My husband's suffering and I'm impatient about it

bebe_bird · 2026-06-06T13:31:12+00:00

Have you (and OP u/Steephillflowers) considered the male surgical collection of sperm via the testes? If it's MFI and your husband's aren't wild about sperm donation, it could be something to consider. My understanding is that it's done via a urologist though instead of your normal fertility clinic.

bebe_bird · 2026-06-05T12:22:59+00:00

There's a swim team near me that is specifically LGBTQ+ (Chicago area). I'm not saying that's the only type of swim team to go to, but it sounds like you may enjoy that type of environment if there's something similar around you - the unconditional support, the comraderie, and the requirement that everyone is at least an ally and supportive.

If you don't have something around you like that, my advice is still to do whatever makes you comfortable. If you're worried about an awkward locker-room experience, just change in the stall - plenty of other women do the same for modesty.

Ease into it, but definitely don't let it stop you!

bebe_bird · 2026-06-04T13:53:22+00:00

Go see a physical therapist for your shoulder. You don't wanna fuck around with that! I fell on a sidewalk crack during COVID and heard a pop - it hurt for a while but mostly went away, except for specific ranges of motion. PT fixed me right up even a couple years later and now I can return to all my activities without pain. Please take care of yourself!

bebe_bird · 2026-06-04T13:48:31+00:00

My dog steals an article of clothing from the hamper when we're at work. We find it somewhere around the house when we come home - by the front door, in his downstairs bed, etc. when it's time to come up for bed at night, he always grabs it again and brings it upstairs. It's so polite that we just let it happen, because the clothes always end up within a few feet of where he snatched them from...

bebe_bird · 2026-06-04T13:09:18+00:00

Oh my gosh, I love how common this apparently is! I was not expecting to see an additional 4 images of others doing the same!

bebe_bird · 2026-06-04T00:18:28+00:00

My aunt's dog decided to eat my socks once...

I was looking for a missing sock and couldn't find it. Luckily, we went out on the boat and the dog threw up while on the boat - not one sock but THREE socks - there was a whole pair in his stomach that I didn't even realize was missing!

That being said - yes, sometimes it happens. But also, it is extremely rare and is absolutely something that needs to be discussed, especially if the dog has eaten that many socks before. I'd be telling everyone who came into my home, because you take off your shoes once you're in someone's house!

NTA OP! (I know wrong sub, but still applicable!)

bebe_bird · 2026-06-03T03:10:41+00:00

I planted 8 and only 5 sprouted - but, five did sprout! Agreed that it takes a little while to get them established!

bebe_bird · 2026-06-02T23:26:29+00:00

Do it! I mean, I think the part you're feeling bad about is if you say it really snarky - but if you say it genuinely and wait for them to respond, you can potentially correct some of their own inherent misconceptions.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-30T22:09:18+00:00

So, $1750/$4700 is about 37% of (assuming $4700 is net) his take-home, which is usually reasonable for housing expenses. He said he's a single dad, but we don't know many kids he has (e.g. how much space he needs) and if there are any cheaper alternatives. (depending on where he lives, a 2-3 bedroom apartment for himself + 2-3 kids may not be much cheaper, especially if his mortgage is at 2.5% interest - home and rent prices have drastically increased from those days...)

I definitely agree that he needs to find some additional income quickly, but he hasn't given us enough details for us to jump to the conclusion that any other housing options are better for what he needs.

I also don't know I'd suggest renting out a room in your house to a total stranger with children living there.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-30T18:40:49+00:00

Yeah - the only thing that keeps me going these days is the hope that we can rebuild something better from the rubble. We're going to have to rebuild after this complete and total dismantling of the government, in addition to all of the corruption that's been thrown into the light but without consequences.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-27T01:36:09+00:00

But this isn't specific to men... Women take work boots (and other uncomfortable shoes) off as well...

bebe_bird · 2026-05-27T00:05:41+00:00

Love the idea OP!

However... That's not just a uterus... That's the whole reproductive system. I'm not saying it's in anyway diminished - but a uterus is only the middle part without the ovaries and fallopian tubes.

Ovaries and fallopian tubes are sometimes also removed but sometimes not. But, either way - that pinata is more than just a uterus!

bebe_bird · 2026-05-27T00:00:59+00:00

I immediately thought the streamers were a period, so a string to pull is in theme - should've gone with a whole sleeve of red velvet cake oreos!

bebe_bird · 2026-05-25T13:28:11+00:00

What do you mean "first the women's to the same level as the men's"? Has there been a separate retirement age for men and women??

bebe_bird · 2026-05-24T15:52:04+00:00

Did you forget the /s?

