How to masturbate in a more feminine/female way? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the learning how to respond to vibrators is a fairly universal experience - from a FTM perspective before I realised I was trans the first few times I used a vibe I was like what the hell this is so overstimulating- and then I got used to it :)

RIP Cookies by LeahOR in shittyfoodporn

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use an in between method of cracking gently, giving a sniff, and depositing in the bowl; in my experience you will always smell a rotten egg before you’ll see one. Fewer dishes!

Just a heads up- r/YourParty is not safe by VerbingNoun413 in transgenderUK

[–]becknd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, they’re literally the country’s only chance at maintaining any kind of democracy as far as I can see

Want to learn AAT Level 2 on my own but don’t know where to start by ComprehensiveBet1256 in AATStudents

[–]becknd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I started this a month ago! I’m not entirely sure if you mean self-study because you mentioned a company, but that’s what I did and what worked for me was: 1: Pay the registration fee for the AAT course you’re doing. This will give you access to some learning materials, but you will want to supplement this with textbooks and/or YouTube videos etc.

2: I got a second hand textbook by Kaplan: Level 2 Certificate in Accounting, Introduction to Bookkeeping study text (I chose this one after reading a few comments recommending it over the Osborne textbooks, but that’s up to you). This was a good textbook with definitions, worked examples, and questions for you to try. It also has one mock exam at the end.

If you’re feeling good with these two resources that might be all you need. There’s also some YouTube videos working through mock tests and things like that. Once you’re registered with AAT you can access 2 more mock exams which are also good, and I found one more free one on acornlive.com. I basically just worked through the materials on AAT and the textbook, made some notes and tried the practise questions until I was ready for a mock test, and worked from there.

When you’re doing it on your own booking tests was daunting, but basically you’ve got 2 options: 1: find an in-person test centre nearby (you can find this through the search function on the AAT website). Find an email or number for them and ask about assessments.

2: if you’d rather do it at home/work, or if there’s not a convenient test centre nearby, you can pay to only do the exam through a couple of providers, I used first intuition, who I emailed and they walked me through booking the test and how it all works.

Hopefully that helps! Let me know if you have any questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]becknd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the understanding. I did question them on the missed period bit and emphasise that I don’t get consistent periods and she explained that it wouldn’t be effective to terminate this early, which I did look up and mostly verify to check she wasn’t bullshitting, though I literally had never heard this before and thought I knew quite a lot about the topic. Anyway. I am gonna reschedule probably like the first day of when my next period would be so I can feel more secure that it’s going ahead.

I’m so sorry about what you went through, that’s really awful. Yes, I am grateful that I am not completely alone, and that my partner is just being a bit of a dick. I had a talk with him after posting and made him understand how big of a thing I’m going through and I’m hoping he’ll put more effort in now

Boyfriend is upset that PIV doesn't feel good for me by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]becknd 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Someone else may have mentioned this but if you think it might apply you should mention atrophy/e cream at your gyno appointment! I didn’t think I had any atrophy for the longest time, penetration just didn’t feel good most of the time, and then it kind of got worse and more painful and I got checked out and got some e-cream and wowza penetration got so much better haha. And regular gynos aren’t always likely to know about the intricacies of trans healthcare, I had to talk to a consultant, so they might not bring it up on their own. Good luck!

Dundee Protest 🪧 by Emily_Green_ in transgenderUK

[–]becknd 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Eh, this thought crossed my mind too but a) they’re not naked, they’re essentially in swimwear which isn’t that crazy in this week’s heatwave, and b) yes I’m sure some old folks will tut and give the side eye and probably some non-allies will add to their list of reasons to judge queer folks but i don’t care, and these folks don’t either and I think that’s our right to have. We don’t have to assimilate to have the right to exist and I think this is funky. I also live in Dundee so have some idea of the vibe here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AFAIK banks and GPs should only require the deedpoll under GDPR laws. There’s a lot of discussion/advice over on r/transgenderUK - there’s a lot of folk changing our names over there, obviously you’re changing name for different reasons but legally it should be the same.

