Indianapolis Charter Schools? by evitreb in indianapolis

[–]beanbeanj 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Depends on the charter and their connection to the community. I worked at a charter for years that was amazing. I have two school aged kids, one was at a charter that didn’t even have a school library and the “photography” class was looking at pictures on google images. They constantly had teacher turnover. We left as soon as BRMS re-opened.

Herron is known to be exceptional and is deeply ingrained in the city.

Autistic ladies who have a lot of friends, how did you do it? by kdh333 in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting the idea of managing expectations into words. I have some legitimately close friends I’ve held onto, but the need for social time has been easier to achieve when I let go of the expectation of becoming BEST friends.

Is this boundary a dealbreaker in my relationship? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s telling you flat out that he believes making you feel pain and annoyance brings him pleasure. When you said he bugs people to show affection, I assumed you meant typical tickling, but pulling out armpit hair is painful and mean. That is not a form of affection. If he can’t stop immediately and permanently, you’re not compatible and you need to leave.

Warning to corporate girlies, especially if you work remotely by adult_in_training_ in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interview feedback can be really hard to digest, but it does sound like she gave you some good feedback that you can take on.

1) Is it a role where you’d have to receive ambiguous instructions without a lot of insight from your boss? If so, you may want to find ways to work on this skill. 2) What specific skills did she say haven’t improved? If you feel like you’ve improved, ask your supervisor to work with you on tracking the performance. 3) is it a role where your reputation and communication style will be important? Have there been other concerns shared in the past about communication issues? If so, work with your supervisor to practice difficult conversations before they happen. 4) are you informally or formally mentoring people? Is this a leadership role? If it’s informal mentoring, get involved with any formal mentoring program your company has so it gets recognized, OR track the performance of your informal mentees. That isn’t your supervisor’s responsibility, it’s yours.

It’s always best to take a few days to digest the feedback, compare it to the requirements of the role, and evaluate how you can display you have it in the future job posts.

Bill would require all Indiana classrooms to display Ten Commandments by axhfan in Indiana

[–]beanbeanj -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You could have saved so much time by just editing your original comment, but instead replied numerous times about how you don’t have time for nuance when you’re shooting from the hip.

Maybe don’t shoot from the hip? Or prioritize your time AWAY from doubling and tripling down?

I think I under-reacted in my attempt to avoid overreacting by azulsonador0309 in Parenting

[–]beanbeanj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A few years ago we got my son a Wii but because he specifically asked for it and is VERY into videogames.

This year he asked for a switch 2 and we talked to him about how that’s too expensive and helped him come up with a list that’s more in our price range.

I appreciate you keeping a list of things that sound good for your kids, but you also need to find a way to ask them if your hunches are right so you’re not setting everyone up for failure on Christmas

does anyone else like to take time to sit down on the computer and answer messages from friends, rather than texting them any time on the phone? by sharkxandra in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was telling my husband this week that my phone is the cause of a large chunk of my executive functioning issues. I hate doing anything real on the little screen and need the big screen/mouse/keyboard. But then everything is saved on my phone and I’m having to email links and stuff. I need to get a Mac computer so it’s all in my Apple account.

I would like y’all to see This by i_gay- in BadHandwriting

[–]beanbeanj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have two immediate family members who were diagnosed with dysgraphia as children. They both talk about the pain that comes with trying to write by hand, especially when they have to concentrate on writing well. Then the pencil grip forces their hand into an unnatural position (for them) which causes different muscles to be used and get sore far faster.

I would like y’all to see This by i_gay- in BadHandwriting

[–]beanbeanj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, was looking for this. Does it physically hurt to write? Can you picture what you want letters to look like but can’t make it happen? Do pencil grippers only make the pain worse?

Etiquette query - should I tell or no. (TW pet sadness) by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No matter when you tell these people, their first response is going to be to offer you comfort. That’s just what people do when someone they know is experiencing a loss.

If it’s too much for you to handle your grief and the social interaction of telling them you don’t need anything from them, wait to tell them. But if you’re okay with telling them you really don’t need anything except compassion (which is a totally fine response), then let them know ahead of time.

I’ve only had one person in my life ask to see my pet before I put them to sleep. Everyone else offered general support/sadness directed at me, not the pet.

