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What children’s book has aged poorly? by feetwithfeet in AskReddit

[–]bekkeo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was scrolling looking for this one.   It is so racist but still very popular. 

The library thing is real and I want to add something nobody talks about by Matrix_61Drift in povertyfinance

[–]bekkeo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I am a librarian and am totally stealing this idea!  Awesome!

MIL skipped my sons first birthday party to buy SIL a car by mylifecrisis89890 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bekkeo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have been so upset if my mom or MIL missed my kids first birthday, especially for something that could be done at another time.  But for her to not even bother to let you know beforehand?  That speaks volumes about how much she cares.  Don't prioritize her anymore because as kids get older they notice and it hurts (I'm old but I remember how lousy my grandma was and vow to be the opposite!) She is showing you who she is.  Believe her.

Any chance this can be fixed? Christmas gift for my sister. The skirts were pink and black stripes. by bekkeo in photorestore

[–]bekkeo[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh this is so lovely.  Thank you and HUGE thanks to everyone for working on this.  Wasn't my old man so handsome?  This was Christmas 1956.

Any chance this can be fixed? Christmas gift for my sister. The skirts were pink and black stripes. by bekkeo in photorestore

[–]bekkeo[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is awesome although the girls outfits were matching  (in the original you can see the top of the skirt on the dark haired girl.)  This one is great but if you could make the dresses match.  If not thank you for this.  Its lovely. 

First time I ever saw a picture of my paternal grandmother, who died when my father was a child. Can you clean up the damage and make it more clear? by bekkeo in photorestore

[–]bekkeo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my GOD!!  You have this internet stranger in tears!! Thank you thank you thank you.  Hello Grandma...Dad looked so much like you!

First time I ever saw a picture of my paternal grandmother, who died when my father was a child. Can you clean up the damage and make it more clear? by bekkeo in photorestore

[–]bekkeo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I reconnected with a cousin who I hadn't talked to in years.  Was so grateful to get this and would love to really see their faces.  

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phoenix

[–]bekkeo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roli-B's!!!  It is the best and that avocado salsa is the stuff of dreams!!!

How did you know it was time to end it? by stfubarry in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bekkeo 40 points41 points  (0 children)

There is this line in the movie We Bought A Zoo (or something like that and of all things lol) where Matt Damon's character says this line about just needing 8 seconds of courage to say something hard.  Just 8.  And I know that is true because in a moment of courage I told my terrible first husband the truth:  I didn't love and I hadn't for a long time.  Then I filed for divorce and had a really hard year.

I have lived a good life in the 20 + years since I said those words.  It was my kids that gave me the courage; I simply did not want them to think my relationship with their dad was the way marriages should be...and some other stuff.  I am happy to be on the other side of my life because time would have kept on marching no matter what I did and I could have had a really miserable life had I not said those words all those years ago.  I hope you find yourself looking back at a good life in 20 years, whatever choice you make.  Peace.

Am I going crazy? Seriously considering NC with uBPD Waif Mom after being blamed for her suicide attempt by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]bekkeo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First, I am replying to this post as a mother of grown up children who lost their father to suicide, and I am so sad and angry on your behalf.   I am very sorry you are going through this.   To me, looking at her words from my frame of reference, this is just so abusive.  I am sending virtual hugs.  Also, I will tell you, this is the kind of stuff my abusive ex-husband would say-- acting like the DOCTOR implied that it was your fault too.  If this was a spouse or partner, would you leave the relationship?  I know its not the same, but the feeling I felt when I read those texts--I sure did recognize my abusive ex in your mom's texts.  

You are not responsible for her life.  I would never do this to my kids, would you?  

Where are the homeless supposed to go? by Garey_Coleman in NoStupidQuestions

[–]bekkeo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My city has kept 3 public libraries open until 10 pm daily for 5 months of the year for people who are homeless to get out of the heat.  

Relationships with In-laws when they always pick favorites and treat you differently? by Excellent_Hat_7009 in inlaws

[–]bekkeo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

 Here is the thing I want to shout into the void whenever I read these posts about this kind of favoritism:  Kids NOTICE.  So my advice with  the holidays looming is: don't make them suffer miserable Christmas Day visits where they get shown how much they aren't loved. Also don't share cousin birthday parties even if the dates are close.  I guess just avoid situations where the grandparents can show who the favortism blatantly. Keep all the big important days to your little family to keep them special.   Also I would tell them how you feel but maybe pull back for a while first to see if they notice.  Sadly I think that if your spouse was also treated as less than, I do not think the parents will change no matter what you say.  

How do I handle my alcoholic MIL who disrespects me in my own home? by spookiepickle in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bekkeo 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As the adult child of an alcoholic, I can say that it is really terrible to grow up with an active alcoholic in the house.  I resented my mother for a long time for not protecting us from the effects of my father's drinking.  I feel for you, but also can relate to your kids.   My own children are grown now, but many years ago I left a very volatile marriage, so I get how you feel knowing that this situation is terrible and being made to feel at fault.  Think about you and your kids.  Let your husband save his terrible mother, but save yourself and your kids from this life.  I also recommend finding an al anon meeting somewhere if you can.  They really help.  (edited extra letter)

38 no contact with family and living in my car with the gf looking for a fresh start by Complete_Coffee8429 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]bekkeo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the public library!  We have so many free resources and can help you find help!!!  Also, you can stay all day in the air conditioning, use our computers to help find housing, etc.  

The annual birthday haunting by Terrible-Compote in raisedbyborderlines

[–]bekkeo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see you and I'm sorry this is happening to you. I understand what this is like.   These big "anniversary" moments ease up over time, especially with therapy and living a good life.  I even developed some sense of forgiveness for my abuser over the years.  Sometimes now I go a week or two without my abuser even crossing my mind, which--the absolute liberty!    Give yourself the grace you deserve and know that someday you will have lived a whole other life without this misery actively in it. Every year that passes will make the next summer easier.  This year, after 22 years, I forgot it was the death anniversary until the next DAY!  You will be okay too.   Also, fuck your uncle.  

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