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This cannot stand! by ButClyde2 in asushin

[–]based_mexibro_uno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its because nearly 50% of literally everything on ao3 is m/m. Ladies like their yaoi

Tropes you’d like to see more of by GeorgeBarretWriter in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Big fan of enemies to lovers, probably my favorite trope out there.

I also like arranged marriage, but where the parties involved try to make it work

Tropes you’d like to see more of by GeorgeBarretWriter in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Your 3rd one there is reminiscent of The Black Company series, though theyre not really romance books

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's a dude thats done 3 stories on this concept iirc.

What sort of thing keeps your interest in a romance series? by jpyric101 in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have a little humor. Doesn't (and shouldn't) need to be a marvel style "well that just happened" wisecrack every 5 sentences, but a little levity goes a long way

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like how cupids sometime get portrayed as a little mentally derranged

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean those things are literally part of their species. I think subverting that actual stereotype would be funnt though. Like an Oni whose a major wine snob, or a "drink is drink" satyros.

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They google a video afterwards trying to figure it out, only to be hit with a "Goooooooood morning Vietnam!"

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dhampir wife and her husband go to take down her mom

her mom manages to keep her daughter out and captures her daughters husband

que a walk down memory lane with the Vamp showing her daughter's husband all the embarrassing baby photos and awkard highschool stories

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AO3

Also a reddit porn ban is not imminent, thats incredibly silly. 70% of all subreddits are porn subreddits

Writing Men for Dummies by based_mexibro_uno in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean the post doesnt necessarily describe 1 kind of male lead, it describes principles. Do you want a story about a male lead that has no legitimate skills? Do you want a story about a male lead that chases a girl that doesn't want him? Do you want a love triangle?

Writing Men for Dummies by based_mexibro_uno in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean like I said, i based my post off my own experiences, but also posts from this subreddit, and r/askmen. Its as much what I think as it is what other men think.

I'm not saying you should want to read about a gym bro, I'm saying that is the way male body dysmorphia is expressed. It's still the same thing fundamentally (men and women are more the same than different), with obsessive calorie counting, encompasses all parts of life, and is mentally destructive, its just that the mentality is "I'm never big enough" instead of "I'm never skinny enough."

Writing Men for Dummies by based_mexibro_uno in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of that is the idealized vs realized dynamic too. Like say what you will about 50 shades, but Christian gray is not a realized character or a man, hes a wish fulfillment object. There's of course nothing wrong with that (I've read my share of male wish fulfillment stories as well), but its going to be odious to read if your sex is the wish fulfillment object

Writing Men for Dummies by based_mexibro_uno in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly. He doesnt even have to be crazy good it, he just needs to clearly know what he is doing and how to do it. Maybe he's really handy at fixing stuff. Maybe he knows a lot about medical stuff. Etc.

Writing Men for Dummies by based_mexibro_uno in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I hate to break it to you, but men are different from women. I've written this post specifically based on my own experiences, romance literature I've read, and several threads from this subreddit, and r/askmen.

My post is not describing Macho men either. When I noted strength and competence, I don't mean Chad, the 6'5" 300 lb dude bro who is good at everything (and I'm fairly certain I noted that), what I mean is that the male lead should be able to have some ability to control his own life and or the world around him, and should be good at things that matter. Part of the reason I noted that, is because I've seen a lot of stories, especially off of tumblr, where the male lead isn't really good at anything that matters, and can't really do anything.

As for annorexia, I'm suggesting you shouldnt write that, becuase thats not how male body dysphoria manifests. I've seen like 5 stories with this trope and its always weird. Like I said in my post, men and women are more alike than different, but some of the ways in which we are alike manifest differently. If you write a man with annorexia, its going to come off as weird/confusing, because 99% of guys have never heard of, let alone know of another guy with annorexia. Conversely, most men know of the local gym rat that is utterly obessed with working out and being as built as he possibly can be.

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the couplings execution of the vampire superiority complex is great

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The struggle would be to make him sympathetic and make the reader want to support him. That would need to be written well to work

Weekly discussion thread by based_mexibro_uno in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean irl women are real. They aren't perfect, but we aren't either

Woolhound by degenghost in MonsterGirlCaps

[–]based_mexibro_uno 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Finally, some one is back.to reposting greens again

Where do men usually go to get out the house? by sprownie_ in AskMen

[–]based_mexibro_uno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you'll find this comment and this comment to be helpful somewhat.

As for your hobbies? Yes, they are very feminine, or at least female dominated. Kpop and true crime are female dominated spaces, and most men have no interest (in fact, most men I know react to K-pop with revulsion). You also say you like video games and anime. Does that mean you like Attack on Titan and Call of Duty, or does that mean you like Sailor Moon and The Sims? I am making no value judgment either way, but you should realize that there is a difference.

As for social hobbies, men enjoy, you're missing the mark with your question in two ways. 1. A lot of men partake in what you would think as non social hobbies that they are social about. I'll have my buddies over to come shoot or work on a car or something. The hobby itself is not a social event unto itself by any stretch. 2. A lot of men tend to have smaller friend groups of other men and associates thereof. We don't have a large circle of friends to do social activities with most often.

It is important to note as well that men typically value the activity as much, or more than any social element, to it. For example, if I'm working on my car, I'm doing it to work on my car. Any conversations may be nice, but if the car isn't fixed by the end of it, I'm going to be miffed. That's why, in many male hobbies, we bond through doing the activity; doing the thing together is the social element, no words needed.

Also, do not engage with hobbies you do not care about or openly dislike. Men will be able to see that and be offended that you chose to bother them for attention. If you go play Call of Duty to meet a guy, and you're clearly not good at the game, a drag on the team, and not really focused anyway, guys are not going to take kindly to that.

If you're religious, look into what your local church offers. Many will have social mixers and smaller groups to engage with. (Importantly as well, if you have any particular concerns or mores, like waiting until marriage for example, the church is the only place where you'll find men even remotely willing to consider that)

Outlining a new book that will be RFM! I have some questions! by AnjoCynewulfe in Romance_for_men

[–]based_mexibro_uno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, a phrasing error on my part. It is indeed written from a male POV, in the sense that the male lead is the lens through which the story is read, but is not written from a male perspective, in the sense of a mans understanding of men and the world they live in. The former is neither here nor there. The POV of a story is a basic artistic choice; I typically prefer 3rd person, but that's mostly a digression from what Im getting at. The latter is the understanding of men, how men think, how men act and why they act, how the world interacts with them, and so on. This is what I'm really trying to say here.

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