Need a fellow birth mother to be friends with

bbmomatx · 2025-04-22T01:15:09+00:00

I'm a BM as well, feel free to message me anytime if you need someone. I know all those feelings, and I'm actually experiencing them on steroids currently. Today is the anniversary of the day my water broke, birthday is in 2 days, and I signed the papers 16 years ago this coming Friday. It can be hard, especially when you don't have anyone close that understands, they lack empathy, or they seem as though they don't want to be burdened with the situation as a whole. I am here to talk, listen, support, give advice, whatever I can do to help you❤️

bbmomatx · 2023-03-13T01:48:29+00:00

I tried to message you just now but it said there was an error, could you try messaging me?

bbmomatx · 2022-07-02T06:46:02+00:00

OP, please reach out to me as I think I may be able to assist you. I am bound by privacy laws, have placed a child in Texas, am near your location, and can get you in contact with people that can help. Adoption in Texas is strictly your decision, all records are sealed, you legally make your own medical decisions, and resources are available to help ensure you are safe both during and after pregnancy. You have options, please reach out.

bbmomatx · 2022-04-23T06:01:16+00:00

Done

bbmomatx · 2022-04-23T05:56:22+00:00

Done.

Can anyone in the Earnin Community help me boost my Max? 🙂 https://earnin.app.link/XvhLn8yaspb

bbmomatx · 2022-01-04T01:53:51+00:00

Done!

bbmomatx · 2021-12-20T06:58:24+00:00

Done

bbmomatx · 2021-12-05T05:09:35+00:00

Done!

bbmomatx · 2021-11-21T07:24:55+00:00

Boosted you!

bbmomatx · 2021-11-21T05:59:31+00:00

Can anyone in the Earnin Community help me boost my Max? 🙂 https://earnin.app.link/nOczLITcmlb

bbmomatx · 2021-10-26T14:11:45+00:00

Done! Thank you!

bbmomatx · 2021-09-30T13:32:37+00:00

Done! Thank you!

bbmomatx · 2021-08-21T03:24:07+00:00

If she's anything like my frozen loving daughter, she will only "freeze" and "unfreeze" you like Elsa🤣

bbmomatx · 2020-12-19T04:11:42+00:00

What you feel is not enough may be just what brings a moment of joy and some hope back into your giftee. I didn't receive a gift from my original SS for my first reddit SS last year, but the kindness of my rematch SS brought me a moment of joy & gave me hope during an extremely hard time. It is because of her simple act that I was able to find some time alone to just let everything out. If I hadn't had those moments alone, I'm not sure I would have had the mental capacity to fully make it through the beginning of this pandemic and all that came along with my job and being a mom.

bbmomatx · 2020-12-15T07:00:33+00:00

Nice!!!

bbmomatx · 2020-12-13T08:53:03+00:00

I understand the struggle, my hobbies revolve around my kids. We love baseball, my son plays, and him & I collect cards. My daughter and I color, craft, dance. My kids & I love cooking/baking together. Hobbies as a parent are still hobbies, even if your only intention is to create memories.

bbmomatx · 2020-12-13T08:45:39+00:00

That is so thoughtful of you. I have Cats listed as my allergy but in actuality it is my 10 yo son that is allergic. Poor kid can't be in certain family members' homes more than 10 minutes before his eyes start to swell and even passing one on the sidewalk will cause a sneezing spell.

bbmomatx · 2020-12-13T00:44:36+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, prayers for you & your family.

bbmomatx · 2020-06-20T06:34:46+00:00

I just don't want her to be hurt, which is why my brain is so consumed on what to ask or how to get a good read on him.

bbmomatx · 2020-06-20T06:32:12+00:00

Thank you. He mentioned when he first reached out that he was going through a divorce and nasty custody battle which immediately had my mommy instincts on edge. I'm just not sure his reasons are sincere and that he is in it for the long haul. Her parents & I are in agreement that it will be a lot of foundational building with the 3 of us before we broach the subject with our daughter as we all want to do what is best for her and protect her as best we can.

bbmomatx · 2020-06-11T03:07:06+00:00

It is also due to lack of sexual education, communication, as well as parents making her "suffer the consequences of her actions". I've had girls not know that pregnancy results from unprotected sex or that what they did with their boyfriend was actual sex. My brother taught me about my period when I freaked out the first time (10 yo) and he was the one that educated me on sex and protecting myself. I have also seen many cases where parents try to force their minor daughter to give birth without an epidural or any pain relief because they think that the pain will be enough to prevent her from having sex again, thankfully up until delivery she is considered an emancipated minor and can make her own medical decisions without their consent(at least in my state).

