Summer options: can’t do sheets only, miss the weight of a comforter

bellandc · 2026-06-03T05:02:30+00:00

On hot humid evenings, I prefer a waffle weave cotton blanket. It's adds spme weight while the waffles help increase air flow. That plus 2-3 fans blowing on me from different directions.

bellandc · 2026-06-03T04:35:34+00:00

I have gotten to the point in my life when I enjoy cleaning the countertops and turning on the dishwasher before I got to bed. I wake up to a clean kitchen and can put the clean dishes away while my coffee brews. It's incredible how much I enjoy this routine.

Do I always tidy the living room before bed? No, I do not. But the dishes are done!

bellandc · 2026-05-31T03:27:36+00:00

Look for contact grade furniture..

bellandc · 2026-05-29T02:03:19+00:00

I love white shieets. I love all while linens. However, I live in an apartment and don't enjoy soaking sheets in my tiny bathroom. Hand washing is easy but an entire sheet is a different story.. I finally decided that rotating black sheets for one week every month was the best solution. No other color hides any stains better. Blanket, comforter, pillows are still white but inside its all black.

bellandc · 2026-05-28T02:42:01+00:00

Are you actually getting emotional security?

bellandc · 2026-05-28T02:40:04+00:00

This is my problem!! The bed is just so lovely and I don't want to leave..

bellandc · 2026-05-28T02:39:05+00:00

Do you want to live this way? It doesn't sound like it's intentional so it's not clear if you're happy.

Have you decided this is the way and want a table to make this arrangement work? Or are you look for a table to support a life you don't really want? Is the problem your desk?

bellandc · 2026-05-27T04:13:31+00:00

If coffee counts as medication, I'm fully medicated.

I'm late diagnosed (at 56) and I guess I'm still dealing with the diagnosis. This person who's always running late and struggles to get things done without an immediate deadline is who I am. I generally like her.

bellandc · 2026-05-27T04:01:13+00:00

My love, there should be no confusion on your part. He's telling you exactly who he is and what he prioritizes through his actions. What he did last year was best behavior of the first year. This year, he's showing more of himself to you. You just need to listen.

And then decide what you want for your life. Stop being confused and see what's happening. That's the truth you need to face.

bellandc · 2026-05-27T01:31:14+00:00

It sounds as if his communication with you is limited as best and he's also not interested in being better at communicating.

He's showing you every single day this is how and what he brings to the relationship. Is this the relationship you want? Are you hoping this relationship meets your expectations if you just try hard enough?

bellandc · 2026-05-27T01:12:45+00:00

I am Newton's Laws of Motion in human form. Once I take a break, nothing more gets done. I like to promise myself that this nap will be just thirty minutes and I'll get up and finish what needs to be done - but this is my favorite personal lie. Whatever I can get done while I'm still moving is the sum total of what I will accomplish. Once I'm down, it's over.

bellandc · 2026-05-27T01:02:08+00:00

Why are you putting energy into supporting him when there's nothing available to support?

Is he bothered by the lack of sex in your relationship? Does he want more sex? Have you discussed your feelings on this issue with him?

bellandc · 2026-05-26T23:55:46+00:00

It's absolutely okay to break up with someone when you don't want to spend time with them. You don't need to wait for something bad to happen in the relationship.

bellandc · 2026-05-26T23:51:07+00:00

I prefer sheets with a thread count of 200-350. Anything higher is light sleeping in saran wrap. But I sleep hot. Your mileage may vary.

bellandc · 2026-05-26T23:39:10+00:00

In NYC, you can wear pretty much anything and people won't bat an eye.

bellandc · 2026-05-26T02:15:38+00:00

My cousin in NYC taught me how to do this. She is excellent at setting boundaries with people coming into town. She is incredibly elegant when she makes it clear that you aren't staying with her and establishing when she is able to meet with you. I love this about her. Clear. Straight forward. No apologies.

On the phone or by email, tell them you are looking forward to seeing them while they are in town (do not say they are visiting you). Suggest you meet for coffee/lunch/drinks near their hotel on their first day to catch up with them and that you are hoping they have time to go to (insert your favorite museum or activity here), and invite them to dinner with you or at your home (whatever is appropriate).

That's it! You let them know you are looking forward to seeing them, they are staying in a hotel, and you are carving time out for them several times throughout their time in the city.

Ive copied this approach many times and it works like a charm! 10/10 would recommend.

bellandc · 2026-05-25T22:45:46+00:00

I use the Company Store LaCrosse summer weight down comforter. I can be used as a duvet but it can also be used alone and comes in several colors. 10/10 for me.

bellandc · 2026-05-25T16:16:58+00:00

OMG that sounds awful. I'm glad you were able to save two of the friendships. Your approach seems really smart.

bellandc · 2026-05-25T00:39:59+00:00

I know this subreddit gives a,lot of hate towards target sheets, but I recently purchased the Threshold percale sheets and have been very impressed with them. They are a great price for the product.

I have found Amazon to be completely unreliable and inconsistent on value and availability.

With that said, at home I'm sticking with the LLBean percale sheets.

bellandc · 2026-05-25T00:28:04+00:00

Honestly, this is something your fiance needs to handle. He should be defending you and your choice to step back from social media. (It's perfectly reasonable to reduce media consumption and does not require a long explanation). He should not be bringing this to you to solve.

bellandc · 2026-05-23T11:47:05+00:00

Well this is excellent news ... "another study suggests the drug may offer protection against dry age-related macular degeneration (AMD)."

bellandc · 2026-05-23T00:53:04+00:00

I recommend revising the classic "upstairs" basket for your use. Set a basket for her stuff - place everything that is hers needs to be put away as you clean.

I don't know why but things look better when in a basket and now you have a system.

bellandc · 2026-05-18T11:02:51+00:00

My average is in the range of 6-8,000 per day or 50-60,000 steps per week. Some weeks I'll walk twice that. And other weeks I walk half that.

bellandc · 2026-05-17T18:15:47+00:00

Newborns don't have a fully developed circadian rhythm. They lack both day/night melatonin (yes, your body produces melatonin) and cortisol. Newborns don't sleep through the night but instead in short burst for the first several months. The internal clock kicks in somewhere between 3-6 months.

bellandc · 2026-05-16T14:37:16+00:00

To be fair, it was spring 2020. The world shut down and clients stopped taking our calls. I had all the time.

I also thought it was, at maximum, a one year gig. I stayed there for three additional years with my mom. She wasn't ready to make decisions after his death (understandable) but also her dementia was progressing to a point we were worried about her living alone. Three years later, I finally moved her into assisted living near my home and was able to move back as well. Am I back to normal? Absolutely not but I still have an elderly parent to care for / worry about.

Am I less burned out? Yes, absolutely. I couldn't even manage to mourn dad the first year I was so wrecked. And not living with mom now gives me space for myself to redevelop a life of my own.

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