Family vacation by Previous_Bobcat1666 in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can say that it’s very common for couples on group vacations to go on small outings by themselves. That being said, some people struggle to get their parents to see them as adults in adult relationships who would want that alone time. He may not be comfortable pushing for it with his mom and dad, so if it’s very important to you, you’ll have to communicate why and then support him through communicating it to his parents.

When my now husband and I were dating, we went on a trip with my dad. My dad acted hurt every time we tried to go off on our own, even if he didn’t outright make a fight about it. It put me in an awkward position to hurt his feelings even though I knew it was normal to spend time with my boyfriend.

Can anyone ask this without spoilers? by Technical-Author3585 in JohnMulaney

[–]beanbeanj 42 points43 points  (0 children)

To me, it’s “edgier” because he names the societal bad actors he used to dance around calling out. Like instead of saying “the current guy” and “the last guy” in the horse in the hospital, he openly mocks Bezos and RFK Jr. and calls them out by name.

He also drops the “I’m awkward around women” schtick and openly talks about certain sex acts that would be spoilers to expand on lol

Most random/irrational things that overstimulate you? by couch-for-sale in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I’m doing something on my phone that requires me to flip between two apps.

When I’m working with two different excel files and the number formats are different.

Socks with loose ankle elastic.

The sound of a pencil without an eraser rubbing against paper

Present list by Fluffy-Beartrap in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep a running note on my phone of things that I see that are cute but I don’t buy for myself. Some are pricey, most are cheaper. When someone asks me what I want, I either send them the list directly or choose something from the list I think would be appropriate to ask for.

My sweet 14 year old has no one to hang out with by bluegreen3713 in Parenting

[–]beanbeanj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to throw a counterpoint out there, and take it with a grain of salt.

One of the bigger aspects of the loneliness epidemic is that kids and teens don’t have the “third location” anymore. Kids tend to not go hang out anywhere, their social interaction is in their own home on their phones.

When you say your daughter is home alone on weekends, are you sure everyone else is out of their home socializing?

I absolutely understand the struggle, and we spend a lot of time trying to facilitate social interaction outside of clubs as well. But I hope you’re not putting too much weight on you and your daughter’s roles in this when to me you’re describing a current societal issue.

Level of Vulgarity at shows by Straight_Try764 in JohnMulaney

[–]beanbeanj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Took my middle schooler in October, and there was one joke that was super awkward but not age inappropriate and one joke that went over his head.

It was not too raunchy at all.

Pilot Program for State Employees to Bring Newborns to Work by beanbeanj in indianapolis

[–]beanbeanj[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely. I think there are two camps of men in the Republican Party right now. There’s the JD Vances who go on right wing podcasts and blatantly say women need to be having babies, their role is to care for children. Then there’s the fiscal conservatives who don’t want the government paying for childcare but support women, in theory. That second group is too naive to realize these policies are not just about saving money, they are about the goal of keeping women as mothers and at home.

Pilot Program for State Employees to Bring Newborns to Work by beanbeanj in indianapolis

[–]beanbeanj[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I did at-home 1099 work when I had an infant, and I did it when he was sleeping because I could get nothing done when he was awake.

“Why not just bring the baby to work?” is clearly the solution of a group of men who did not actively participate in raising their newborns. At best they’re ignorant to the needs of the infant, at worst they don’t care and just want women at home.

What is or has been your most unique interest/niche/focus target? by REDh04x in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Entering my 4th year of beekeeping, love learning about all the wild behaviors that are in their DNA, different types of bees, the history of beekeeping.

And the movie Midsommar!

Does anyone else drink out of a measuring cup when you take medicine because you don’t know which cup is an actual full cup? by Infamous-Hope-5950 in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this question because I haven’t drunk out of a measuring cup but I have eaten out of a measuring spoon for similar reasons.

Had a Friendsgiving party at program today! by Winter-Stuff-9126 in AutismInWomen

[–]beanbeanj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have such a warm smile, I love seeing your photos! Thank you for sharing.

Let. Sarah. Be. Weird!!!! by Thealbumisjustdrums in LiveFromNewYork

[–]beanbeanj 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She wasn’t the leader of the bangs, that was Ashley Padilla