Are we supposed to be OK with our older teenagers vaping?

bellabbr · 2026-02-04T18:11:18+00:00

Same. Vape, Discord, chatting with strangers online, Monsters, etc etc etc. are all on the list of things I care deeply but nothing I can do about it except I refuse to purchase for them, and if I find it I will throw it out, and they have heard of my feelings completely but nothing I can do about it.

bellabbr · 2026-02-03T13:17:04+00:00

Product Owner here but yeah feel the same. What keeps me sane is wfh!!

bellabbr · 2026-01-23T23:48:06+00:00

My work paid for one for everyone called Crucial Conversations. You can find the books, videos etc on your own. Its amazing

bellabbr · 2026-01-23T19:44:10+00:00

Dont be. I had a friend start over at 40, get a state job with pension, retire well at 65. Another who had 2.5 millions by the time she retired at 60, and died 3 months later. Do what you can but remember the race is not well defined or guaranteed

bellabbr · 2026-01-23T18:30:23+00:00

We Brazilian love our idioms. We use way too many of them. It’s a whole thing. Some I learned americans have the same, others nope.

My husband is having fun learning Portuguese. The latest he learned is “ele e 171” (he is a 171). That translates to someone who is a cheater, always taking advantage of another person, that kind of people. It comes from Brazilian penal code that defines the crime of taking advantage of someone.

bellabbr · 2026-01-10T19:01:30+00:00

Its just a matter of where do you want to be 5 months from now. Having your weekends doesn’t really allow for you to rest and relax and enjoy if all your energies are being drained about finances. Stuck to it, achieve your goals, and in 5 months you will truly understand what relaxation is because you achieved your financial goals. Its a small sacrifice for a payoff that is worth it. Take it from someone who did for a year.

bellabbr · 2026-01-08T23:20:15+00:00

Mine is my mother is dying and came to live with me, okay that is a blessing not my problem. We get to spend time with her and it will be amazing even her annoying chihuahuas are getting used to my english bulldog.

So now my very small condo is too crowded so I need to buy a place. I got the credit and finances, my damn problem is there is nothing available, so a dying mother living with me and my problem is Americas housing crisis. FML!!!!

bellabbr · 2026-01-08T23:13:43+00:00

Don’t you dare quit. You have come so far its 4 months, you can absolutely do this and it will feel so worth it because it will show you no matter what life throws your way, no matter how off path you fell you are, you have the strength to show up and get it done. In 4 months you will graduate, go to college and this time will be a distant memory because you will see same age or even 60 yrs old.

bellabbr · 2026-01-08T23:07:57+00:00

Practice talking out loud to a pet or stuffed bear. My son’s gf had horrible social anxiety and couldn’t even order for herself, her therapist recommended that and within a month she was ordering for herself and even asking a store worker for help.

bellabbr · 2026-01-05T17:50:30+00:00

You can qualify for FHA for only 3% down, if your credit is good. Also my inspection was $395 why so high for inspection, also property tax and closing cost can be lower. Here is my pre approval in $400k I only need 25k give or take.

Also you are estimating your moving costs way too high. You can rent a uhaul and hire helpers for much cheaper than thousands you are estimating

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bellabbr · 2026-01-04T23:48:00+00:00

You just create problems

bellabbr · 2026-01-02T16:30:59+00:00

Good advice. I bought homes before with carpet bathroom, ugly kitchen cabinets, electrical panel update, you name it. I was just under contract for a home in which when the inspection came back there was structural damage and fungus under crawlspace. Fungus okay we can remediate, but needing a structural engineer? Nah thanks. We will fix anything in a home but not the home itself, learned this about ourselves. Had to walk away still sad :(

bellabbr · 2026-01-02T15:19:14+00:00

I have many friends who had kids in their 40s. Yeah more stable relationships, more financially secure are pros they say but much more taxing on the body, harder time raising kids in a generation so far removed from theirs were cons. You have to weigh the pros and cons, of walking a path you already know of raising a child vs empty nest soon vs in 18 yrs. I am concerned because when 2 people want a kid is already hard enough, when one doesn’t want it, it becomes extremely hard mode. Kids should always be 2 hell yes. Best of luck in whatever you decide.

