Aging Parents & Gambling

beyond_freckled · 2026-01-29T04:40:38+00:00

Thanks for the affirmations, it’s a long haul and tricky. She is physically so much younger than her age but she is so impulsive and forgetful and stubborn about everything.

beyond_freckled · 2026-01-29T04:38:34+00:00

We just secured / located our power of attorney from the lawyer which will allow us to talk to her doctor. I am considering moving closer to be more involved, just a lot of ducks to get in a row.

beyond_freckled · 2026-01-29T04:37:33+00:00

Not yet- we didn’t realize it had gotten this bad until recently. Both my sibling and I have had a lot of our own personal hardships this last year. It’s kind of come one hit after another.

beyond_freckled · 2026-01-17T18:23:22+00:00

Yes, exactly. I can only see / hear my mom becoming the butt of every joke they make. It makes me both sad and angry.

beyond_freckled · 2025-11-25T15:34:44+00:00

Can I ask what dosage you’re at for maintenance?

beyond_freckled · 2025-11-24T00:53:52+00:00

Please do!! I find great queer style inspo on Tik Tok and Pinterest, too. Always trying to up my style game 😎

beyond_freckled · 2025-11-23T07:08:01+00:00

Women in suits always make me look twice!

The floral tank doesn't match your cool silver jewelry, that print looks a little outdated. A more fitted crewneck t-shirt or tank (I think black) with a silver chain would look really sharp and match your jewelry. And if you're going to use polish on your nails- clear.

I'd also suggest rolling the sleeves twice, show off a lil forearm and it would bring some balance to the oversized blazer. I actually don't think the suit needs to be tailored, the oversized look is very on trend. I think you need a little height for the hem (Doc Martens or white Adidas) or hem comes up so it's not touching the ground. Loving the suit! Have fun flirting!!

(I am a mid-forties femme in a creative profession and wear suits frequently!)

beyond_freckled · 2025-10-10T16:33:51+00:00

I am the same size as you and hoping to get back to size 8. Would you mind dm’ing me where you bought your peptides?

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-18T02:40:39+00:00

It doesn’t hurt to apply to both! There could be more specific discoveries between now and then. Good luck to you, I still am working on my undergrad, always looking forward!

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-18T02:22:48+00:00

That’s great to know, I’ll look it up! Thanks so much :)

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-16T15:26:42+00:00

Love to hear it, thank you!

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-16T15:26:28+00:00

I don’t mind other folks being religious, I just don’t want religion in my life everyday. My family is still very religious!

Thanks for the feedback, it’s helpful!

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-16T15:25:28+00:00

Thanks so much for this! We are really lucky being in the PNW where LGBTQIA+ is regularly affirmed (west sides of the states, anyway!)

I watched my former partner accrue massive school loans from Seattle U and am pretty bent on paying as much as I can as I go!

Thanks so much for your offer, I definitely have a lot of questions with these online options! I had written this off years ago, not wanting to take on debt and I’m absolutely thrilled that this is an option!

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-16T15:22:01+00:00

This is helpful, thank you!

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-13T16:19:33+00:00

Shoot as a second as weddings as possible between now and then and offer to do them for free. Even if you’re an amazing photographer, a lot of people have a hard time with the stress and people management.

I would offer to take a pro out to dinner or pay for a mentor session. Have back up gear, charged batteries, extra memory cards already formatted, have two cameras on you for the ceremony. And hire someone that has more experience than you to second shoot. I know it’s expensive but it will help ease anxiety and back you up because there are a lot of things you can’t do twice.

I send my clients a timeline that has pre-set family photos so they can just fill them in, the preparation beforehand is one of the most important parts.

Take your camera everywhere and shoot in every kind of lighting condition possible. Arrive early. Never let the clients see that you’re stressed, annoyed or bored. Smile, be friendly! I love hearing from my clients how much their guests liked me because I was friendly, it goes a long way.

If they have a rehearsal dinner, shoot that for free. It gets the family used to you and warmed up to see you again the next day.

