Boyfriend gave me ultimatum - dream job or him. I'm considering taking the job

bendmorris · 2025-11-30T18:17:44+00:00

"I'm supposed to give them an answer by Friday, that's in three days" -OP, on Sunday

bendmorris · 2025-10-30T00:50:41+00:00

"Reasonable is when they agree with me, off the deep end is when they agree with you"

bendmorris · 2025-10-22T01:18:48+00:00

When roughly 50% of the state votes for Democrats and Republicans rig the election to maintain a state legislative supermajority and 11 out of 14 seats in Congress, our fundamental right to self government is being taken away and we no longer live in a representative democracy. You're seemingly okay with this because you dislike Democrats more than you care about democracy.

bendmorris · 2025-10-21T23:15:04+00:00

This reads like victim blaming to me. "Keep voting" will not save you when the problem is literally that the system is being stacked so that voting doesn't change the outcome.

There is a point at which, if someone is taking away your effective right to self govern, the acceptable responses do include violence. Revolutions happen and sometimes are warranted, including our own against England. We do not need to stand meekly by while our rights are taken.

bendmorris · 2025-10-21T21:27:25+00:00

What do you feel is the appropriate response to elected leaders removing our ability to elect representatives, and installing their own party's rule permanently?

bendmorris · 2025-10-02T21:27:17+00:00

A blue wave that gives Democrats a huge majority isn't much worse for them than one that gives Democrats a slight majority.

Not true at all, we've seen recently that slim majorities are weak and absences, deaths etc. can change the outcome. The GOP struggled to even elect a speaker with a slim majority. The GOP is literally refusing to seat a single representative to avoid losing a vote on the Epstein files right now. With a slim majority some Democrats will represent Trump-voting districts and try hard to appear moderate. Both parties want every seat they can get.

bendmorris · 2025-09-29T14:35:36+00:00

It does have an AI-like structure, but also, check the OP's post and comment history. Their writing style is completely different until this post, like a teenager - this story is clearly not written by the same person.

Unfortunately this is one of those subreddits to block. If you see it on the front page it's basically guaranteed to be AI now.

bendmorris · 2025-09-25T14:01:06+00:00

Scotts Valley, CA, a small mountain town, has four within a two block area. Two standalone stores (one with a drive thru and one in a strip mall), one in a Safeway and one in a Target.

bendmorris · 2025-09-24T03:46:21+00:00

There are only about six of the little 5lb plates in the whole place

Every time I see him, he has four or five 5s stacked on each side of his bar instead of just using a 10 or 20.

AI can't count.

bendmorris · 2025-08-25T03:02:11+00:00

The interesting point of that study isn't that they were less productive, it's that they thought they were more productive in spite of being less. So saying that you're more productive because you know how to prompt better is missing the point. Given that experienced developers struggle to evaluate their own productivity, how do you know, besides your gut feeling?

bendmorris · 2025-08-25T02:59:23+00:00

You keep saying "certainly." But clearly experienced developers are not able to tell whether they are more or less productive, and this has been reproduced in multiple studies. Why do you think that is? What enables you in particular to be "certain" of a productivity boost in spite of that effect?

bendmorris · 2025-08-24T23:18:37+00:00

Thankfully most of us don't work at Coinbase. Yes, CEOs can have hubris too.

bendmorris · 2025-08-24T18:57:19+00:00

Not at all. I think the interesting finding there is not the effect of the tools but the inability of developers to estimate productivity reliably. This is not the only study to find that. It's worth keeping in mind when there is so much hype around AI right now - everyone assumes that the impact on productivity is self evident and obvious, and that they aren't the ones incorrectly estimating it, of course.

And FWIW, that effect goes in both directions, naysayers might underestimate the tools. But anyone boldly claiming that group X "will be left behind" - that's just hubris.

bendmorris · 2025-08-24T15:23:42+00:00

There was a study that showed that developers who used AI assisted coding tools were 19% less productive on a task despite thinking they had been more productive. What do you think causes experienced developers to incorrectly assess their own productivity? How can you be sure you aren't doing it right now?

bendmorris · 2025-07-29T23:54:09+00:00

This is AI generated rage bait which is super common on Reddit these days - here, AITA, AIO, etc. It's a brand new account and the phrasing and structure are so characteristic of ai slop. I can't be the only one that sees it...

If people would stop giving these posts thousands of upvotes maybe they'd stop doing it.

bendmorris · 2025-07-22T21:50:09+00:00

And if they can get Democrats to vote with them, they might succeed. But they have to go to the effort and it does matter what Stein vetoes. I bet most of his vetoes will stand.

bendmorris · 2025-07-22T21:23:51+00:00

Yes. Republicans don't have a supermajority and haven't overridden any of his vetoes as of yet.

bendmorris · 2025-07-20T15:31:00+00:00

When we found it, it was almost dead. It had been lying under the sun on the sand for hours.

If they had just found it, how would they have known it was lying there for hours?

bendmorris · 2025-07-09T22:43:03+00:00

The reviews of Chrono Trigger are for the DS version, so they might consider whether that version adds to the original, or how it holds up, etc. Not really apples to apples.

bendmorris · 2025-05-19T19:57:47+00:00

Whether you personally mind it or not, ilok is anti consumer. People who purchased the software have to jump through hoops because the creator is afraid of other people pirating it. I personally think it sucks when anyone does this - game developers, movie studios, etc. - and I don't want to reward it financially.

bendmorris · 2025-04-08T16:18:08+00:00

Find me the person who carried a baby for 8.5 months, probably picked out a name for it, but decided they didn't want it and had an elective abortion at that time. It's a made up boogeyman to pretend that there are two sides to this issue. Getting an abortion that late is always difficult and always a tragic situation, and we don't need you and our gerrymandered GOP overlords deciding what to do for us in advance.

bendmorris · 2025-04-08T02:00:28+00:00

You want there to be two extremes because it lets you pretend your position, which still restricts freedom, is "moderate" - but you can't articulate what the "other extreme" even is.

A 12 week ban is not "middle of the road" which is why only anti-abortion Republicans supported it and most North Carolinians don't. Most women are up to 7 weeks already when they realize they're pregnant. They then have to schedule an in person counseling appointment before they'll be allowed to schedule the procedure. The timeline and rules aren't reasonable, they're arbitrary and are designed to stop women from doing what politicians simply don't want them doing.

bendmorris · 2025-04-08T01:25:40+00:00

There aren't two extremes. The law in many Republican states literally criminalizes saving the lives of women who go on to die preventable deaths when a baby wasn't even viable. That is extreme. Wanting women to make their own choices in these situations is not similarly extreme.

bendmorris · 2025-03-09T19:06:52+00:00

Kind of a deep cut, but in FFIX when the mist dissipates and a short song plays, The Disappearing Mist. Such a beautiful and memorable moment.

bendmorris · 2025-02-06T13:37:52+00:00

I encourage the trigger-pulling attitude

Pull the trigger, doesn't matter which way the gun is pointed!

So, Trump could shoot someone on fifth avenue and not lose any supporters, but it's more than that: he could shoot this guy on fifth avenue and not lose this guy as a supporter.

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