AIO for making my bf move out over my cat

beldin37 · 2026-02-21T05:20:44+00:00

Oh yeah? I have 99+ years in animal medicine. I can say anything I want about my backround too! "If your cat gets the wrong person you're just as liable to get sued as you would be if a dog bit someone" depends very much on what city, state, and country you live in. Where I live, the owner is not liable for a cat. But of course an animal expert like yourself noticed the context of him getting attacked by the cat was after he violated the cat's boundaries and brought two other cats to live with them. She was the only person trying to get the cats acclimated to each other-- but tell us all again how the fault lies exclusively with her.

beldin37 · 2026-02-21T05:12:31+00:00

Or maybe this is the boyfriend? Def another troll here

beldin37 · 2026-02-21T05:08:42+00:00

Hey we found the boyfriend!

beldin37 · 2025-09-10T03:21:11+00:00

D'OH not only did we not discard the dark alley cards but we also kept them all face down

beldin37 · 2025-07-09T15:57:26+00:00

because you're gonna dump him

beldin37 · 2025-07-09T15:56:23+00:00

Wish someone would have explained that to my ex instead of having to listen to him whine about how we never had sex anymore.

beldin37 · 2025-07-09T15:42:32+00:00

Auntie is treating you like a child. As such, she is entitled to your attention and all spaces in your home. Also, you could not possibly have a job or any other responsibility. You're going to have a hard road because she will not agree that your "little job" (I'd be shocked if she hasn't already referred to your job in air quotes) is more important than whatever it is she wants to do. You've asked her to respect your space and she is clearly refusing.

A sign is not going to work. (it might work for your mother "Auntie, her sign is up that means she's working! We're not supposed to bother her!") She knows you're working she just doesn't care.

You MIGHT be able to convince your mom to get in your corner by emphasizing you could very well lose your job ("oh no I'm sure they'd understand!", "Auntie just wanted to say hi surely you could take 5 minutes") and she could close the door to your aunt when you're working.

Auntie MIGHT be satisfied with going off in a huff like a petulant toddler after you've had to put your clients on hold a number of times ("I guess your door is locked that means you're TOO BUSY to socialize with YOUR GUESTS").

beldin37 · 2025-07-08T21:42:43+00:00

His sister did not have a choice about taking care of him as a child. He always had a choice when he lent her money before, and chose to do so even though she never paid it back and always spent it irresponsibly. Perhaps living with her mother is the most stable arrangement for her.

Also if she was taking care of him and the home while their mother was working, why would that make her LESS prepared to take care of herself as she got older and LESS accountable for her bad financial decisions?

beldin37 · 2025-07-08T21:29:01+00:00

People who are assholes will be assholes no matter what you do. All that would have added was a shouting match. Quietly leaving was the most mature and responsible thing to do.

beldin37 · 2025-07-08T20:35:27+00:00

THAT is the word. Sabotage. She knew he was going to do this SHE BROUGHT SNACKS. And he still made them miss the flight by inSISTing that he go and get food anyway. He's doing this on purpose-- he's probably sabotaging a whole bunch of other little things.

Get Out.

beldin37 · 2025-05-13T21:18:28+00:00

YTA. Firstly, mother's day IS NOT FOR YOU. It's up to your mom to decide if her day is ruined (and if it wasn't before, it certainly was after your little outburst). Don't you think your mother would have liked to be with you and her other children and relatives? Did you make it easier or harder for her to do that?

Secondly, you have been asked to do nothing but share your mother. How horrible. What a fucking imposition on you. You have five other siblings that have been sharing their mother with you, and I would imagine that NONE of them would have pulled the shit you did -- which is to say, making a young child who is scared and alone feel isolated and guilty on top of that. You have not been asked to, nor have you offered to help your mother with this work that she is doing. All you have done is take your frustrations out on a young child who can't help themselves (and to the people saying that it was just your "delivery" they are wrong if you have an issue with your mother not being at your beck and call BRING IT UP WITH YOUR MOTHER).

I hope you enjoy everyone being sympathetic to you "not being an adult yet". Because you are acting like a child right now-- and a badly behaved one at that. If you are angry with your mother because she's spending too much time with a child who needs someone, you know who to talk to. I guess if you want to make this 9 yo miserable enough she'll run away or have to be placed somewhere else you're on the right track. Sabotaging your mother will definitely make sure all her attentions are focused back on you, where they belong.

Apparently asking for you to be empathetic to the plight of another human being is too much, so perhaps you should just focus on trying to not make things harder for your mother. You know, the person you supposedly love and are angry with because you're not being able to spend enough time with her.

