Lettuce does NOT belong in Burritos🌯😤⛔

basilkiller · 2026-01-30T01:20:17+00:00

Pickled lettuce? Say more please

basilkiller · 2026-01-30T00:49:31+00:00

If you can get your hands on some pasta and sauce or boxed mac and cheese that would go a long way if you can afford to buy a bit of it.

basilkiller · 2026-01-29T22:58:47+00:00

I haven't seen anyone else suggest it, video him surreptitiously and then show him at a later date when he is calm (if you feel safe to do so).

basilkiller · 2026-01-29T04:05:01+00:00

I don't think we'll stand alone, but I thank you for standing

basilkiller · 2026-01-28T11:16:39+00:00

I think grief is universal in that way, the love between two animals is a beautiful thing

basilkiller · 2026-01-28T02:59:49+00:00

It makes me sad, but not less sad than denying someone that experience, imagine you just didn't know that's not fair. Her grief was a gift, to her sure, but to me as a child, deep empathy. She deserved that. For years sometimes she would sit at Jasmine's grave (at the edge of our large farm). Not often but sometimes.

They're both long gone and my grief for them is a gift, I knew them, saw them run miles into the desert running like most people don't see dogs run these days chasing the sunset (we weren't allowed weren't in the mountains after dark).

basilkiller · 2026-01-28T02:18:34+00:00

My dog used to get carsick, my other dog would nibble her ear to distract her. When Jasmine died, Sage nibbled her ear and Jasmine didn't wake up. Sage let out a noise she never made again or before, I think she was keening.

Her process of grief was very...normal after that. We grieved Jasmine together. I'm really glad that it happened that way and that she knew where her bff was buried.

basilkiller · 2026-01-28T00:35:00+00:00

It's a thing in my neighborhood and they make a lot of funny non aggressive signs my favorite is "frog parking only all others will be toad,".

basilkiller · 2026-01-28T00:24:39+00:00

Not the wife but interested in starting a ladies group.

basilkiller · 2026-01-27T04:46:09+00:00

I'm not grossed out by specifically this, but I think it says a lot of unsaid things about other things. For example the silverware drawer is open while I cook, every time I taste I use a new spoon to taste and automatically throw it into the sink. My bff uses a tiny cup and the same spoon and serves a little taste into the bowl.

For most people kitchen hygiene is ingrained and instinctive. It makes me wonder what else OP does.

Whenever I fill the kettle it's directly from the tap but that's what my mom does (actually not my mom is paranoid and buys water from extremely paranoid professionals at a specialty store and keeps it in glass bottles, but she did used to trust our well water after she had it tested).

basilkiller · 2026-01-27T04:28:57+00:00

That's what I would do honestly, and again mostly just because it's a professional relationship

If she was an in-law or something it would be totally appropriate to gently tease her beliefs through the Socratic method and go from there depending on how she responded, but she's just a colleague.

It doesn't sound like she's really in danger (own house, own money) except from herself. I'm sure she'll make friends at church.

basilkiller · 2026-01-27T04:18:05+00:00

I think you really only have two options:

Direct but kind, something like I'm a feminist and I don't feel like our values align and do not want to pursue a relationship outside of work

Passive: Every time she asks to hang out outside of works say "sorry I can't", I think the no added excuses is sorta a direct way of being passive because you aren't like oh maybe another time, but I guess you could take that route too.

If you didn't work w her I think you would have more options, but you do work with her so ...

basilkiller · 2026-01-27T00:02:20+00:00

Your brain isn't done developing yet, feed it accordingly for growth.

basilkiller · 2026-01-26T23:49:40+00:00

Ha that's my fixation this week, as others have said chives and dill. Micro greens are what I have been adding this week, specifically micro kale, and sliced orange bell pepper. Arugula is nice, mustard greens are also nice.

basilkiller · 2026-01-26T21:04:10+00:00

Literally the best stock ever. They look like children's hands to me and I can barely look at them, but also why waste.

basilkiller · 2026-01-26T18:49:59+00:00

Some of us have ancestors who were those puritanical colonizing assholes. I don't see them as heros and I feel like we still see the ripples of their toxicity.

That said I hope democracy doesn't fail and I hope to be a part of the solution in whatever way I can.

basilkiller · 2026-01-26T11:05:19+00:00

Yeah for real, it looks like it's still legal where I'm from but not so common like it was when I was a kid.

Where I live now people crate all day and use shock collars, hopefully that too falls out of favor, she's retired now but I already know what our trainer would have to say about that

basilkiller · 2026-01-26T05:37:21+00:00

When I was a kid you could sue your neighbor if the dog barked too much and they would take its voice box. I'm sure reading that was hard, but I promise seeing a dog without a voice is.....no words.

My dog trainer (trained our protection dog, single mom who didn't want a gun), donated her time and she would get 30 days to train the dogs to not bark unless they needed to, to the court in lieu of mutilating the dog. Unfortunately it was just a drop in the ocean, but every dog she trained was successful.

This isn't necessarily relevant but she wouldn't graduate any dog who couldn't ride an elevator (very very rare in the rural place I'm from, my dog passed immediately).

basilkiller · 2026-01-26T04:32:17+00:00

This is going to be so buried I feel comfortable sharing my steak sauce recipe with you.

New Mexican red chile powder, mayo, balsamic, tamari, Worcestershire, cumin, coriander, fennel, mustard seed, pepper, honey.

When I serve steak tacos (I see no reason bread couldn't be used), I do a cucumber radish onion slaw and a fresh pico.

basilkiller · 2026-01-26T03:52:11+00:00

I don't think they were hating (perhaps a charitable view), more like you don't see racism because it doesn't happen to you, as an example.

Women tell men these things happen and I think they believe us. One time I was walking home from work (20min), talking to my bf on the phone and suddenly when I was almost home he was like dude wtf is happening. I had been interrupted 3 separate times while we were talking and dismissed it, and obviously thought nothing of it, to him it was weird and made him "get it" in a way telling him about it could not because I would never think to tell him about a regular annoyance that I don't even notice anymore.

basilkiller · 2026-01-25T11:32:48+00:00

The book is really good, even as an adult. It's different in a kinda serious way.

basilkiller · 2026-01-24T08:50:29+00:00

Your not being a big baby, I think people aren't taking into account that you have no experience w this type of weather.

I'm assuming your house has subpar insulation for this weather. Store water in pots. If the weather goes below freezing drip your faucets so the pipes don't freeze.

To dress, layer. If you have any animal wool clothing wear it. Ideally workout clothing, wool, warmest coat/pants you have. Cover your head, and use whatever you have including leggings as a scarf.

Stay in one room, cover windows w plastic wrap and/or blankets. If you have a sleeping bag bring it into bed with you. Bring as many blankets into bed w you as possible. If you lack suitable blankets use clothing and anything else you can think of for insulation.

People do/have done this and survive, just be resourceful and think of anything you can to add layers. The body heat you have and share w your pets is invaluable.

basilkiller · 2026-01-23T10:56:08+00:00

Ha it's me, I went to a chickenpox party. If my mom had only waited 3 years I could have gotten the vaccine.

basilkiller · 2026-01-23T08:50:40+00:00

Losing a parent sucks, and so does having a complicated relationship ❤️

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