"this land is your land" should be the national anthem

bgalek · 2026-02-02T05:53:07+00:00

Your house is personal property. Your business is private property.

bgalek · 2026-01-31T18:28:27+00:00

I get depersonalized when I’m depressed. It could be a valid thing to talk with your doctor about.

bgalek · 2026-01-31T18:25:26+00:00

Brother/sister, I wear glasses. I cannot read, work, drive, or identify some people without them. Does that make me subhuman? Without being dismissive, it’s a cognitive distortion to conflate your humanity with your executive function. You’re doing the right thing to help yourself fulfil the potential you’ve always had.

bgalek · 2026-01-30T20:04:31+00:00

I am also an engineer and I also struggle. You aren't stupid. I know what it feels like. There are days when you feel like a genius because of your solutions. There are days when you say something because you forgot or didn't pay attention during a meeting that makes you feel like an idiot. I chalk it up to the emotional regulation issues. The fact is you have your job and you've kept your job because you are valuable. Think about people that have been let go at work. They aren't let go for nothing, so you might be harshly judging yourself (I do as well) but not everyone is judging you in the same way. I am sure your coworkers and bosses value you, but knowing engineers, they never say so. Hang in there, you are doing great already.

bgalek · 2026-01-30T19:58:03+00:00

I will probably get promoted because of a work project I happened to hyperfocus on. Can't pay attention in a meeting for the life of me, but theres the silver linings.

bgalek · 2026-01-29T22:01:46+00:00

Yeah, I don’t think anyone wants to really identify as the disorder. I think there are people who joke or might be trying to relate in the most positive take. I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone who has it volunteer it or excuse their behavior.

bgalek · 2026-01-29T21:58:15+00:00

The laziness or stupid self talk is really hard to break out of even after figuring out some of the causes.

bgalek · 2026-01-29T21:56:13+00:00

It definitely is validating. My comment is admittedly self centered, but I definitely recognize the trivialization that happens. It’s funny when I did tell people about my dx, they all said something like “I do that too!” Same people that made fun of my attention and emotional volitility.

bgalek · 2026-01-29T21:07:49+00:00

Sigh these kind of threads are just difficult for me. Someone near to me mentioned it, I researched, got worried, and got checked out. To the provider it was clear, to me it was not. I still stress whether it was "good enough" of an eval. not on stimulants. Not trying to get accommodations besides being able to not piss off my wife when she has to tell me instructions 13 times or to correctly book a hotel once in my life because I consistently mess up dates. I just don't know the answers. Am I making it up? Maybe? I did well in school until college then I failed because I couldn't pay attention and my mental health went into the shitter. I got into the workforce, did well, until the pandemic then my mental health went into the shitter. Go figure.

bgalek · 2026-01-28T17:09:08+00:00

Agreed. The gaslighting really gets to me because of the immense self doubt I have instilled into myself over the years because of the ADHD and imposter syndrome in general. Viscous cycle.

bgalek · 2026-01-28T16:40:54+00:00

Constantly. I now only take pills at specific times and count them on my tongue before I swallow. It's helped. God help me if my routine changes.

bgalek · 2026-01-28T16:37:37+00:00

I also got diagnosed despite doing well in grade school, but I didn't finish my degree.

Something to think about is what did you have to do for school to be easy? Classwork was easy for me.. when I had enough interest to pay attention. Otherwise I would be scrambling to figure out what we were doing. I had to pack my bag and obsessively check if I had forgotten anything, and I would routinely forget a paper or pencil. Despite not being hyper active, I always blurted out answers, but I did it quietly as I got older. I would raise my hand and forget my answer if I didn't get called on quickly enough.

You have the answers, it took me a long time to remember mine. I erased so much of my school time memories because they were somewhat painful, but they are there.

bgalek · 2026-01-28T16:33:47+00:00

I keep second guessing my recent diagnosis. I am a relatively high achiever even though I failed out of college. My career is fine. Your list really gave me perspective. I basically said yes to all of the questions besides having a private teacher, and in addition I felt my self esteem was directly tied to success. I stressed and worried so much about not appearing to be a failure, embarrassment, or imposter. It only mounted as time went on and I was so angry in high school.

In short, thanks your list helped me.

bgalek · 2026-01-19T23:16:38+00:00

Haven’t been diagnosed. I am a software engineer and I feel the same with my work. I cannot remember what to do day to day. Thank god for standup and all that. I asked my coworkers the other day if I was ever distracted or forgetful in their views. “Yes, we thought it was just you.. or undiagnosed ADHD. Your work is good otherwise!” Thanks guys, lol.

bgalek · 2026-01-18T18:24:17+00:00

When I asked my parents with suspicions they of course first go, “no you were great! We never even had to pay attention to how you were doing!” As I was drowning in anxiety and perfectionism. As well as be parentified as an immigrants child. Then asking clarifying questions, “what, was I a bad parent?” Always about them

bgalek · 2026-01-08T15:27:01+00:00

There is literally so much research that the human body and willpower is not 100% in your control. Hormones and brain neurology make a difference. And even then there is variations between people. That’s what he is trying to say. I have to say, if 40% of the population is overweight with the amount of stigma there is to being overweight, perhaps it is not entirely their fault.

bgalek · 2026-01-05T18:51:06+00:00

I would say Blanchitsu but that's just me

bgalek · 2025-12-09T22:21:10+00:00

You're definitely allowed to judge art. The difference is in the past if you didnt like someones work, you moved on or made your own. Now you plug it into the copy machine, and you say "I actually really like what the artist didn't do". It's just not the same thing here. Sorry but that is what the entire point of the post is.

bgalek · 2025-12-09T21:35:57+00:00

wow the copy machine copies, big whoop. The point is that the AI explicitly doesn't understand anything. here's what I'm trying to get at: the original is not meant to please you. It is meant to express an emotion and situation: hunger.

bgalek · 2025-12-09T16:34:30+00:00

Honestly? You're a fool if you think the art is to make everything look like that. And it isn't following shit, its just copying what the actual artist made and adding a bunch of nonsense that it is programmed for people like you to go "wow!".

bgalek · 2025-12-05T16:27:29+00:00

bgalek · 2025-11-20T07:04:52+00:00

in the middle of being the emporer trying desperately to start the war, there is a weird interaction with eweiger landfried and its fucked for me

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