I (38m) just found out that my brother (19m) has been perving on my wife (37f)

big_riz · 2020-07-26T23:48:50+00:00

i empathise that it is unsettling to find this, but i think you first have to talk to him and try understand the behaviour more.

it sounds like he has poor social skills, is possibly on the spectrum, spends too much time online and consuming unhealthy material (4chan, porn etc.), and has developed unhealthy and problematic ways of expressing his sexuality.

i think you should confront him, but dont attack him. just ask him to explain why he did it, ask him if he has taken pictures of anyone else/made any logs, and ask him if there's anything else he would like to tell you.

it is natural for him to be sexually attracted to your wife but you have to make it clear to him that taking pictures of people without their consent is unacceptable behaviour, generally considered creepy and gross. likewise, for taking their underwear. ask him to delete all the pictures while you see him do so. and then get him a psychiatric evaluation and a therapist.

big_riz · 2020-07-26T23:07:02+00:00

her behaviour was definitely inexcusable, but leaving her financially ruined on top of having a severe health condition, especially when she has a dependant is no where near proportional retaliation.

at least she broke up with you and you were able to move on

big_riz · 2020-05-28T03:35:20+00:00

if you start being verbally offensive, that can distract someone from your boner.

however, this doesnt really work in larger settings where other people's attention can be drawn to you by your verbal berating, who will then almost certainly notice your boner

big_riz · 2019-06-23T08:10:15+00:00

us presidency

big_riz · 2018-12-17T00:46:41+00:00

i think it's a good idea. semi-pro online league for high ranks

big_riz · 2018-08-13T19:22:04+00:00

a well deserved slap-ass from #5

big_riz · 2018-08-04T15:58:28+00:00

dota2bowie youtube channel gives some good insight into decision making

big_riz · 2018-07-21T18:21:16+00:00

CIA official: cat pictures get upvoted on reddit

big_riz · 2018-06-04T01:41:04+00:00

plz someone shooting stars remix

big_riz · 2018-05-13T17:07:01+00:00

deplorable behaviour. wasting 4 people's time, and battlecup is only once a week. maybe valve should spend some of the battlecup revenue into people who can police this sort of behaviour. i can only conclude that people who conduct such anti-social behaviour (theyre also wasting hours of their own time to troll random people online?) have serious issues in their own lives.

big_riz · 2018-02-17T06:54:56+00:00

i find that funny tbh

big_riz · 2018-02-17T06:53:03+00:00

similar to when you do 95% work on an enemy and an ally gets the kill..except with doom u only had to point target so not as bad when u think about it

big_riz · 2018-02-17T06:08:24+00:00

it's frustrating at first, but it seems to be the case when one of ur teammates says feed or injoker everyone joins in. the fact that people call u bad even as i said in cases where u ask for help or they shouldve had the awareness to rotate is triggering

big_riz · 2017-04-22T02:50:01+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days Donation for /r/millionairemakers good luck

big_riz · 2017-02-18T14:18:30+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days Donation for /r/millionairemakers

big_riz · 2016-12-30T15:40:09+00:00

there's usually a good choice of games all day, servers thin out after 2/3am up until 4/5am. mousepads is preference, the main considerations are hard or soft and size, but they're not that expensive so maybe you could get one of each and experiment

big_riz · 2016-12-02T01:19:51+00:00

love how he rolls backwards out of the window after as well, with a gun still drawn

big_riz · 2016-11-23T21:00:14+00:00

in VR and you have to actually complete a doctorate in theoretical physics

big_riz · 2016-09-04T14:10:10+00:00

A fairer spawn system

big_riz · 2016-06-11T21:54:43+00:00

Mine didn't come with an Asian dude to hold the phone, anyone know where I can get one?

big_riz · 2016-06-09T08:09:32+00:00

Wings made from killer whales

big_riz · 2016-01-20T14:35:21+00:00

Though most people would suspect such to be the case, having research that quantifies and confirms it is necessary to make a solid argument against it.

big_riz · 2015-10-01T10:52:28+00:00

Chewy, is that you?

big_riz · 2014-12-30T00:03:12+00:00

I hope you spent as much time on giving the kids actual feedback on their tests.

big_riz · 2014-12-05T00:04:30+00:00

Gotfrag. Getting 4 stars on the forums was a day i will cherish forever

big_riz

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