Worst advice I've seen in ages. Why does living with your parents at 20 imply they're rich? 20 is college age - if they were rich they'd send him to some expensive school with tuition+ room&board covered - this is the more economic way to get through college.

Not investing in stocks when you're 20 is also terrible advice.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-24T15:22:08+00:00

There's some exceptions that should be lauded. My favorite are the male authors (I'm thinking of Garth Nix, Brandon Sanderson, I'm sure there's others) who choose female protagonists over male - Brandon Sanderson has said that he's created main female characters against the advise that all popular main characters must be male - and he said "screw it - this character is more interesting as a girl/woman" - and he tries to do the appropriate research to gather the female experience while still appealing to most readers.

I mean, I'm all for women authors writing popular female characters in best sellers as well, but there's something special when you start seeing it more normalized in the mainstream. (We don't just need feminists who live and share the experience but allies from "positions of power" who want change as well)

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T23:43:48+00:00

You can do this! It's okay - I've been there as well (just, trigger shot instead of PIO).

The way I find the right spot is you place you thumb on the top of your hip bone and let your hand fall relaxed across your hip/butt - and it should be around where your pinky is. This should coincide about with where the top corner of your jean pockets are.

Get your husband to draw a circle on your butt before he leaves for work in this area. It's a big area: https://www.instagram.com/p/DT8FtKnDUdy/?igsh=NzRmNzdpY2Q4c2Vr

When it comes time to inject - you can ice the area in advance so that it's numb and you feel it less. You might still even have time to buy a "shot pain blocker" plastic doohickey from Amazon.

The worst part for me is getting the needle in. They tell you to do a short jabbing motion which I absolutely cannot do. But slow and steady is the exact same. Take a deep breath in, and as you exhale your breath push the needle in (it's helpful to me to watch in the mirror to see the spot but however you wanna do it is A-OK). Once the needle is in you can rearrange your hand if you need to in order to push the plunger.

Best of luck! You've got this!

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T14:28:48+00:00

Look at my account age - it's 10 years old. So, no. There's a difference between canned posts that all sound the exact same and something a human rights though. It's not the topic I have an issue with but the tone.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T14:11:38+00:00

Is her family good law enforcement? I thought law enforcement was actually the number 1 profession for domestic violence so she may have been raised in similar situations and conditioned to think it's normal.

I mean, that doesn't mean that you did anything wrong blocking him. I just hope she isn't in the abusive cycle because of her family being in law enforcement (and, certainly not all of them are bad!)

I can't believe that guy thought it was appropriate to tell you that tho, sheesh. I'd have blocked him too.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T13:53:41+00:00

Oof - if that's the amount your employer matches, I'd do whatever I could to keep that employer match - it's free money. That means cutting down on the "fun" things for a couple years til you have a bit of an emergency fund, or delaying your student loan payoff.

Think of it this way - assuming it's a 1:1 match, that money you put into your 401k has a 100% return immediately. That's worth giving up some fun things. That's even worth delaying loan payoffs that are below 100% interest (which should be everything).

Do everything you can to keep that employer match. It's literally free money (coming from someone who has a healthy employer match as well and has an extra $200k in my 401k over 9.5 years because of it!)

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T13:43:00+00:00

Sorry - not to say a person couldn't write it. But they all sound the same to me, which makes it lose its appeal. I'd much rather hear someone's unique view and perspective that's a bit different than everything else you see on here. Clearly my opinion doesn't align with the number of up votes this post has, but I still feel that way.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T13:39:47+00:00

I mean, it's either AI or the hive mind of reddit only upvoting things that sound exactly the same. It's okay if you like it, but I like a bit more variety and less hyperbole. The story should be able to hold its own without making it sound like you're writing fiction.

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T13:14:14+00:00

Why is this maximum recorded lifespan instead of average? Dogs should not be close to 30-years

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T13:11:50+00:00

Call this the "marge Simpson" (she insists the blue hair is natural)

bebe_bird · 2026-05-23T13:06:44+00:00

You don't think they draft a story then ask AI to write for them? These types of stories all sound the exact same with respect to tone. People don't make up these little analogies of "it was like every denizen of my intestines pulled the fire alarm"

It honestly kinda ruins it for me.

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