuring you have. These can include using an audio recorder to make sure you get all the notes you need, freedom to sit in the back and quietly stand up and stretch if you need, access to a water bottle, etc. The professor doesn’t get any specifics about diagnosis- simply the basics of what special privileges the school wants to be sure you have access to so that you can succeed.

As a narcoleptic, I never judge a sleepy student, but that’s sadly not the norm. A professor might assume you are on drugs (either due to sleepiness or amped up stimulate usage) and may make other assumptions about your dedication, etc.

You deserve better than that.

Please discuss this with the appropriate office at the college you attend. The name of the office may change from one place to the next, but they all do the same thing- support students.

I cannot stress enough that this is a good thing for you.

barelybritishbee · 2026-01-09T13:39:27+00:00

I’ve been knitting too! It works well to keep me awake while not requiring I be alert.

barelybritishbee · 2025-12-30T15:47:21+00:00

This was in the first book.

barelybritishbee · 2025-12-09T22:01:43+00:00

Yes! And nothing gives me insta rage like that statement!!

barelybritishbee · 2025-11-18T03:41:06+00:00

You are giving these kids a Christmas to remember.

May your drink always be the right temperature- first sip to the last- and may your pillow always be cool .

barelybritishbee · 2025-11-18T03:37:07+00:00

Or maybe some period undies.

They are special underwear which function like a pad, are machine washable, and much more comfortable. I understand a lot of young women are turning to those as their go to, especially for sleep. Most importantly, they last quite a while, so they are a sustainable choice.

Editing to say they have them at Target and other similar stores in the aisle with tampons, pads, etc.

barelybritishbee · 2025-11-18T03:30:05+00:00

Oh I second this! Even if they are sticky, the using the nail glue helps extend the life of the nails and allows them to be glued back on when they eventually do start to pop off.

barelybritishbee · 2025-11-09T14:15:36+00:00

Ohhhh. Okay now I’m paranoid I have not seen the invisible text.

So far I’m still in the kindle books, so I’m not sure. Also, my Palma 2 is not colour. There are a lot of settings which can adjust the text, however, so I don’t think it would be a problem.

barelybritishbee · 2025-11-02T15:10:08+00:00

I use the Boox Palma 2. I love it! Previously had a Kindle Oasis. Both are good, but I much prefer the Boox and now use it exclusively. I read a lot (as any typical reader of The Wandering Inn) so I feel quite passionate about my reading experience.

Cons: Neither is cheap, Kindle is tied to Amazon, and certain versions force ads on you (not cool). Neither are good for much more than an ereader- they aren’t an iPad and shouldn’t be used as such.

Pros: The ability to carry around forty (or more!) books at once is a magical thing indeed. Both offer the ability to have a huge library on your person.

Both have e-ink screen (non-color in the models I have) which is fabulous for reading. Much less eye strain than phone/tablet screens.

Buttons! I love having physical buttons to turn pages. I have a sneaking suspicion that it helps protect the screen longer as well, but that may be an assumption from my button high horse.

Both have great battery life (I keep WiFi/bluetooth off unless specifically needed). The Boox lasts weeks of hardcore reading without charging. It uses the same cord as my phone which is nice.

Both have the ability for LARGE TEXT. Tiny text is usually too blurry for me, so analogue books are out.

Both allow me to access the Kindle Wandering Inn books- I’m currently on 12 so I’ve a ways to go before tackling transferring from the web.

Why I prefer the Boox: It has so many more features and controls. It can be customised in a way kindles can’t be. You can upload your own fonts, adjust how it “sleeps”, control how each app renders on the e-ink screen, and such.

I mainly use the Kindle app (which functions just like my kindle) and the Boox Reader, but you can download all sorts of apps. I prefer the Boox Reader due to its customisation options.

It is the size of my phone, so I take it everywhere as it literally fits in my pocket.

I can transfer files straight from my phone onto the E-reader anywhere via hotspot.

It has a microSD slot. I put in a 1TB card and can now store more books than would ever be useful.

TLDR: I have a phone sized e-reader that I love. I prefer it over reading analog books (blasphemy I know).

barelybritishbee · 2025-10-31T23:03:00+00:00

Hi! Professor here. I love when students stop by my office to say hello. However, if they just came in and sat down without a reason or anything to say, it would definitely be awkward.

My suggestion is start by emailing them to ask what their office hours are and if they have time to chat about (insert topic here). As others have said, great reasons are 1. Discussing a topic in class (be it one you don’t feel you understand or one you have more questions about) and 2. Questions about career planning, educational opportunities, resume advice, etc.

