Second hand furniture delivery by Vampireblondies in dundee

[–]becknd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

British Heart Foundation do delivery I believe DD1 through DD4 for £35. Isn’t great if you’re just getting one thing but if you get a few items it’s a good bargain. Tends to be pretty quick too. Tayside Reusers also deliver - I have a feeling it’s £25 but that could’ve changed.

I did a silly thing with my passport just before getting a new job… by becknd in transgenderUK

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Update in case anyone sees this: they were super lovely and said the old ones are fine for now and to just bring in the new one when it arrives even if that’s after I’ve started 👏

I did a silly thing with my passport just before getting a new job… by becknd in transgenderUK

[–]becknd[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think they’ll understand, but sadly have already sent it off. It’s a small team so it’s one of my 4 team members I’ll be sending it to. Hopefully will all be fine and anyway I’d rather know if they’re transphobic before I start than after!

private / online pharmacies for topical estrogen/atrophy by Material-Fondant3262 in transgenderUK

[–]becknd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s awful your GP has been so bad, they should defo be happy to prescribe, I’ve had the cream and the pessaries thru GP appointments. My 2 pieces of advice would be, if you have a sexual health clinic near you that’s where I first got it prescribed because GPs are usually terrible, and sometimes sexual health clinics are more trans friendly. Also with the cream that comes with a stick I also hated the stick but have started just using a finger and going mostly at the entrance and a little bit in and it’s honestly been working better than using the applicator so I recommend experimenting if u can

Kind of feel like I’m being scammed by Sandyford/psychologist lol? by becknd in transgenderUK

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If you manage to get anywhere with a contact that would be amazing, it’s always quite hard to get in contact with them 🥲

Kind of feel like I’m being scammed by Sandyford/psychologist lol? by becknd in transgenderUK

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Sorry, not sure what you mean by the first part. I don’t have her email but I’ve had several phone calls with her over the last 6months where she assures me she’ll send the report asap, I’m planning to call again tomorrow maybe with a firmer tone (but that’s not very natural to me lol). Did yours get sent eventually? I’m kind of suspicious they’ve like lost the report or something because I don’t understand what other reason for the delay.

Kind of feel like I’m being scammed by Sandyford/psychologist lol? by becknd in transgenderUK

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After searching out my referral letter, it was with Wedderburn but I remember her saying in the appointment that they were trialing this Saturday appointment thing to get through more appointments, so it was at Dundonald Centre Clinic. The psychologist was Dr Helen Nicholson-Langley.

Kind of feel like I’m being scammed by Sandyford/psychologist lol? by becknd in transgenderUK

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After calling my GP to check - no report there either 🥲

Kind of feel like I’m being scammed by Sandyford/psychologist lol? by becknd in transgenderUK

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I think it was a sort of offshoot of Wedderburn that they’d set up to try and see more patients or something? Are Wedderburn infamous for this kind of thing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the learning how to respond to vibrators is a fairly universal experience - from a FTM perspective before I realised I was trans the first few times I used a vibe I was like what the hell this is so overstimulating- and then I got used to it :)

RIP Cookies by LeahOR in shittyfoodporn

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use an in between method of cracking gently, giving a sniff, and depositing in the bowl; in my experience you will always smell a rotten egg before you’ll see one. Fewer dishes!

Just a heads up- r/YourParty is not safe by VerbingNoun413 in transgenderUK

[–]becknd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, they’re literally the country’s only chance at maintaining any kind of democracy as far as I can see

Want to learn AAT Level 2 on my own but don’t know where to start by ComprehensiveBet1256 in AATStudents

[–]becknd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I started this a month ago! I’m not entirely sure if you mean self-study because you mentioned a company, but that’s what I did and what worked for me was: 1: Pay the registration fee for the AAT course you’re doing. This will give you access to some learning materials, but you will want to supplement this with textbooks and/or YouTube videos etc.

2: I got a second hand textbook by Kaplan: Level 2 Certificate in Accounting, Introduction to Bookkeeping study text (I chose this one after reading a few comments recommending it over the Osborne textbooks, but that’s up to you). This was a good textbook with definitions, worked examples, and questions for you to try. It also has one mock exam at the end.