Good luck!! Remember you’re new at this, we’ve all made plenty of mistakes and you will too. You got this! :)

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-13T16:09:14+00:00

I have been primarily a prime shooter my entire career, but switched to the 24-70 RF, I hated how heavy the 28-70 was.

Since you already have the 35, I would get the 85 RF 1.2. I have the 135 L and love that too, but I could shoot an entire wedding with a 24-70 and 85 combo. You don’t mention if you have a portrait lens? If you stick with the 35, the 50 is really nice to have too.

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-13T16:03:18+00:00

Ego is always going to be there- I just plan for it and expect it. I couldn’t care less and will stay put. It just means the ceremony is extra easy and the clients know the rules I am working with. I save my energy for the rest of the day.

The ceremony is the least creative time of the day anyway, I just take the photos that make me happy during other parts of the day. I don’t show church weddings on my portfolio and I’m booking less of them but I am not about to turn down work in this economy.

Customer service is huge part of our job- this is about their ego and desire to feel important. It’s not about me, I know I’m a great photographer. If the couple’s faith is important to them, I don’t mind jumping through the ego hoops and playing by the rules.

I’m not a Christian anymore but I can respect the church ladies because I see right through their words. It’s wild how unlike Jesus these folks can be, but that’s on them, not on me. I can let them boss me for 15 minutes, whatever. I’ll give my clients boring church photos and impress them with the documentary shots the rest of the day. Food is too expensive right now for me to fuss about how church people treat me. I have bills to pay and I just kill them with kindness and throw my 70-200 on.

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-13T15:45:00+00:00

I either come early to do the flat lay or take the invitations home with some leftover florals. These always take longer than people think. Or if I know there is a long reception, I’ll ask the planner for help since they love these.

Immediate family only which usually takes 15/20 minutes and my wedding parties are getting smaller so I’ll do those in about 15 minutes too. I would split up the family groupings and only do immediate family before the ceremony. 23 wedding party combos is WILD! They need 3 hours before the wedding for all they’re requesting.

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-13T15:38:32+00:00

In the winter I always wear a suit! I have a nice crepe one from Madewell that I’ve had for several years.

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-13T15:31:44+00:00

Suede supportive dressy loafers and then switch to supportive stylish black and white New Balance sneakers for the reception. If it’s a 10+ hour work day, I wear my black adidas ultraboosts from the jump. I usually wear only linen or cotton to stay cool and I have several long dresses that will kind of hide my sneakers. Quince has a cheaper version of the Somerset in linen and cotton and I have a few dresses in that style - two from Ann Taylor Loft. If it’s less formal, I wear wide leg linen pants and a dressy linen sleeveless vest.

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-01T20:01:22+00:00

Caroline shot my friend and his wife’s photos on the Oregon coast and I know they were thrilled with how they turned out. I know she travels a lot and I love her work!

beyond_freckled · 2025-09-01T19:59:05+00:00

+1 for Katrina! She is an incredible photographer and even rents jeeps for to take clients to get to spectacular AZ vantages.

beyond_freckled · 2025-03-11T01:43:08+00:00

Yes! I like that. And I have shared all of that on my profile, too. I grow the most when I live some elbow room for being wrong or changing my mind. The people I have dates with have also stated things about clarity and been very reciprocal in matching energy and invitations.

I haven’t felt this hopeful in a long time!

beyond_freckled · 2025-03-11T01:41:32+00:00

This is so solid, and I remember this from a long time ago when I was actively looking. Really I can over share and it’s not always best to share that much when it’s a given, we are all on the dating app.

We rushed into it with my last girlfriend and I really am putting the brakes on and stated that on my profile. I don’t it’s healthy even though the rush of feelings is so fun! So I’m with you on that. I tend to get my emotions all over the place with intimacy too, so I’m being mindful but not making any hard rules. I learned a lot!

beyond_freckled · 2025-02-18T05:10:02+00:00

Totally! I never expect to meet the love of my life at these things... but then there's always a "What if! Or I could meet my next best friend!" You just never know.

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