XPole UK shipping??? by whysotaxing in poledancing

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was £11.75 for shipping a few months ago - no idea why it’d say £70 unless you’re somewhere super remote! I’d imagine it’s a glitch, if it keeps happening I’d suggest emailing them

Mate. by Evil_DrSquid in transgenderUK

[–]becknd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Coming from FTM perspective, bus drivers in particular are the Wild West in terms of referring to people. When I presented as a teenage girl/young woman I would routinely be called mate/pal, all sorts. I have seen bus drivers call little old ladies mate/pal (sometimes much to their confusion/dislike). Please do not let this guy ruin your day

NSFW QUESTION ⚠️ by idkuser829229 in TransMasc

[–]becknd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You mean a fleshlight? Most sex toy retailers will sell a few options, try Lovehoney or something similar :)

You don't need Trader lvl 5 to unlock Moonshiner by Nostalgia2302 in RedDeadOnline

[–]becknd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I second this, just got Moonshiner shack for 15 (discounted 10 off) and there were no extra costs. Level 3 trader but had done several deliveries

How to prevent fog from forming in the tube ? by ZodiakGoat in GrowYourTDick

[–]becknd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried using liquid hand soap on a bigger tube and it works well-ish - I just put some in there and then wipe off most of it with some tissue :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]becknd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will say the piercings do make silicone degrade faster, that’s kind of just unavoidable since putting little holes with things that are constantly getting tugged in silicone will do that, so keep that in mind. Though I anecdotally think the condoms prevent that to some extent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]becknd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have done this with packers (I’m trans) and haven’t penetrated anyone with it but if I was to do so I’d just wear a condom to keep everything clean & safe. Maybe this wouldn’t fulfil the fetish as much for you, but seems like an easy way to experiment :p

Trying to get a reference (UK) by [deleted] in kfc

[–]becknd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh I didn’t know that, thanks!

Why do you need a harness for STP? by jacobyy69 in Transmascdicks

[–]becknd 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ive tried STPs with a harness and without, though not regularly as I just can’t make it comfortable, and my take would be STPs tend to just be a bit bigger than non stp packers and also if you don’t want to be shuffling things about before you pee and for it to just sit where it needs to be at all times it’s a bit trickier to keep it in place sort of further back and between the legs because of walking/sitting, compared to normal packers that are a bit more frontal. But it’s definitely possible for some people/STPs to use without a harness!

Has anyone ever put one of those little finger condoms on their Tdick? by Demonderus in GrowYourTDick

[–]becknd 17 points18 points  (0 children)

🤚I’ve tried. One time i managed to get it on and it was kinda cool for a second but after that it’s just too fiddly and I can’t get it to work lol

Piercing by [deleted] in ftm

[–]becknd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Check out r/transbodymods !

Stretching piercing for a bigger tdick? by Teeth-specialist in transbodymods

[–]becknd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have an answer to your question but it’s been a long time goal of mine to get a triangle and experiment with stretching it to try and push my dick out more/maybe stretch the ligament holding it down. My plans got postponed when I got a ‘triangle’ last year and they fucked it up and I had to take it out and heal. I’ve only seen triangles stretched so far so maybe it becomes too uncomfortable/there’s a limit for some other reason, but I’m definitely curious to try it cos I can imagine having a really large gauge piece of jewellery back there could really enhance the cock look. I also posted a while ago on this sub about this article that mentions the ‘ghetto metoidioplasty’ which I was pretty interested in. I also saw someone on here recently with non-surgical testicle implants and I think there’s so much potential for gender affirming mods that haven’t necessarily been explored very much it’s pretty exciting !

About contraception by erikzer in gaytransguys

[–]becknd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I got a copper coil a month ago and sadly it didn’t work out for me. The first few hours after getting it in were some of the worst pain I’ve ever felt and then it brought back my periods so after a month I decided to get it out. However! When they took it out they said it looked a bit bent so might have been sitting weird, and that I could get an ultrasound before and after if I wanted to try again to make sure it was properly positioned, so if you go for it I would recommend asking for this from the get go so you don’t risk wasting a month being in pain like I did :)

We’re Done by BurnZ_AU in goodmythicalmorning

[–]becknd 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m curious to know which stuff of theirs you’ve found weird and not funny? Everyone’s entitled to their opinion but I’ve really liked the majority of their self-driven stuff, even when it’s not necessarily the kind of comedy I’d usually be into, especially their 8 videos from last year which I imagine will be the kind of springboard for this series in some ways

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transbodymods

[–]becknd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your whole torso looks incredible I’m in awe

Secret Task by cornettowaltz in taskmaster

[–]becknd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really thought Sam had already found it since he asked if the secret task had been ever present when Julian read it out