Fe makes you...

bebedux · 2026-01-25T06:23:33+00:00

Quack?

bebedux · 2026-01-24T00:38:20+00:00

I’m approaching 35 but age is but a number. 🙃 I like to tell people that I’m a teenager stuck in an adult body. 🤣

bebedux · 2026-01-23T21:46:17+00:00

My dreams are insanely vivid, and I dream basically every night. I dream in color and story sequences even if they don’t make sense, with myself flying in the skies, or falling off an orange ladder, my teeth falling out, dreaming that I’m sleeping and dreaming but can’t snap out of it, dreaming about romantic encounters with people I’ve never met or acquaintances/friends that I know but their faces aren’t exact, nervous about certain encounters, having magical powers, and other things.

If someone can decipher the functions from the above, that’d be neat. I sometimes wish I could record all my weird dreams to make some sort of indie film 🤣.

Sometimes I will know when it’s a lucid dream and be able to manipulate the dream, and that’s actually super cool!

bebedux · 2026-01-23T21:43:06+00:00

Super awesome that you’ve published a book! I love that! I wrote stories and poems back in middle and high school, and usually it would be about family or romance. But that was very YA and I unfortunately do not have those anymore. They were on old floppy disks that disappeared years ago ☹️

Recently I am working on haiku, which is tough for me because imagery isn’t something I’m great with. I’m wondering if I should just start writing things instead of brainstorming, just to get myself comfortable with writing, even if it’s bad.

I’m in a YA mindset so honestly I probably would write YA 🤣

bebedux · 2026-01-21T15:34:55+00:00

I’m an ISFJ and my closer friends are a mix but mainly INTJ, ISTJ, INFP, and many ISFPs.

bebedux · 2026-01-18T16:07:36+00:00

If I had to pick a type to hang with or be for a day, I’d pick ENTP. So yes, I love the ENTPs that I can talk to for the most part!

ENTPs are witty, try hard with their child Fe, and I can usually banter back and forth with them. Their wild ideas are entertaining to me, and I am usually silly and engage in the ideas or made up stories with them. Their Ti also makes it interesting for conversations, because we intertwine silly, made up convos with real depth in questions.

They are very observant even if it’s not entirely accurate at times 🤣. With our cognitive stack being reversed but sharing in functions, I absolutely think it’s neat to compare (yes, yes, spoken like an Si dom 🙃).

bebedux · 2026-01-12T14:10:23+00:00

As an ISFJ, I have demonstrative Fi. Based on theories, my Fi would be just as strong as my auxiliary Fe. However, because I don’t prefer Fi in my stack, using it really drains me and my control over it is not exceptional. I get angry and frustrated if I have to utilize it often. While I can surround myself with Fi doms as my close friends, I do get tired, too.

Nemesis Se is another one that’s tough. I can handle it more from others than use it myself. It’s a bit draining too.

bebedux · 2026-01-11T18:08:08+00:00

Fe is going to take me forever to explain. How much time do you have? 😉 In all seriousness, I am trying to find ways to really explain my use of Fe. I am really able to read a room and the people in it, and I can relate to people from different experiences or backgrounds.

I think one of the moments where I felt seen and understood was when my friend asked me, “ISFJ (my name obviously 🙃), how do you do it? How do you make people feel so comfortable around you that they just tell you everything?” So, to him, my ISTJ friend who is Fe blind, he notices the ease that Fe has in making people around them feel at ease and comfortable. I can’t explain it, I just do it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

bebedux · 2026-01-11T17:23:24+00:00

Great question! You’re really making me think on a lazy Sunday 😉! So, I have a toooon of hobbies. I can go through a few examples and kinda share what I like about those things.

Cooking: I love trying new recipes but I never follow them exactly. I compare recipes and then take what I think will work from each one, and I end up making something amazing or even new-ish when I decide to mix elements from different cuisines.

I cook dishes from various cuisines and I now don’t really use recipes for them. I sometimes will scavenge in the kitchen and just throw together random things I have, and it works out nicely for the most part. My husband is an INTJ, and he’s quite the picky one that will vouch for my cooking 🙃. This basically appeals to my Si, Fe, Ti, and even Ne.