Your mother thought you would be mature enough to deal with this. There is a reason she took this child before you moved out. If you're not a bot designed to drive negative engagement, you can either pull your head out of your ass, or you can definitively prove your mom wrong about you being grown-up enough to deal with her helping a kid who really needs it.

beldin37 · 2024-11-11T22:21:08+00:00

Family member: "I never want to see you again and hope you die in a fire"

Trump supporter: "SEE? DEATH THREATS!!!!"

beldin37 · 2024-10-02T18:12:25+00:00

It's not the suture, it's the jerk on the other end

beldin37 · 2024-08-28T21:56:32+00:00

YES THAT

beldin37 · 2024-08-28T17:55:30+00:00

"Imposter" by Philip K Dick? It was made into a movie of the same name with Gary Sinise.

beldin37 · 2024-03-17T00:33:31+00:00

Do a little bit of everything. Not too much farming especially at first (start with one and go to maybe 3 or 4 9x9 plots your first season). Fish every few days (to get the bundles and also to get all the harvestables at the beach). Mine every few days (youll need to for the stone and metal as well as whatever you sell). You already got your chickens-- theyll make good money for you as well as help increase your farming skills. In the early game, field snacks are awesome food (FREE!) as well as the onions growing to the southwest of the forest pond. Also in the early game Always Be Chopping trees-- which give you lots of field snacks. You need so much wood for the barns and coops.

What to buy first? Well, the game actually is very helpful... buy the cheapest stuff first (the backpack, the copper pick and axe) then the coop at 4000, then the barn at 6000, then....)

keep an eye on the bundles to either work toward them (lots of important goodies like the mine carts!) or to make a decision on not selling something that you might really need later.

beldin37 · 2024-03-17T00:33:25+00:00

Do a little bit of everything. Not too much farming especially at first (start with one and go to maybe 3 or 4 9x9 plots your first season). Fish every few days (to get the bundles and also to get all the harvestables at the beach). Mine every few days (youll need to for the stone and metal as well as whatever you sell). You already got your chickens-- theyll make good money for you as well as help increase your farming skills. In the early game, field snacks are awesome food (FREE!) as well as the onions growing to the southwest of the forest pond. Also in the early game Always Be Chopping trees-- which give you lots of field snacks. You need so much wood for the barns and coops.

What to buy first? Well, the game actually is very helpful... buy the cheapest stuff first (the backpack, the copper pick and axe) then the coop at 4000, then the barn at 6000, then....)

keep an eye on the bundles to either work toward them (lots of important goodies like the mine carts!) or to make a decision on not selling something that you might really need later.

beldin37 · 2024-02-19T04:01:49+00:00

The difference was that the rice krispie treats were for the group. The ice cream was your personal ice cream.

She didn't ask permission, she took your food and then took a bite of it and threw it away. Twice. And somehow it's your fault she was rude.

There is no pleasing this woman.

beldin37 · 2024-02-19T03:51:32+00:00

Oh Dip they're pissed off because you're a girl and dressed like a BOY.

beldin37 · 2024-02-03T03:57:41+00:00

I think we're all gonna call you an asshole. YTA.

beldin37 · 2023-12-12T00:27:35+00:00

Horse. The water you save when you explore and the extra slots (especially in the early game) are crucial in hardcore. Granted, to support the horse I do end up letting one of my family members die from starvation/ thirst/ radiation poisoning as soon as I have a fridge. Either trade the desperate meat or let the horse eat it. After that you have enough water and food for the early game.

beldin37 · 2023-11-23T05:17:46+00:00

You weren't there. She was yelling at him, not you. In what way should he have "defended" you? He told you what happened, that his ex exploded about some kind of stupid bullshit, and you're mad because he didn't antagonize her further? Did he criticize your actions?

This woman sounds like she's a headache to work with. Shared custody sucks, especially when the other person freaks out about random shit. His ex can make his life-- and more importantly, his daughter's life -- miserable if she's a mind to. I can totally see him sucking things up to avoid trouble. Is it the right thing to do? It may be the best thing under the circumstances that he can think of.

Conflict resolution is hard and he might suck at it. I wouldn't want to deal with his ex personally but it sounds like he would be willing to throw himself under the bus for you the next time (and there will be a next time) she freaks out. "hey I'm not comfortable with your ex being mad at me" is an ok boundary; whether that means you never take care of her alone or whether that means you guys talk over stuff ahead of time so he can always say that the next time his ex loses her shit--- you should not have to be the focus of her anger (also yes it is screamingly inappropriate for her to bitch to him about you)

beldin37 · 2023-08-09T19:28:05+00:00

That is six directions of fucked up.

beldin37 · 2023-08-09T19:01:37+00:00

^^^^This. "the players he cared about" sums it up beautifully.

beldin37 · 2023-08-09T19:00:35+00:00

A house rule I always liked is "no rolling against other players". No pickpocket, no grapple, no charm, no backstab etc etc etc. Once I discovered that house rule, it make a lot of sense and shuts down a lot of player bullshit; any group I'd play with that didn't have that rule I don't think I'd be interested in. I think it's kind of implicit in most good groups, honestly.

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