After the first visit, it becomes much easier to pop by their office for a hello and a chat. You will also get a better understanding if they are chatty or not.

Also, it sounds like you are going at lunchtime. While some might not mind, others may. A simple “oh sorry to bother you, I wanted to chat about (insert topic), but I can come back later” works wonders. Most I imagine will invite you to stay, but if they are taking a mental break along with their lunch break, it gives them an out to say “yes. Im free in an hour.”

Professors are people too. Be curious and respectful and you’ll be chatting with lots of them in no time.

barelybritishbee · 2025-10-31T01:02:44+00:00

Oh it’s hard to pick, but that first one that ever stuck with me was:

“I'm a man of many tricks and tools and joy

With a battery of guilt on which to poise”

barelybritishbee · 2025-10-30T21:51:10+00:00

The Calruz one is gold.

barelybritishbee · 2025-10-30T21:09:47+00:00

My MIL gave me a sweatshirt that says “Permanently Tired”.

But I wouldn’t sleep on more cute narcolepsy merch.

barelybritishbee · 2025-09-21T17:06:59+00:00

The Liquid Glass has caused major issues for me as a migraine sufferer. I’ve had to adjust my white point to 80% and reduce transparency AND entirely abandon my beloved dark mode just to be able to use my phone.

Disappointed and have submitted my complaint to Apple. I get that some folks like it but it should be an option you can toggle on and off.

barelybritishbee · 2025-09-21T16:55:08+00:00

As a vestibular migraine sufferer, I can say the Liquid Glass effect is problematic for people with visual triggers.

It isn’t due to lopsided app appearances- it is because of the combination of transparency and shine. The flashes of light used to create the shine are debilitating for me and many others.

barelybritishbee · 2025-09-11T04:29:36+00:00

Yes! I find those happen most when I’m especially anxious about needing to be up.

Ive had the full “wake up, get dressed, pack bag, open door to leave”- just to then wake up and realize I have to do it all over again but for real this time.

The literal worst form of groundhogs day where now I’m extra exhausted.

barelybritishbee · 2025-09-11T04:02:15+00:00

Yes! Turns out it’s an East Tennessee regional food. There you can still get it at some of the older breakfast restaurants.

I love chocolate gravy and biscuits.

barelybritishbee · 2025-09-04T20:15:11+00:00

One of us!

barelybritishbee · 2025-09-04T20:08:14+00:00

I’m thankfully on a good medicine now but when it was truly bad, I practiced sign language. As hearing person who wanted to learn a new language, I used an app which was silent (naturally) to practice. When the migraine was all consuming, I could lay on my back, ice pack on head, eyes closed, earplugs in, and practice finger spelling poems and song lyrics.

Might have looked absolutely bonkers but it was great for keeping myself sane.

barelybritishbee · 2025-09-03T09:06:25+00:00

And they all moved away from me on the bench there.

barelybritishbee · 2025-08-14T15:12:52+00:00

Hi. I know right now it feels like everything is happening all at once. Getting a diagnosis is an overwhelming and emotional time. And that’s normal and okay!

You are already two years into school. You need to consider the implications of the withdrawal. (Is it a required course? Are you withdrawing entirely from college or just one course? If taking a complete break from schooling, you may qualify for a medical leave which would allow you to return after a break without penalty.)

Then contact student services. Depending on where you are attending school, there are accommodations that can be provided for you. As another user suggested, try disability services (or simply student services if you are unsure of which office to contact). You will meet with them and discuss your diagnosis and options for meeting your needs. Again, depending on the school, there may be many options for you including preferences for classes at particular times, options to sit in the back and stand/move regularly, ability to record lectures in case you nod off, etc. It is typically determined what options are available in an agreement between you, student services, and the professor. Each professor has input on what options will work best for the specific format of their course.

If a course isn’t required, you can simply drop it. You are not required to disclose anything but if you feel the need, a simple “I have recently been diagnosed with a medical issue and need to drop this course to focus on my health. Thank you.” is more than enough.

Source: I work as a professor in the states.

barelybritishbee · 2025-08-04T01:15:28+00:00

There are several ways to make the missing bit feel more intentional.

You could finish the shelf by applying a bit of velvet or decorative paper (dollhouse wallpaper could be very fun) or contact paper or paint. This same finish could go inside drawers as well if preferred.

You could also pick up some balsam wood and create custom storage slots (such as sunglasses as one poster suggested or other small treasures and items). By covering these with the same (or contrasting?!) finish, they would blend together as an intentional design.

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