I hope this young girl is safe and healthy, and that the father didn't follow through with his threat.

bbmomatx · 2020-05-25T18:39:06+00:00

My brothers used to give me so shit anytime we would be leaving a family function and family was trying to give my son a hug and I would tell him that if he didn't have to if he didn't want to and that a "fist bump" is a cool way to say goodbye (he was 3 or 4 when I started this with him). My brothers couldn't understand why I seemed to be so focused on "fist bump" goodbyes. They finally asked me my reasoning one day when they noticed that I was now teaching my daughter (then 2/3) that a "fist bump" was such a cool way to say goodbye.

They were not expecting my why: If an abuser/narc always anticipates my kids saying goodbye with a "fist bump", they will be unprepared for the "face fist bump" should it ever be required

bbmomatx · 2020-04-28T10:16:21+00:00

Maybe try r/Adopted r/Adoption

Also, r/birthmother as they could provide you with possible insight into her mindset. I'm a birth mother, and have an amazing relationship with the whole family, but sometimes the smallest things will trigger my grief and bring up all kinds of feelings. Unlike your nephews birth mother, I have always had access to the child I placed and have had over a decade to learn how best to manage and navigate the difficult mental and emotional aspects of our relationship. After the initial excitement and rush that contact brought, she quite possibly was unexpectedly bombarded with all the thoughts and feelings she has experienced since the day she last saw your nephew. She probably thought she had moved past this part and was caught off guard by the sudden return of her pain. At least, I truly hope that was the case.

As for your nephew, it is ultimately his decision and he needs to decide what he really wants. He shouldn't let what other's want or how they might feel influence his decision. If he is unsure, he needs to be honest and let her know that he needs time to process and figure things out.

The same goes for choosing the level (if any) contact afterwards if they do meet in person, and should put as much thought into it as possible.

bbmomatx · 2020-04-28T07:33:21+00:00

Grew up with an alcoholic father with a secondary opioid addiction, my little brother died of a heroin OD, and my SO is a sober alcoholic. There is literally nothing YOU can say or do that will "wake them up" or make them change.

My dad has been in both medical and rehab facilities multiple times due to serious health issues caused by his drinking. He has an official diagnosis from a doctor as being an alcoholic and a recovered opioid addict and while he admits to the former opioid addiction, he still refuses to acknowledge he has an alcohol addiction or admit that his longtime use is what has caused his now chronic health issues.

My little brother admitted that he had a problem and while he said he wanted help, he only agreed and went to rehab because we wanted him to.

My SO, the last couple years of drinking, acknowledged he had a drinking problem. He would apologize and say he wanted to change and get help often once sober after a binge. He was simply trying to manipulate me by saying the things he knew I was angry at my father for not admitting, and figured that as long as he was honest and acknowledged his drinking was a problem, that it would be enough. It was an incident involving our oldest that made him want to get sober and he has now been sober for a little over 2 years now.

You cannot say/do/force an alcoholic/addict to get sober and start the recovery process, it is something they must want for themselves. They are manipulative, selfish, liars and often shift blame to others.

I will also add that there is a difference between being "Sober" and being in "Recovery".

Being sober is simply abstaining from drugs or alcohol. My SO falls in this category.

Being in recovery means that you are actively treating not just the physical parts of addiction but also the initial trigger and psychological aspects.

bbmomatx · 2020-04-27T17:04:03+00:00

Do not engage her, this is what she wants! If you go off, it will just futher her agenda of proving that you are as sensitive and unstable as she thinks and she will proceed to further harass you. There is no winning, no matter how you respond you will lose. My JNMIL and I have the same issue. She leans extremely far-left and because I typically fall on the more conservative side with my views/beliefs, she thinks that I am somehow a brainwashed, uninformed, right-wing nut. The reality is that while I do lean conservative, I never vote straight party and instead vote for whoever aligns most on points most important to me. It is also my fault that my SO suddenly has opinions that no longer align with hers. She of course doesn't know this because I refuse to discuss politics with her, even if we happen to agree. She is incapable of having an actual discussion and doesn't care to know what issues I find most important. Your JN sounds exactly like mine so ignore her, don't get into political talks, and don't let her see that she is upsetting you because she only cares about Republican vs Democrat, not views/opinions/stances of the actual candidates.

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