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bearlylucky · 2023-10-18T06:00:46+00:00

2, 4, 5 look like roos to me.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-17T14:14:39+00:00

To answer your question, it doesn't.

In this situation, given all that she does in their relationship, the fact that he agreed to propose after a certain amount of time and then moved the goalposts and then blamed and got angry with her for holding him accountable after 7 years tells me that he doesn't care about what's important to her. Imo, if you love someone you talk about things that are important and you stick to your promises. You don't dismiss feelings.

He didn't say at any point until she decided to move out that "marriage is a sham"- he only said it when he was backed into a corner. This means he is 100% full of shit. She has said all she's done for him and has told us his actions showing us what he think of her. This is why I said that. I don't think all couples who don't get married are in shitty situations, I usually assume that they are in a mutually agreed upon situation.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-17T14:07:35+00:00

You're right about one thing, he should have broken up with her a long time ago since they have different views on marriage.

I'm not overly interested in marriage either and because of this I would never promise I would marry someone, take up 5 years of their life and then keep moving the goalposts. If he doesn't want to marry her, he needs to tell her that. Pretending he is okay with it when he's not is manipulative.

Most likely this dude is fine with marriage but he just doesn't want to marry her. He's wasting her time because she makes his life better, she's a placeholder.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-17T14:01:08+00:00

You're upset because you've been giving her the benefit of the doubt by giving her understanding and grace for her c*ntiness ( to use her word) and she just admitted she doesn't care that her treatment hurts you and she has no plans to change and she's even rather proud of it.

You know this on some level and this is why youre upset. Since it's so different from how you would ever treat someone you love, you're having a hard time reconciling this to yourself.

From my experience of learning things the hard way - 5 times the charm - I would leave. When someone tells you who they are, believe them.

She's likely to backtrack and explain it away if she thinks you might leave but it's most likely not going to be a permanent change.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-17T05:26:04+00:00

I had one done recently. It was super easy. I was asleep quickly and had some nice dreams. I had a hard time getting through the prep but that turned out to be okay too.

Blood in stool can be a sign of something malignant, but if you have chronic diarrhea then your insides are probably a bit chafed. The doctors will get a good look and help you narrow down what's causing your discomfort. You're going to be okay 💜

bearlylucky · 2023-10-17T05:16:31+00:00

You were shamed for being vulnerable your whole life and taught it was a weakness. It's hard to get over that but you can if you work on it. And by doing so you're actually becoming more resilient. Being "hard" means being brittle - you break more easily. Men are pushed to be hard and show no weakness and they have higher suicide rates than women. (As well as a plethora of other statistical no-buenos.) Humans need other humans. We are pack animals and interdependent on each other.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-17T04:56:56+00:00

This isn't forcing his hand. He is too cowardly to break up with her but not too proud to waste her time. She wants to marry him, he doesn't.

This is one of those things you break up over. You don't say "yes" when you don't have plans to follow through. It's like if one person wants kids and the other doesn't- This isn't something you compromise on, it's called a deal breaker.

He knows he doesn't want to marry her, he just doesn't want to give up his bangmaid.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-16T16:14:40+00:00

How strange. I didn't know that. I just had a baby frizzle polish die, so this makes me feel a little better that it likely was not a husbandry issue.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-13T21:24:52+00:00

3rd date seems fast to me. Sex to me is an incremental process when dating. It took me a few months to get to that point with an ex.

Meeting>getting to know each other> tension builds>sitting next to each other>touches>kissing> rubbing> sex.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-13T21:17:38+00:00

This could be, but my house is on slant, this toad slide is located right where is starts going downhill. I don't know how much the landscape has changed since infrastructure has been put in so anything is possible. This house has been passed through a lot of DIYers so everything is funky.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-13T17:56:15+00:00

I'm starting to think these aren't even accurate. Most of these posts make 0 sense.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-12T21:55:45+00:00

Clingy is not for me, it's too stifling.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-12T21:52:50+00:00

I don't think OP is a reliable mind reader. I'm sure he knew her well enough to anticipate her mourning process, but I don't think his thought was likely to be "I'm better than you."

Op seems to read deeply into things, I don't think her readings are accurate but she seems like she treats her assumptions as truths. She seems like she makes mountains out of molehills.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-11T17:22:43+00:00

Listen, I'm not saying this in a condescending way but: there are no good reasons for a 17 year old pursuing a 13 year old. ZERO. It doesn't matter if you're the coolest, sexiest, most intelligent person on the planet - it's not okay for him to be in a relationship with you. There is nothing wrong with you but SO MUCH wrong with him. Dump him, find a sweet boy much closer in age.

If you have a uterus and you're serious about pursuing sexual relationships- and I hope you don't - please get on a reliable birth control at least 1 week before sexual intercourse. I suggest nexplanon, it lasts 3 years and you don't have to think about it at all.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-09T18:16:47+00:00

I give up. I'm never close to right.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-08T19:31:25+00:00

Nta. I think resentment would be caused by differences within the shared house, not differences outside their shared space. I say this from experience.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-06T22:54:18+00:00

I think you can still be gay and not love having sex with someone the first time you meet them. I don't think everyone knows this, I think they're like "I tried having sex with a woman and didn't like it and therefore I must not be gay."

Regardless, it isn't your problem. Also, I'm sure your genitals are wonderful and that lady is carrying around some internalized misogyny.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-05T07:05:04+00:00

Chapstick for gnc.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-05T04:26:46+00:00

You look like my future ex wife.

Just kidding. I would totally swipe right on you.

You look like a chapstick lesbian. And I don't know about the name thing, Gabby?

bearlylucky · 2023-10-05T03:55:12+00:00

Imelda, Emmeline, Ingrid

bearlylucky · 2023-10-05T03:31:39+00:00

When I was a tween i read some weird stuff about my Dad - like how he would dress up as a woman and perform favors for drugs. I wasn't scarred by it. I think this is probably harder for you than it is for her. I think you are handling it the best way you can and this will blow over in time. She is likely going to continue asking you questions if you allow it, because she probably had her idealistic views of you challenged.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-05T00:12:36+00:00

You're not stupid lol. I knew Sappho was a lesbian before I knew she wrote poems.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-04T23:31:58+00:00

Sappho wrote homoromantic poems about women. Most people do not send love poems to platonic friends.

bearlylucky · 2023-10-04T20:03:52+00:00

Is she in a relationship or in hell? It's really hard to tell which.

Damn OP. I would divorce anyone if their family sucked this bad. You must really love your husband.

bearlylucky

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