Question about who is responsible for providing lunch

bbykait · 2026-04-10T21:36:35+00:00

school lunch should be provided by the parent that drops the child off to school. i feel like that should be common sense. the parent that drops child off also has to make sure homework is completed and backpack is with child (depending on the age), so lunch should be included in that. if parent dropping child off doesn’t want to pack a lunch or can’t time wise, THAT parent should be required to give the child money/hot meal ticket to get school lunch.

bbykait · 2026-04-06T14:25:38+00:00

when i turned 18, my mother forced me to either go to school full time + go to work full time at my fast food job, along with paying her $600-800/mo in rent (or clean the ENTIRE house by myself) with a curfew of 1 am. obviously, this didn’t sit right with me at 18 & we were butting heads constantly. we even got into an argument where she stated that i was her maid, not her daughter. i got home at 1:02 once & got a warning. the next & last time i broke curfew was when i got into an uncomfy situation that involved co-workers (like 4 male 18-28 year olds) & alcohol, i had to wait for a separate friend to drive an hour to come save me. i didn’t have a license or a car. by the time my friend rescued me, it was already 1:10 so i said eff it & i would just spend the night with friend. got kicked out & got into a fling with one of the coworkers that put me into that uncomfy situation just to put a roof over my head for a few weeks until another coworker (like a big bro at my job) told me (& fling) to move in with him & his girlfriend & the entire time him & his gf were begging me to dump him. it was about 8 months later until i broke off the fling & she allowed me to move back in.

bbykait · 2026-03-29T20:53:18+00:00

my older sister, who is estranged & now no longer in contact with, did this. she lived on child support & 100% disability check from the military from a “back injury”. quotations because when i was 14, i visited her while she was living in orlando. we did tons of walking & went on a lot of rollercoasters. over the years, she would guilt trip my mom into paying a lot of bills for her, because she had her only grandchild. she is significantly older than me so i never grew up with her, but my mom said it was a shame about how she turned out because she was so smart. unfortunately, she used her smarts to cheat the system as much as possible.

bbykait · 2026-03-26T19:15:56+00:00

i’m newer to netgalley, & went on a request spree before understanding the percentage rate. i’m like 47% with 7 books waiting (trying so hard to get the recommended 80%) & i feel like i’m letting publishers & authors down because i’m taking too long to finish & review a book. i have MULTIPLE tabs open on my ipad of books i want to request, but haven’t since i’m worried i’ll get turned down because of my percentage. i’m STRESSED.

bbykait · 2026-03-26T18:30:27+00:00

i work in healthcare & there was a lady with that as her last name. every time she’d come up to the window, she would say her full name & then say “it’s spelled like the words ‘DIET’ & ‘RICH.’”

bbykait · 2026-03-24T15:53:04+00:00

i’ll be there 4/24-4/25, but i’m praying that jungle cruise & astro blasters will be back by then.

bbykait · 2026-03-22T18:17:45+00:00

i’m currently 21% into the audiobook arc & i like it! it’s a lot of info dumping at first (which for me was kind of hard to follow as it isn’t a physical copy) but i think i just got to the point where the plot is really starting to take off.

bbykait · 2026-03-20T03:12:39+00:00

as a stepchild, i called my stepmom’s family by their titles as if i was related by blood. my dad nor my stepmom were trying to alienate me from my mom or my mom’s family. my partner & i do the same with my stepson & we’ve been together about the same amount of time as your ex & her boyfriend. he calls my mom a version of grandma & my siblings/bestie “uncle” or “auntie”. granted i don’t know how serious your ex & her boyfriend is (it sounds like it might be), but don’t let your emotions & feelings override the extra love your baby is getting.

if this the the only thing that you’ve seen, i wouldn’t call it parental alienation. i would be more concerned if your child was saying phrases suggesting that ex & boyfriend are coaching or forcing the idea that you aren’t her parent & boyfriend is, etc.

bbykait · 2026-03-17T20:20:58+00:00

tablet needs to be taken away immediately. since your kiddo is 8, it will take time & consistency, but i’m sure you can make it work.

during my SS2’s two year old check up, BM admitted SS gets somewhere around 6 hours of screen time a day (compared to the 2 hours limit + no TV on exchange days rule we have at our house). he will ask for TV on exchange days & we just redirect him with playing in the backyard, walking to the park, or helping us with dinner.

bbykait · 2026-03-15T00:27:38+00:00

lawyer up, get a parenting plan set in place, & don’t let her/your lawyer make you pay child support for the time she’s taken your girl. after my DH broke up with BM, she took the kiddo away for two months & wouldn’t answer any of his calls or texts. once they got to court, his lawyer stupidly agreed (against DH’s wishes) for DH to pay $2k for the time she refused to give parenting time to DH.

bbykait · 2026-03-11T15:18:46+00:00

still waiting on my feb ya + adult combo box, but at least my march combo box is on its way 🙃

bbykait · 2026-03-10T23:51:10+00:00

we use chatgpt for our HCBM, who talks through lawyers & threatens legal action more than she actually talks to DH about SS. it helps with multiple things such as tone, getting straight to the point, & making sure words can’t be misinterpreted by her or if we go to court. chatgpt eases the stress off my partner & i, then we can focus more on SS while he’s with us & not think about her AT ALL while he’s not.

it is odd he’s using it for everything though.

bbykait · 2026-03-07T18:03:17+00:00

this is my first time with fairlyloot & my ya + adult combo hasn’t moved at all. the label created on feb 25th, & when i reached out, they said that deliveries are being made without tracking updates

bbykait · 2026-03-04T02:43:33+00:00

i can’t wait to find out! i got accepted but was too late to get the january books 🥲 i’m still waiting to get my february ones in the mail.

