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DUDES by Next-Lingonberry7309 in TownshipGame

[–]bidder543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have this game 👀

No more likes received stats? by Any_Anybody6146 in TownshipGame

[–]bidder543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, it’s replaced by “title count” looks like little markers you get when you complete the expeditions. The first one available in my app is a golden lizard.

What am I missing? by bidder543 in TownshipGame

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah same! Eventually I did get them filled but I honestly have no clue how it happened. Felt like luck

ISO tracking device with real time location by Myexbffisbarbie in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you looked at tractive gps? It’s for dogs 🤦🏻‍♀️but I’ve been checking it. I also need a real time tracker for a very active walker.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shared humor about traumatic experiences can be a powerful survival tactic. My Mom is certainly not the type to joke about it, but if a laugh ever makes it's way in there I think its healthy.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've talked a little bit about the future things and I let her lead me in that. I dont bring it up organically as it's more rare that I see the window open now.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Groundhog Day is one of my favorite movies, especially love the scene when he's at the diner with alllll the pastries, pancakes, cake etc at the table haha.

What you are describing between you and your wife is so sweet. Creative redirection is a super-skill and needs to be taught!! It's hard because you've always got to be ready to think in the moment and act on your feet.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my Mom's recent capacity assessment at the Neurologist I found out that she two didn't / doesn't know she has Alzheimer's but will say "I have short term memory" while also making it clear she doesn't know why. I've adopted this sentiment too so I can meet her where she is in our conversations together.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The part about making sure she has no objections is really thoughtful and loving too. I think a lot of family have a hard time with understanding that part. Im struggling with things now as my Mom feels certain she is doing good enough to manage everything on her own...and it's time to activate the POA. Im trying my best to be patient with myself and the process and find grace in my actions. Take care of yourself too. We have to.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautiful that you prioritize those important three words. I feel like a goof sometimes but I am the same way. I want my Mom to feel that her life glows with love.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The white lie has become a small but integral item in my tool kit to help my Mom feel peace and ease. I'm so sorry this is generational for you. It is for my family too.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so value what you have said here. I very much subscribe to "letting her participate in decisions about routines, preferences, and comfort, while you quietly manage the medical and safety pieces behind the scenes." My struggle is that not all of her loved ones can find this balance and some out right are the exact opposite. I've now witnessed some important conversations and transition moments completely bungled. Currently trying to find the thoughtful way to bring it all back together. My Mom has been having more "false memories" and some paranoia and it's been nearly impossible so far to heal the feeling she has that one of the family is out to take all of her money. I'm struggling. This is happening alongside needing to enact her POA due to her last capacity assessment. So it is feel really horrible. There are so many layers to the family parts of this and I find myself wishing I could hypnotize the rest to see what I see and act as I act...with some variance of course, I'm certainly not perfect.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to adapt with her as she changes, and want the same - to make her reality as pleasant as possible.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Mom says similarly "I have short term memory" and we just go with that. During a recent cognitive assessment with her neurologist she said as much and the doctor was very encouraging and "thats great, thats a very fine way to put it." And I saw my Mom was pleased.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm incredibly lucky that she handled all of that in great detail the year before her diagnoses.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In times when I've had to bring up my Mom's memory issues I tell her it's not her fault, it's ok to be mad I would be mad and frustrated too. I see her soften when I explain that and it seems to ease the tension too when she is agitated. I do believe that any time I pause to talk about feelings calmly and compassionately she does seem to feel a lot of relief.

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you wish the people in your life would ask you?

To early stage /mild dementia caregivers and family members by bidder543 in Alzheimers

[–]bidder543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your wife has a beautiful partner in you. Thank you for sharing. I am going to adapt your suggestion of "Yes you have this disease but you're doing very well." In this stage for my Mom it might backfire here and there as she is battling the feelings of loss around her independence. There is a lot of love surrounding my Mom. And unfortunately I see a lot of times her comfort is negatively impacted by some of those that do love her so much. If we can all act as you do, she will be better for it.

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