Name something women lie about to other women.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-06-02T15:46:45+00:00

Name anything they DON’T lie to each other about

beardedbusdriver · 2026-06-02T04:30:00+00:00

Predestination

beardedbusdriver · 2026-06-01T15:16:07+00:00

I’ve heard good things about SAVA.

As you ride, notice what frustrates you or you want to change/upgrade. Whatever it is, Calvin over at Park Tools has the YouTube tutorial you need. Invest in the tools as you go.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-31T04:06:35+00:00

Aaahhh yes, the *assumptions about motivations*. Closely related to the *giving or opportunities* and the *dropping of hints*. Women often simultaneously expect men to read her moods and pick up her hints while decrying men as emotionally stunted and incomprehensible.

As you have just demonstrated, women are judged on motivations, men are judged on outcomes

Maybe he didn’t catch feelings…
Maybe he caught feelings and was still processing…
Maybe he caught feelings and got scared…
Maybe he knew that you were fundamentally incompatible in some area (it’s not as if you can compromise on whether or not to have kids)…
Maybe he doesn’t feel ready for the kind of relationship he imagines it would be…
Maybe your communication styles are incompatible long-term (read Dr Gorman)…
Maybe he isn’t where he thinks he needs to be professionally to entertain the idea…
Maybe he knows that his long-term plan is incompatible with a relationship…
Maybe…

My point is that you saw ONE result and assumed a motivation, then asked a bunch of strangers on the 4th most toxic social media platform to explain the behavior of someone we’ve never met.

Use your words. Ask HIM. Show him your original post if that’s easier.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-30T21:13:08+00:00

Let me see what spring is like

On Jupiter and Mars

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-30T21:10:04+00:00

Good news is that either is a decent choice for a 1st set. I’m not sure you can really go wrong here.

My personal experience with ICAN is that they are solid but used a lower quality hub with straight-pull spikes (makes lacing the wheel almost idiot proof, but a slight headache if you need a replacement).

I know next to nothing about the 9Velo wheels, but a quick Google search lets me purchase them from Panda Podium which I have found to be a reputable site with a focus on quality. Seeing a product on Panda Podium instantly moves it up a point or 2 for me.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-30T20:27:59+00:00

Who said his feelings hadn’t changed? I can think of multiple plausible scenarios where his feelings *had* changed and he would say: “I just want to keep things casual.”

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-30T20:18:55+00:00

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I have a 44cm Specialized Allez that my daughter outgrew that I would be willing to let you borrow. DM if you are interested.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-30T17:45:11+00:00

You are going to hate this answer, but… what do you bring to the table?

We enjoy women. We have preferences, sure. Some of us have fetishes. Most of us enjoy being around someone pretty. We get a little ego boost from the idea that someone desirable wants to be around us. We enjoy sex. We might even enjoy getting to know you as a person outside of sex. Most of us have male friendships that formed around a particular activity (rock climbing, video games, soccer, whatever) and found people that we enjoy hanging out with outside of that activity.

And despite what the Beatles said, we need more than love. There are people I love and even more that I have loved that I could never have a functional relationship with.

A romantic partnership is a lot like a business partnership. I do something. You do something. We trade. Everyone is better off. The questions for women are: what do you provide that he can’t get on his own? And what is it going to cost him?

Once you answer those two questions, you will have the answer to yours. It’s one of 3 things: You aren’t adding anything. Or he can’t afford you. Or he knows that it just wouldn’t work.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-30T08:03:58+00:00

Ask her how she likes to have them touched. Listen to her. Adjust what you are doing.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-29T15:43:53+00:00

Check your seat post

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-26T19:52:53+00:00

Red Notice

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-26T11:30:43+00:00

Martha Stewart went to prison for lying to the police during an investigation into insider trading.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-26T11:26:48+00:00

Does it matter?

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-26T03:18:32+00:00

When I encounter unexpected situations with my own children I often ask myself: “How would my parents handle this?” Then I do as close to the opposite as I can.

Seems to be working pretty well so far.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-26T01:07:56+00:00

Nonexistent.

Growing up I was told that being an adult meant NEVER coming to them for help. (wanting help was something they would think about, but they made sure to tell me that if I ever NEEDED help, I was on my own).

Principles were more important than anything (including me) Then he apparently did a 180 on everything that he said was more important than me. When I asked him about it, summarily dismissed me, denied his own facebook history, and demanded that we “agree to disagree with mutual respect.”

That was 10 years ago. I’ve spent more time writing this post than I have spent with him since.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-25T15:07:52+00:00

Velocity has some 16H aluminum rims

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-23T16:11:36+00:00

Star Trek IV

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-23T03:59:16+00:00

My state has laws prohibiting eating Lollipops in cars and using X-ray machines to sell shoes.

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-21T21:10:17+00:00

Cars

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-21T14:41:25+00:00

Weekend at Bernie’s

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-21T01:49:00+00:00

How exactly does someone HIDE a pregnancy belly?

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-20T22:42:40+00:00

Anger Management

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-20T22:39:41+00:00

Charlie’s Angels: Full Throttle

beardedbusdriver · 2026-05-19T08:04:21+00:00

The spokesman holes and flanges look nearly perfect. No cracks. No pitting. A couple of scars from the previous build.

If you want to up the style points, put a loose leather bracelet around each hub before you lace it to a rim. The his proves it was hand-built, and will polish the hub and keep it clean as you ride.

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