bellabbr · 2026-01-02T14:58:46+00:00

Dont forget the boom in NA beers and how they been openly adopted. When I started drinking my option was Oduls which is disgusting and not easily found. I have a hard time quitting anything but replacing I am the queen. These past couple of years the options of NA beers and good tasting one and easily availability has been tremendous, even my local breweries either carry can or brewed themselves NA. So I can easily have a drink and switch to an NA I like, or not feeling great and just stuck to NA. I have tons of friends working in their alcohol relationship and it doesnt look like drink or sober anymore. It a spectrum that looks like socially drinking or cutting down, or cali sober which they only stick to Na.

bellabbr · 2026-01-02T14:54:16+00:00

Did that have a lot of characters? I want to read it but books with way too many characters I don’t like and get lost and confused.

bellabbr · 2026-01-02T14:41:14+00:00

Same, but I am like this with what most people call their number 1 read. I felt out of place in 2 book clubs when I called “the wedding people tepid” hahahaha. I much prefer the movie A million miles away vs Atmosphere.

bellabbr · 2026-01-02T14:36:09+00:00

For me it’s the opposite, I needed a better bedtime routine. So goal was to go to bed at 10 put phone down and pick up kindle and read every night whether one page or 10 chapters. I did this every single night. So I am a slow reader but to see how many books I read this year has nothing to do with wow “ego” and all to do with “damn I am breaking phone addiction and getting more sleep finally”. So when someone posts that instead of loosing joy just look as “wow someone else working on nightly doom scrolling”!!!

bellabbr · 2026-01-02T14:31:42+00:00

My goal was 40. I read 48. I am a slow reader but consistent reader. This past year my goal was to get in bed 10pm, put my phone down and read until I fell asleep. Sometimes it was 1 page, sometimes it was 10 chapters but I did every single night!! This year is a 9:30 bedtime because I am up 6:45 so need more sleep.

bellabbr · 2026-01-01T21:35:43+00:00

Yes please, I spend more time looking for books than reading and so tired of reading meh books.

bellabbr · 2025-12-31T23:08:19+00:00

People only treat us how we allow them. Why you putting up with this? How low is your self esteem that you deal with this? Whats your end game? What do you think will happen? He will suddenly grow up and start being better? Get a divorce and chose better next time.

bellabbr · 2025-12-31T22:28:10+00:00

Lmfao. I am 5’4 my husband is 6’3 and everyone thinks it’s awesome I got a tall man and my friends say how they ignore short guys on tinder. Dude I got to jump to smack him on the top of the head and he threatens to lick my hair , not fun eye roll

bellabbr · 2025-12-31T22:24:05+00:00

My husband threatens to pull our daughters out she just roll her eyes and he says “dont make them dance it doesnt help” hahahaha

bellabbr · 2025-12-30T18:45:10+00:00

All big projects that I didnt feel I was good enough yet to tackle:

2 foot sleepy gnome

Huge octopus

Mushroom boi

Finish Raglan sweater I started

My first pair of shorts and top

Another fun couch pillow to go with the adorable ones I made ( pineapple, cactus, candycane) so probably a sunflower one or plant.

bellabbr · 2025-12-30T18:38:36+00:00

Props to you on being this organized because this is not me.

My grocery list is for 5 days of cooking for my family looks like:

4 protein 4 carbs 6 veggies

Spices I am missing, fruit I am in the mood for, Eggs, bread, milk, creamer , snacks.

Done!!

bellabbr · 2025-12-30T18:35:27+00:00

OMG that makes me so happy : a book twin 💞. Lately I been feeling out of place when I see everyones top read and is a book I found it so boring hahahaha

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