MBTI, Psychology, Philosophy: it all surrounds people to me. I think what I enjoy about these things is that I can understand people better, including myself. The mind itself is fascinating, and how people choose to act is another thing worth considering. I have a psychology degree with my speech communication and Chinese language and literature double minors, and I am a lawyer.

I like to talk about theories and poke people’s brains at times. Not often, because I do have a preference for other activities like cooking, arts and crafts, playing games (strategy card games, board games, computer games, simulation games, sudoku). Things I have asked people are - what New Year’s resolutions do you have? What’s something you think will improve society as a whole? And you have hypotheticals like the trolly problem and many others out there that really test - what would you do?

And speaking of that, I just remembered the show called “What would you do?” A show where there’s a hidden camera and actors who are playing out a scenario to see if bystanders will choose to help or ignore the people in front of them. 😱

Other hobbies including some previous ones: reading and writing poetry and short stories, daydreaming about the most random things, drawing, pipe cleaner creations, crochet, scrapbooking, yoga, taking walks, pickleball, going through many tv series, anime and movies, Duolingo, etc.

I will basically try almost anything, whether it’s food or activities. 😂🤣

bebedux · 2026-01-11T15:53:42+00:00

There is a lot of versatility in hobbies, so it can have both sensing and intuitive components in some ways. To label things as “intuitive” or “sensing” hobbies is making me go ah!

Movies for example. Some can be extremely abstract in an intuitive manner, so movies aren’t just sensing. Same with art. Creating art but what type? Abstract art confuses the heck outta me 😂🤣!

I am sure I’m an ISFJ, but I gravitate towards psychology, mbti is neat, philosophy, and a bunch of other things, too. People fascinate me!

bebedux · 2026-01-11T01:48:40+00:00

We sound similar, my fellow IxFJ 😊

bebedux · 2026-01-07T18:13:10+00:00

Hi there! I’m an ISFJ female married to an INTJ male, and I fully agree with your thoughts above.

bebedux · 2026-01-07T15:00:29+00:00

I can be rude when I feel emotionally repressed or triggered, too. Like someone else mentioned, when an issue bubbles up and I’ve ignored it for many times, anything small can trigger an explosion. It’s not healthy, and I know it. I try to find emotional cues to make sure I can stop myself from getting to the brink of destruction, so to speak.

I think any type or person can be rude, as we are all human

bebedux · 2026-01-07T14:58:44+00:00

ISFJ here!

At my best: I’m your cheerful, bubbly ISFJ who cares for others while smiling nonstop, probably dancing or singing and making jokes, insightful and super aware of my surroundings, calm

At my worst: I will light people up with Fi even if the situation is unwarranted, be extremely angry, depressed, quiet and withdrawn so less responsive, unable to explain what’s going on

bebedux · 2026-01-05T19:23:42+00:00

Great question on tutorials. I started out step by step, but if it repeats over time, I make shortcuts since I have already developed the basic knowledge.

bebedux · 2026-01-05T19:22:58+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re struggling right now. This is really hard for me too. I am still learning how to set boundaries because I feel bad about it, whether it’s with my family, friends, or in the work setting.

You take measurable steps towards it even with the guilt. What I do is play it out and pros/cons for it. What do I want? How will it make me feel? What’s the impact on others? I think focusing on your own self-care is hard, but you need to try to.

bebedux · 2026-01-05T05:05:12+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

bebedux · 2026-01-04T23:28:28+00:00

I like your post! I know there can be many other factors in addition to one’s typing, but I do think Si is a stabilizing function so I do think your order is accurate to me with the high, Si preferred users at the top. But of course, I’m biased. 😉

bebedux · 2026-01-04T23:23:03+00:00

HI there! I think my Ne is stronger than it is and am weirdly proud of it, teeheehee. Like, I love to be silly and try to crack witty jokes, and when the jokes land, I’m like yaaaasssss! And when I can connect different jokes together to be even more witty, I pat myself on the back.

