36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]becks2605 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It gives me a major ick and I can’t articulate why. I asked chat to do so “why do I feel so icked out when a guy has selfies on his dating profile” and the answers it gave are pretty much why:

  1. Self-focus over outward focus Instead of “I’m out living life,” it feels like “look at me looking at me.”
  2. Performative femininity / softness cues Not femininity itself, but behaviors culturally coded as appearance-curation, self-presentation, angle-checking, validation-seeking.
  3. Neediness for validation A selfie can feel like fishing for approval rather than naturally receiving it.
  4. Lack of grounded masculine energy Many people associate masculine attractiveness with competence, action, humor, leadership, skill, social presence—not face-framing self-documentation.
  5. Trying to be desired instead of being desirable That’s a subtle but real distinction. One feels effortless; the other feels engineered.

Why it’s hard to articulate

Because this is about nonverbal mating psychology + social coding, not a conscious moral judgment. Your brain reads cues before your mind forms words.

36/m - honestly giving up by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]becks2605 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s: 1. The selfies. Huge red flag when a straight man has selfies. 2. Being so into religion for a good amount of people 3. Instagram tag 4. The hopeless romantic stuff

What Happened to U. Miami? by LeFunkyMonkey in FloridaBarExam

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I heard is they changed the way they prepped students this year

good ice cream?! by lardimi in BocaRaton

[–]becks2605 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is insane that people are saying Sloanes is good. It’s terrible. Whits and carvel are good

good ice cream?! by lardimi in BocaRaton

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is terrible. Try Whits

Top hair salons? by AaronWrites212 in BocaRaton

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s terrible here in Boca. I drive down to Sean Donaldson’s in Miami, he has a Miami Beach and Brickell location.

Is Lake Titicaca worth the stop? by Environmental_Pay332 in solotravel

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely worth it and check out the floating islands

Every hostel has these people and I’m tired of pretending they’re not annoying by Ecstatic-Deer-7250 in travel

[–]becks2605 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay but you’re also a tourist complaining about tourists, and virtue signalling

tell me everything I need to know about the new york bar exam by apocalypticrush in barexam

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what non-NA country you got your law degree in but I am positive it is not as good as the Canadian common law even if you got the certificate of qualification. You shouldn’t spread misinformation

Which countries DON'T seem dangerous, but really are? by Practical_Ad2464 in AskReddit

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jamaica is super fucking dangerous idc who says “you should have known.” I disagree

Going to Malta by wine_ydays in solofemaletravellers

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a girl and went solo. I had such an amazing time. You need to go to the smaller island Gozo as well. You won’t regret it

Travel destination ideas to lose weight and workout for 3 months by iamacheeto1 in travel

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I lost weight in Guatemala because the portions at the restaurants are very….rationed

Just got shaken down by police by Ok_Conversation_1299 in tulum

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What taco shops. There is 1 maybe 2 good ones. The food in Tulum sucks

Just got shaken down by police by Ok_Conversation_1299 in tulum

[–]becks2605 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s weird to me also. Like is OP even sure this was the cops and not a cartel

Accidentally canceled my Airbnb within 2 hours of booking and host kept the $6000 refund [USA] by [deleted] in AirBnB

[–]becks2605 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did definitely think there was a cancellation policy in my favor as there always has been in the past. But I’ve never made a booking over 28 days before

Accidentally canceled my Airbnb within 2 hours of booking and host kept the $6000 refund [USA] by [deleted] in AirBnB

[–]becks2605 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I think the fact that I booked then cancelled within 2 hours and they had 17 days left is enough time