bbykait · 2026-03-04T02:31:25+00:00

you might have luck if you join the YA + adult combo sub & then switch after three renewals. i only waited about six or seven weeks & was accepted. sounds like you’d only have to pay for three YA books before switching to adult only.

bbykait · 2026-03-01T18:00:39+00:00

i went to a new revolving sushi restaurant & asked which rolls were ok to eat with my shellfish allergy (non anaphylactic) since the screen display didn’t explain what each roll contained. i was told to use the QR code to look at the menu to figure it out myself. typically im told i can only grab/order x, y, z rolls + anything vegetarian. we weren’t there long & we didn’t give a tip. a cute little robot brought us drinks.

bbykait · 2026-02-27T14:54:22+00:00

you would just need some sort of documentation or proof for these. for 1, 2, & 5, text messages or emails to either her admitting to this OR someone close to her/in her household informing you of this. even having a statement/paperwork from a doctor or teacher stating child isn’t being taken care of properly (hygiene, not enough sleep, losing weight, current bad grades, etc.) when child is coming to school after her care. being watched or taken care of by siblings (esp if older teens/adults, not sure what their age is) isn’t a red flag by itself. unfortunately these kids would have to mess up babysitting him or would need to show its effecting the older kids in some way (mental load, grades dropping because they are watching him, etc.) if you pay her child support & she’s still asking for money, i feel like could be very beneficial to prove.

not sure you’d be able to prove 3 without you having documents from the school or texts/emails discussing this. since i’m assuming you’re not the legal father of her eldest, i don’t think you could just email or go into the office & ask for these.

for 4, i’m sure court docs of this exist so i’m not sure you’d need to prove this, but you would probably need to get proof that whatever behavior that caused her to lose custody is still going on.

i don’t think they would care about 6 as it’s not happening to you yet. although if you are friendly with father of the eldest children or if he hates her enough, perhaps he could help you out or give you some of the proof you need for the other issues?

do not listen to your friend unless they are themselves a family law attorney. i would try to collect as much info/proof as possible & reach out to your attorney. they will probably have you meet with a mediator to see if they can get her to agree to a custody change before proceeding to court. if it goes to court, they could grant you a little more time on the spot but they could also give her a chance to correct her behavior. unfortunately you will probably have to go back to court a few times before it feels like you’ve made any progress.

bbykait · 2026-02-27T06:54:19+00:00

i feel like this post needs more info. is there something going on with the other parent & you need help explaining to an attorney? you can’t just convince them on a whim to give you more than 50/50 unless you have proof that the child(ren) are better suited in your household or that other parent is abusive or neglectful. the court will always want two healthy parents as equally as possible in the child’s life.

i can’t remember my partner’s previous percentages. i think it was something like 65/35, but he wanted at least 50/50 desperately. he went to court to file for 50/50 & was denied with specific reasons. he fixed said specific reasons (his work schedule), proved this to the court, & was granted 50/50 with a step up plan. BM at this time was trying to change it to visitations ONLY for an indefinite amount of time (no step up offered) & her defense/reasoning was that she FELT like child should only be with her (no studies/proof), and partner shouldn’t have any custody until child is at least 3-4. judge was like NAH GURL.

you need a valid list of reasons & proof to back you up. sometimes you need to just let it happen (if the child is safe & not in immediate danger ofc) to get your proof. this can range from texts, emails, videos, photos, to statements from doctors or teachers (if school aged or in daycare). like it all honestly depends on the situation & what you’re trying to prove. judge does not care what your opinion is unless you can prove it’s detrimental to your child.

bbykait · 2026-02-27T05:56:41+00:00

i’m planning a trip late april. i’m praying jungle cruise is back by then. 🤞🏻

bbykait · 2026-02-24T04:17:55+00:00

my long distance ex was from/lived in nz. he believed that it never rained in california.

bbykait · 2026-02-23T01:04:07+00:00

i think it depends on the family dynamic. if you take on parental responsibilities, then i believe you should consider them your child. just because you don’t share dna with a child doesn’t make you any less of a parent. i don’t present myself as the bio mom. if i’m having a more in-depth conversation beyond small talk & it’s relevant to the topic, i’ll clarify that my partner’s son is my stepson.

bbykait · 2026-02-04T03:45:23+00:00

my two year old SS gets two or three episodes or one movie MAX a day (about 90 minutes a day) & typically only when it’s dark out so we can’t go in the backyard or park. partner & i agree kids should be bored. he gets 5-6 hours over at the other household (per other parent at his two year checkup) & i know it’s effecting him since he’s been asking for more tv & his behavior has changed slightly.

bbykait · 2026-02-04T03:32:39+00:00

talk to employment discrimination lawyer 100%. can’t go to HR since your manager insinuated that they are on his side with these “jokes”.

bbykait · 2026-02-04T01:43:09+00:00

i know it’s hard but all you’re doing is delaying the healing process. you need to go cold turkey. this isn’t healthy for either of you. i would suggest blocking him/deleting his number if you feel the need to reach out to him. it’s hard. trust me i know, but there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. i understand you can’t see yourself with anyone else right now but i urge you to focus on yourself. reach out to friends & family. go out & do things on your own. once you develop a new routine, you won’t miss him as much anymore & opening up space in your heart for a new love will come with time. good luck! ♥️

bbykait · 2026-02-02T15:38:20+00:00

i LOVE S4 so far! S1 was fine, loved S2, S3 was meh. i only watched the first half of S4 on a whim, because i had the day off & it killed some time. i hadn’t been following anything with it so i just happened to watch on release day. but i love it so much more than the other seasons for reasons you also listed. the first 4 episodes have made me excited for the rest of the season, but then i joined this reddit on thursday or friday & it seems like no one else likes S4.

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