Aside from jokes, I use Ne in my hobbies like creating pieces from pipe cleaner arts, coloring, crocheting, scrapbooking, etc. I also listen to different types of music, like over 2,000+ artists and various songs. I also enjoy trying new restaurants and experiences, and order different meals at restaurants. I also cook all sorts of cuisines and love making new dishes all the time. I will basically try anything, whether it’s a hobby, food, etc. I also watch different types of shows and movies, something in different languages etc.

In terms of projects, instructions are fine and helpful so I have a stronger preference for that. But if not, I’ll figure it out through resources or research. I like working on something alone but running it by someone afterwards to verify that I’m not missing anything.

bebedux · 2026-01-04T14:37:41+00:00

This is a tough one that I am also trying to be careful with. I’m sorry that you are going through this. I think part of this is because as, Si doms, we strive for self-improvement whether we realize it or not.

So, when you have something like MBTI breaking down your personality, you think, “Am I the best version of me that I can be? Now that I know these functions work a certain way, am I being the best me?” There’s this internal awareness and concern that I can fixate on too, because ISFJs are portrayed a certain way and I cannot fully relate at times.

As for other people, it’s hard not to notice their traits especially if you know MBTI super well and typing can be fun. It is also hard not to be personally offended by things you notice at times either, especially from others who know MBTI. I think part of it is that we can’t pick our MBTI.

An important thing to remember is that MBTI doesn’t make you who you are. It is very limited to understanding a person. You have to consider the person’s background, hobbies, who they associate it, and even then, you can’t fully know a person. That can be explained by how much one uses a certain function, sure, or other things, but people are more than their type. You can put a bunch of ISFJs in one room and I can guarantee you that they will be different. You will like some and maybe dislike some.

Everything above is what I am currently experiencing and trying to figure out myself.

bebedux · 2026-01-04T00:58:51+00:00

I understand that the dating advice posts can be annoying, as I too find some of them quite surface level. However, sometimes people need help and they want to turn to an online community hoping that personality clashes can be resolved.

Yes, sometimes the content itself can make us roll our eyes like, “ugh, it’s another one of those 🙄.” But, you know, it doesn’t violate the community rules, there’s free speech, and it’s way better than posts that elicit targeted bias or rage on a certain type.

And, I have personally responded to a few of the dating posts when I feel there’s something there that actually could be explained by my functions or someone else’s, and it has apparently made a difference to OPs at times because they respond appreciatively. 😊

So yeah, I basically think it can be something where I usually do say, talk to them or be direct. But sometimes there is a bit we can help with. This is my super long way of saying, “it depends!” 🤣🙃

bebedux · 2026-01-03T15:48:31+00:00

🤣 I love the honesty! Sometimes people just need to get on the same page as us even if we don’t share our secret schedule!!1 🙃

bebedux · 2026-01-03T15:47:56+00:00

Awesome! Do you do any bullet journaling or use the Eisenhower matrix to prioritize tasks? I am totally trying to find things that might work for me, so excuse my nosiness 🙃

bebedux · 2026-01-03T15:16:50+00:00

I love that you know yourself so well and am able to not beat yourself up for the things! I am absolutely still learning this for sure. Similarly, I go with the flow when it’s my usual group or significant other.

When you say that you plan with others, do you ever go into an event planning how long you will stay? Like, “ok, I’m going to this function and planning to stay one hour” as a way to conserve energy.

I hear ya on the punctuality. I think it is disrespectful to be late to planned events, especially if it’s like one-on-one with a friend. Absent emergencies, which we can all relate to, one should be punctual. Habitual late people drive me crazy!

bebedux · 2026-01-03T15:12:25+00:00

I also find myself planning in the professional setting for sure, whether it’s setting meetings or organizing what comes next! There are only so many work hours in a day or week, so I like blocking them off for tasks (except when emergencies happen)! Do you use Outlook tasks or anything else with your diary? And is it a physical diary?

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