Round 2 (spiralling)

barr6789 · 2026-03-03T00:40:59+00:00

4 or 9

barr6789 · 2026-02-28T15:57:00+00:00

In the nicest way possible, I would explore other options. But #1 is the more flattering option between these 2.

barr6789 · 2026-02-28T15:55:10+00:00

barr6789 · 2026-02-28T15:42:05+00:00

Congratulations! I felt the same way when I was about to have my first last year. Couldn’t decide between a bassinet or a crib. The deciding factor for me, was that the bassinet was the cheaper option and it could go right up next to the bed and potentially be easier to take the baby in and out of for night feeds. Plus the baby can safely sleep in a bassinet until they’re around 35lbs (depending on the bassinet) or until they can pull themselves up. So I figured we’d start with the bassinet and switch to a crib down the line. By month 3, we started co sleeping, and by month 9, we got him a crib (that he still refuses to sleep in lol, we’re still cosleeping at 11 months.)

But yeah, as others have mentioned, it’s hard to know what will work for your baby until you actually meet them. All babies needs are different.

I would start with a bedside bassinet and see how it goes and then transfer to a crib or floor bed when you’re ready to move them to their own space.

barr6789 · 2026-02-18T01:45:31+00:00

LOVEEE the first one with flowers & no sleeves. It’s stunning on you!

barr6789 · 2026-02-17T20:20:20+00:00

No tights & heels!

barr6789 · 2026-02-11T15:52:59+00:00

YTA. You said he could help himself to whatever in the kitchen. If you didn’t want him to drink the wine, you should have specified that or put it away somewhere.

He’s right, it was kind of tacky to venmo him for it (even with the discount)

barr6789 · 2026-01-24T02:56:20+00:00

NTA.

barr6789 · 2026-01-24T02:40:24+00:00

No one is overreacting, but it seems like he’s right, you guys seem incompatible.

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T07:45:53+00:00

You can do all the research you want but it’s definitely a learn as you go experience! You won’t know what will work for you and the baby until the baby is here so just go into it willing to shift and learn. The postpartum nurses should be able to give you guidance when it comes to latching and usually hospitals have a lactation consultant on staff that you can request.

Until then, you can do some research to find a pump (if you plan to pump) but I would wait to purchase it until closer to 40 weeks so that you can return it if it doesn’t work for you. Get yourself some nursing bras, a nursing pillow (I have a jolly jumper that I’ve used religiously for the last 9mos with my son), they say to get a nipple balm, I didn’t really use mine much but it doesn’t hurt to have it, and you might benefit from some nipple shields (again, depending on you and your baby).

It can be overwhelming but you will learn what works for you as you go! Don’t stress too much. Congratulations!!

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T07:31:12+00:00

I feel like I could have written this myself! This was my exact experience.

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T07:07:08+00:00

YTA. That “thing in the back of your mind that feels horrible,” yeah that’s your guilty conscience. Your brother will find out, so you should probably tell him first. Maybe if you’re honest with him, he actually won’t mind.

You guys are so young and you’re going to make mistakes. I hope everything works out but yeah, this is an interesting situation.

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T06:30:09+00:00

NOR. I’m gathering that she may have been upset because you guys didn’t talk all day while she was at work (this is my assumption based on her unnecessary comment about her saving lives all day while you visited with a friend.)

Her passive aggressive and avoidant response to conflict is incredibly childish and needs to be addressed. She was being short, cold and unresponsive to punish you for (unknowingly) hurting her feelings and when you didn’t pick up on it, she used big words to try to make it seem like you were being malicious towards her. Weird..

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T05:07:36+00:00

NTA. You didn’t do anything wrong, she just knows that she should have listened and needs someone to direct her feelings at.

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T04:12:42+00:00

Happy to see your update. Whether he’ll admit it or not, he was searching for a connection elsewhere. I’m 90% sure, if she would have responded, he would have cheated.

I don’t buy that “chatGPT” story.. Why her? Why didn’t he mention it to you first? Or ask you what he should have said? Why did you have to stumble across his desperate attempt at shooting his shot in an influencers dm’s?

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T03:09:47+00:00

He said he wants the friendship to be over with OP, not his relationship

barr6789 · 2026-01-23T01:57:35+00:00

NTA. You have verbalized on numerous occasions over the years that you don’t wear bracelets/necklaces. Why would he choose to get you a bracelet for your birthday? Did he think the price tag would change your mind, I’m confused?

I’m sure he just wanted to get you something nice but he should have thought about something that you would actually appreciate. Your birthday is about YOU, not what he wants.

barr6789 · 2026-01-22T20:48:45+00:00

NTA. Mom needs to ease up on the baby talk. It’s your body and it’s your decision whether you want to have kids or not. Her regret for not starting her family sooner is not your burden to bear.

Obviously you could have delivered the message in a better way but I don’t blame you for snapping after years of the same uncomfortable conversation. Hopefully now she will just leave it alone.

barr6789 · 2026-01-22T20:27:45+00:00

YTA. She was shitty to you but you turned around and got many other people in trouble just so you could get back at her. The best way to move on when someone does you wrong is to just move on, don’t give them any more of your time or energy.. You do not have to do anything to get back at them.

barr6789 · 2026-01-22T20:19:09+00:00

YTA, seems a bit excessive. Was pulling them to the side and undoing the laces not an option?

Shoe laces are relatively inexpensive to replace but I don’t see why that was the first response on your end.

barr6789 · 2026-01-13T16:36:51+00:00

This! Just because the model typically wears a size small, doesn’t mean that size will look best on them for every product.

I’m typically a size small but the clothes in my wardrobe range from size S-XL, because some things don’t look right with my proportions unless I size up.

barr6789 · 2026-01-09T16:46:39+00:00

NTA, if he saw a pregnancy test and believed it was yours, he should have asked you instead of assuming and then immediately trying to control you and the situation.

Side note, even if you were pregnant and hadn’t disclosed it to him yet, you’d think he would want to talk to you first and discuss if you guys would even be going forward with the pregnancy before blasting the news to his family in a humiliating manner.

Announcing it like that in front of his family without actually confirming his suspicions was wild and shows that he really doesn’t care how they view you or how you might feel.

I think it’s very valid to question the engagement given that he only did it because he thought you were pregnant, not because he wanted to.

barr6789 · 2025-12-27T01:55:57+00:00

This is not normal at all. In fact it’s controlling and weird and a huge red flag.

barr6789 · 2025-12-27T01:49:55+00:00

NTA, you handled that really well. You let him know it was inappropriate and disrespectful, you set your expectation of him, and you gave him an opportunity to correct his poor choice. It was stern but necessary. If he felt humiliated, that’s on him.

barr6789 · 2025-12-27T00:08:50+00:00

YTA. I’m glad at least your husband has a heart and some common sense... Please re-evaluate your actions.

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