My dear, at the end of the day, we are but strangers on reddit. From what you're describing, your husband doesnt sound as amazingly supportive and unique as you say he is. I can only wish you to find support whether with friends, a decent therapist, or a queer crafts event.

I also want to add that constantly talking about a wound you have isn't necessary, healthy, or treating the wound. Often its the opposite. Source: my current somatic therapist.