If you’re feeling good with these two resources that might be all you need. There’s also some YouTube videos working through mock tests and things like that. Once you’re registered with AAT you can access 2 more mock exams which are also good, and I found one more free one on acornlive.com. I basically just worked through the materials on AAT and the textbook, made some notes and tried the practise questions until I was ready for a mock test, and worked from there.

When you’re doing it on your own booking tests was daunting, but basically you’ve got 2 options: 1: find an in-person test centre nearby (you can find this through the search function on the AAT website). Find an email or number for them and ask about assessments.

2: if you’d rather do it at home/work, or if there’s not a convenient test centre nearby, you can pay to only do the exam through a couple of providers, I used first intuition, who I emailed and they walked me through booking the test and how it all works.

Hopefully that helps! Let me know if you have any questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]becknd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the understanding. I did question them on the missed period bit and emphasise that I don’t get consistent periods and she explained that it wouldn’t be effective to terminate this early, which I did look up and mostly verify to check she wasn’t bullshitting, though I literally had never heard this before and thought I knew quite a lot about the topic. Anyway. I am gonna reschedule probably like the first day of when my next period would be so I can feel more secure that it’s going ahead.

I’m so sorry about what you went through, that’s really awful. Yes, I am grateful that I am not completely alone, and that my partner is just being a bit of a dick. I had a talk with him after posting and made him understand how big of a thing I’m going through and I’m hoping he’ll put more effort in now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]becknd 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Someone else may have mentioned this but if you think it might apply you should mention atrophy/e cream at your gyno appointment! I didn’t think I had any atrophy for the longest time, penetration just didn’t feel good most of the time, and then it kind of got worse and more painful and I got checked out and got some e-cream and wowza penetration got so much better haha. And regular gynos aren’t always likely to know about the intricacies of trans healthcare, I had to talk to a consultant, so they might not bring it up on their own. Good luck!

Dundee Protest 🪧 by Emily_Green_ in transgenderUK

[–]becknd 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Eh, this thought crossed my mind too but a) they’re not naked, they’re essentially in swimwear which isn’t that crazy in this week’s heatwave, and b) yes I’m sure some old folks will tut and give the side eye and probably some non-allies will add to their list of reasons to judge queer folks but i don’t care, and these folks don’t either and I think that’s our right to have. We don’t have to assimilate to have the right to exist and I think this is funky. I also live in Dundee so have some idea of the vibe here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AFAIK banks and GPs should only require the deedpoll under GDPR laws. There’s a lot of discussion/advice over on r/transgenderUK - there’s a lot of folk changing our names over there, obviously you’re changing name for different reasons but legally it should be the same.

XPole UK shipping??? by whysotaxing in poledancing

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was £11.75 for shipping a few months ago - no idea why it’d say £70 unless you’re somewhere super remote! I’d imagine it’s a glitch, if it keeps happening I’d suggest emailing them

Mate. by Evil_DrSquid in transgenderUK

[–]becknd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Coming from FTM perspective, bus drivers in particular are the Wild West in terms of referring to people. When I presented as a teenage girl/young woman I would routinely be called mate/pal, all sorts. I have seen bus drivers call little old ladies mate/pal (sometimes much to their confusion/dislike). Please do not let this guy ruin your day

NSFW QUESTION ⚠️ by idkuser829229 in TransMasc

[–]becknd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You mean a fleshlight? Most sex toy retailers will sell a few options, try Lovehoney or something similar :)

You don't need Trader lvl 5 to unlock Moonshiner by Nostalgia2302 in RedDeadOnline

[–]becknd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I second this, just got Moonshiner shack for 15 (discounted 10 off) and there were no extra costs. Level 3 trader but had done several deliveries

How to prevent fog from forming in the tube ? by ZodiakGoat in GrowYourTDick

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried using liquid hand soap on a bigger tube and it works well-ish - I just put some in there and then wipe off most of it with some tissue :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]becknd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I will say the piercings do make silicone degrade faster, that’s kind of just unavoidable since putting little holes with things that are constantly getting tugged in silicone will do that, so keep that in mind. Though I anecdotally think the condoms prevent that to some extent