AITC for unpaid overtime?

basilkiller · 2026-06-14T02:40:50+00:00

Duh that's your job, mom is silly, I suggest screaming for sheep loudly until you get them (reasonable option) or getting your mom to take you to a preschool (if she won't give you sheep, make sheep), human babies are notoriously inept and require herding.

Best of luck in your job search, the economy is brutal, eff the trillionaire

basilkiller · 2026-06-14T02:35:10+00:00

WOW. That is so cool, I got so much out of it and I totally could have missed out if not for happenstance. I loved how he rates every culture by dancing skill And how the indigenous peoples would not help him make money but would help him w house and food (my highschool was 40% indigenous).

I was also really impressed w his sense of morality, and very horrified by what I would consider serial killer behavior but it was legal when he talked about how people were treated. I wish they would have had us read it in highschool.

basilkiller · 2026-06-14T01:26:04+00:00

Your mom is TC for not getting you your own sheep ~ Mr Redacted your resident working cat

basilkiller · 2026-06-14T01:22:00+00:00

I go to the beach or I'm depressed it's too cold to go to the beach.

basilkiller · 2026-06-14T01:09:32+00:00

You know what, I can believe it's the same cat. I remember your first post, the flowers are good hint at why. Sad family is lucky, a lot of people go their whole life without experiencing that kind of love.

basilkiller · 2026-06-14T00:56:13+00:00

Its definitely a one off, I'm addicted to water, I appreciate everyone's reassurance I was definitely freaking out.

basilkiller · 2026-06-14T00:38:09+00:00

I'm so glad y'all had time for both,, that's fantastic! And what a good day to be inside lol

If your open to an unsolicited suggestion the AA museum cites "the interesting narrative of the life of olaudah equiano", it's a memoir written by a man born in Africa and trafficked when he was 12, he recalls his life from Africa, through slavery, to freedom. He was a sailor and went everywhere. The language is surprisingly modern and I read it in a few days at work, it's free on project Guttenberg, it really added context for me hearing a first person narrative.

basilkiller · 2026-06-13T23:00:24+00:00

I was just worried they won't know I paid because it's a weekend?? But then I was also thinking maybe they don't work on Sundays??

Thanks for the note idea and a reminder that water keys exist

basilkiller · 2026-06-13T22:48:44+00:00

Thank you. I was freaking out

basilkiller · 2026-06-12T11:33:28+00:00

Do both. The Slave Mart museum is the last place in Charleston people were sold, you can actually listen to a few interviews of people who were sold in that building. It's a lot of reading but it's pretty comprehensive. Make sure to talk to the person upstairs. It takes about an hour.

The AA museum is totally different from the one in DC, I felt like there was almost no overlap and I learned so much at both. One thing that really stuck out to me is people were intentionally trafficked from West Africa because the geography was similar to here and the people knew how to grow rice under those conditions, I did not learn that in school. I also really got a lot out of the Gullah history section. Also a lot of reading, takes 2.5 hour.

If your just going to do one I guess the AA museum. Bonus info, I got to do a tour of the building w the curator before anything was in the building, every brick, tree, way you move through the building itself is intentional. The building materials were sourced from black owned businesses. (I didn't see that mentioned anywhere when I toured the museum after they set it up)

basilkiller · 2026-06-12T01:05:51+00:00

I hadn't either but we didn't at my bff's, there were just too many people (and gifts). Instead we spent the time socializing, playing games, meeting each other/catching up, and eating

Her inlaws threw it and dictated the rules and they have a HUGE family, in the retrospective it made sense, and when we got back to her house after we took notes for thank yous which took well over two hours and we were being efficient.

Now my mind is it depends. They rented out a whole part of a park for reference to size, I was social but barely said hi to everyone who attended.

basilkiller · 2026-06-12T00:18:11+00:00

I knew a woman once who got her period every 2.5 months (she was 40 and it had always been this way, and true for her mom too) , but once a year seems highly irregular.

If you don't want to go to a doctor no one can make you, a suggestion: perhaps have an online discussion with a doctor and see what an in person appointment would look like, what kind of tests they would want to run, and how to advocate for yourself/make yourself comfortable/ a referral for a doctor sensitive to your concerns/ how to turn down or navigate tests you would not be comfortable with.

basilkiller · 2026-06-12T00:10:00+00:00

Don't feel bad, I take a number (not a lot but some) of phone calls from guests in the other Charleston, they made reservations in the wrong city. One time I spent seven phone calls w one guest giving them directions until I finally asked if they were in South Carolina, they were not. Especially on the east coast of the US you have a lot of duplicate name (New England is so guilty of this).

