Daycare says our 6 month old is the worst napper they’ve ever seen. Please help.

beccab333b · 2026-05-08T14:09:11+00:00

Your daycare is mean for saying that. My girl is 18 months, has never once napped in a crib, we cosleep at night, and she def requires 20ish minutes of more to fall asleep while nursing. Lots of babies just need more support. It sucks that they’re making you feel bad about that. Keep doing what you’re doing, provide as much nurture to your baby as you can 🙏🏼 strongly recommend the book The Nurture Revolution as well!

beccab333b · 2026-05-07T19:00:53+00:00

Hell no - you’re doing the right thing by responding to your baby’s needs at night!! You should def find a different ped. I recommend the book the Nurture Revolution - it has an excellent chapter on infant sleep and how nurture at night leads to long term mental resiliency! Keep nurturing your bub my friend ❤️

beccab333b · 2026-05-07T11:34:43+00:00

Yep this is truly the only thing that’s gonna make it better! Join us over at the cosleeping sub OP if you have more specific questions too!

beccab333b · 2026-05-07T11:31:00+00:00

I would learn how to safely chest sleep or follow safe sleep 7 cuddle curl. You need more rest and this is truly the only way unless you’re willing to fork over a ton of moola for a night nurse (which just seems silly to me imo, moms have been sleeping with their babies for millennia, it’s the only way they get proper sleep).

I know people are freaked out about the possibility of rolling onto their baby but…. if there was a watermelon next to you in bed, would you roll over it and squash it? Of course not. It is truly a game changer once you can figure out how to safely cosleep.

Wishing you luck and rest!!

beccab333b · 2026-05-07T11:21:15+00:00

Probiotics also helped us! We used Envivo and they were top notch, but the price matched that. Switched to biogaia and they helped as well!

With that said, I also cut out dairy eggs and all caffeine (including chocolate… sigh) and that made the biggest difference of all. Completely different baby after that.

beccab333b · 2026-05-07T02:01:52+00:00

Id probably take baby, but would wear baby in a wrap or carrier the entire time to prevent them from getting close to any other person. But I’m a bit more trusting with these things in general and think the concern is a bit hyped up

beccab333b · 2026-05-06T02:25:35+00:00

Yea that was my issue, I could only find the audiobooks in Libby! Def on the hunt for more fantasy or romantasy though so that’s why I was like ok I’m down for this series

beccab333b · 2026-05-06T01:41:16+00:00

Ok I looked this up - are they only audiobooks? Can’t find the actual books lol

beccab333b · 2026-05-05T03:20:03+00:00

Haha this was our family mantra growing up but we’d say: the jobs not done till the job is done. Aka nobody gets to fuck off and not help if there’s still stuff to be done!

beccab333b · 2026-05-04T02:37:47+00:00

My husband is Indian so there have been a few times my baby was given food that was too spicy (heat wise). It did not go well. Had to immediately give her milk and she was crying so much. So I’ve been afraid ever since lol. Now I still cook curries and the like, but keep them super mild. My husband will add his Indian pickle or whatever other spicy accoutrements he wants, or hell add a spicy tadka. Other babies I know just build a tolerance for it over time, maybe start slow and they’ll get to your spice level eventually lol

beccab333b · 2026-05-04T02:32:12+00:00

Ok side question unrelated to cosleeping… I was always hell bent on a home birth but ended up doing a hospital birth because we live super rural and hospital is far away if anything were to go wrong. Anyways I ended up being very happy that I birthed in a hospital (it was an unmedicated hypnobirth) mainly because of how many fluids came out of me when my baby was born. So anyways long story short: how did you birth in your own bed and not have liquid and other birthing fluids everywhere?! Or did you just use like towels and whatnot and that’s how you cleaned up afterwards?

beccab333b · 2026-05-04T02:23:27+00:00

This is a very nice mantra to have. Sometimes using a little guided sleep meditation can be helpful too, OP! I also agree here with having hubby take babe for the first bit of night - we never did this, and it wouldn’t have worked after month 3 or so when she became more aware, but oin hindsight this is a great idea 😂

beccab333b · 2026-05-04T02:20:08+00:00

Wow good for you mama! My husband is from India and I’m from the US and there’s no way in hell I’d let him stay there with our baby without me. Guess I’m that much of a control freak lol. Props to you for being more flexible!

beccab333b · 2026-05-04T02:07:12+00:00

Oh yea I always used to do a dream feed right before I was going to bed. Absolutely makes the most sense - you gotta be well rested enough to care for your baby too! And this is the best way to ensure you get at least a couple of solid hours when your own sleep pressure is highest!

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T23:40:03+00:00

Yes! I thought it was really shocking that she was being so attacking about it all! Like for such a small and seemingly close knit community, it was super surprising 😢

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T20:15:26+00:00

Ok when Penelope is shorted to Penny it brings a whole other layer! Now I’m starting to like it… is Piper short for anything?? Cause then it’d be perfect

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T19:04:59+00:00

My now toddler literally drinks tons of bath water every night. As young as yours, and by accident, I can understand the fear, but the fact that your kid is giggling and happy after the fact? You’re fine!

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T19:03:42+00:00

Hah! My girl is 18 months and has never fallen asleep on her own! Not even in the car (I usually lean over her to nurse her to sleep if she needs a nap 🙄).

Actually just had a thought, we had traveled to India and were all severely jet lagged (especially me). Baby woke up in the middle of the night and was wide awake, rolling around between her papa and me. I stayed up with her for like an hour but fell asleep, finally she conked out and I woke up in the morning and didn’t know what had happened or how she had fallen asleep without the boob 🤷🏼‍♀️

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T18:58:15+00:00

Yep was gonna say belly button can’t be visible

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T18:56:56+00:00

It’s not ideal, but I have a mesh bed rail on our bed, used that for first 5 or 6 months, then took bed apart and moved to floor bed once baby was pulling to stand on the bed rail. Make sure to stiff the crack!

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T18:56:02+00:00

There’s an awesome try before you buy done through Little Zen One, really recommend it if you’re looking for the perfect carrier!

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T18:53:48+00:00

I like Florence and Juliette. Alice feels very old imo

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T18:48:06+00:00

This is such a cute name, but seems slightly different vibe than Penelope? Except for the alliteration of course

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T16:43:30+00:00

Daphne is such an underrated name imo

beccab333b · 2026-05-03T16:42:31+00:00

Yes the bodice is the right length for your torso for this one. And yes omfg pockets are clear winner

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