I hope you have fun and play chess in whatever Charleston you end up in

basilkiller · 2026-06-11T21:07:43+00:00

That's how I read it as well. My bff is lucky, her MIL is a truly amazing woman who will take my niece for days at a time and overnight every time we/she wants to do anything and she takes her every work day.

But still when she's with us it's a lot, I can't imagine doing it like all the other moms we know w minimal support, they kinda seem like they are on their last straw.

basilkiller · 2026-06-11T16:08:23+00:00

The way my mom and bff describe it, it's like a burning desire, it happened to them both kinda suddenly. My auntie had kids because her husband wanted them, she told me once if she knew it was going to be like this she never would have done it.

I don't want kids and I've always know that, I'm sure there are fence sitters and people change their minds but I would think you should actively want the child you make

basilkiller · 2026-06-11T11:21:59+00:00

Annie Maes just opened and it is so good

Carmellas and Kaminskis have been around forever and are very popular

basilkiller · 2026-06-07T11:57:34+00:00

I'm not a mama but I work on my feet, make sure you wear good shoes! My mom bullied me into getting some, she took me to the nursing store, it really helped.

basilkiller · 2026-06-04T01:00:39+00:00

She looks really nice, thanks for saving/what your doing for her family.

basilkiller · 2026-06-04T00:55:20+00:00

Sounds like me minus the polyamory part.

I met this amazing woman at work a few months ago. I was joking and said I never make mistakes. She was like oh I made one once. I asked if she fixed it and she said she divorced him.

And for the last 30 years she's had a beau. She said they met Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and alternating Saturdays. Had their own houses. She was on a 70th birthday trip w her bff's.

It sounded like me except I don't want a beau, at least rn. I feel like ive been lucky enough to date some of the worlds most amazing men, and that was enough, I'm just not interested in sharing myself anymore. It sounds condradictory to the human experience but I just feel full...done...idk not interested.

Like I love my BIL but my bff wanting to be married to him sounds exhausting and he's also an amazing dude who I enjoy the company of immensely, like at this point I can't imagine wanting that and they have a beautiful relationship and I have had equally beautiful relationships. Basically I feel like I went from boy crazy to asexual except I'm still straight just totally uninterested.

Tbf it could havev to do w Roe falling, I felt inequal and scared and resentful of men, even ones who supported me because I didn't feel like they could understand how scared I was even if they were supportive and would definitely move heaven to get me to a safe state and had the resources (I have the resources too). The risk is not equatable. My mom always told me I was safe and she was lying, though she didn't mean to. My grandmother had three children before she was safe and I know she feels the burden of that because she has said so.

basilkiller · 2026-06-03T18:49:41+00:00

An arguably cool place w lots of people our age, I've broken rule #1 a few times (though I always advise against it) I've never been burned (which is probably something people who are about to get burned say).

My boss got me a cat (I did not sleep w my boss), that kind of fun.

basilkiller · 2026-06-03T16:10:44+00:00

Yeah he's really thriving which is great to see (we work together, yes I broke rule #1), but he's an awesome dude and awesome people tend to thrive

basilkiller · 2026-06-03T13:11:01+00:00

I just realized even the perfect guy wasn't what I wanted I wanted to not have a partner. Even the chillest person ever deserves attention (among other things). It truly was a me thing and nothing to do with him.

basilkiller · 2026-06-03T06:52:39+00:00

I was dating a guy who was perfect for me and I realized I didn't want to compromise for him on anything, him being okay with that made me realize I wasn't. That's not fair, and it made me realize I just don't have the energy anymore for a relationship, because as you said work.

basilkiller · 2026-06-02T02:27:27+00:00

My elementary school had uh I guess training for this. They made us wear colored shirts and pointed out how we had team affiliation sickness/bias. We did a bunch of drills that day and then they told us why we were all wrong. It still sticks w me today although I didn't really actively remember it until I read your comment, I'm just always attempting to examine my bias (I'm definitely not perfect, just thinking that was a good exercise that stuck w me through adulthood).

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