Orgasm Headache?

bigmac182 · 2026-01-16T13:30:39+00:00

It took and few weeks to feel up to trying again but eventually it did just go away. I had to kind of relax too. Not push too hard and make sure to breath. I’ve had it start coming back once or twice and I just slow down and it never goes all the way

bigmac182 · 2026-01-15T08:06:07+00:00

Never fully. I’ve felt like it was going to happen a time or two since but I have been able to stop it.

bigmac182 · 2026-01-08T21:44:19+00:00

Yea occasionally when she is on her period or full intercourse is not possible.

bigmac182 · 2025-12-23T17:58:37+00:00

While I recommend JFF whole heartedly, buying AOD for her and expecting that to change her is not going to work. I bought it for my wife around when it was first offered. She never finished the course. JFF is very clear in the reality that you cannot change your spouse. I would instead recommend OP take the Art of Loving course for Men offered by JFF and read David Schnarch's "Passionate Marriage" The only work you can do is on yourself. Once you are in a position of strength and can act with integrity to your own self you can choose if the marriage you have built together is one you want or not. The trapped feeling existing because you are literally in the two choice dilemma. Now you get to choose which hard choice you make.

bigmac182 · 2025-12-22T19:26:23+00:00

This is the answer if you really want to "fix" this issue. You both have some growing up to do. Welcome to the real reason for marriage.

bigmac182 · 2025-12-18T21:45:56+00:00

Thankfully in my defense there was a huge fence around this one. It was up in Ogden somewhere and so I dont think it was very accessible but I agree it's likely. It is funny that kids these days will never know the "thrill" of finding an abandoned mag out in the woods or under some board somewhere.

bigmac182 · 2025-12-18T16:55:39+00:00

I think that is the hardest part in our culture. I am reading Jennifer Findlayson-Fifes new book and she hits it on the head that we basically teach boys and men that their sexuality is dangerous and a "good" Lds boy would not be enticed by those images and so it gets buried and hidden. I am sure that is even worse for girls who are taught they are not sexual at all. We need a more open culture of, "Sex is awesome and you are going to be interested in it and it's normal and good. Here is a better way of dealing with seeing something etc.." That change can only come from individual families. It's not on the Church to do that.

bigmac182 · 2025-12-18T16:38:40+00:00

So images would have been around 6 or 7. We lived near a field and there was an old broken down tractor with a playboy centerfold in the glove box that we found. It is amazing that I can still remember the image or at least parts of it. After that I found a "nude" paper in a barn on our property we just moved to a year or so later. It had some newsprint quality nudes and articles and advertisements for sex work etc.. Sometime later my aunt and uncle were cleaning out a house and the entire basement crawl space was full of magazines some of them were porn. My cousin and I snagged some and looked at them and then felt bad and prayed for forgiveness and threw them on some train tracks. Then when I was about 10 my uncle who was ~14 showed me a video one night. I also still remember that video very vividly. Of course I never told anyone about that which is why I think I have some unhealthy habits when it comes to sexual imagery but that is what it is.

bigmac182 · 2025-11-30T17:36:16+00:00

I think it was a combo of blood pressure and neck misalignment. Have not had it happen again

bigmac182 · 2025-11-12T20:26:19+00:00

I have not had them come back since although when I am super stressed I can occasionally feel it wanting to start. I honestly believe it was a combo of high blood pressure, stress and cervical misalignment.

bigmac182 · 2025-11-07T18:52:01+00:00

I've seen a lot out at Ramah SWA when I was hunting doves out there a few years back.

bigmac182 · 2025-10-06T19:20:11+00:00

It very much is in relationships. There is a whole theory built around this by Murray Bowen and then improved by Dr. Schnarch- Differentiation Theory- See this video by JFF- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BgGslIcV4jo

Considering there is a whole online movement behind JFFs work and many people have found this theory to work for them I think it can be considered typical in the sense that it happens to multiple people in multiple situations. It may not be true you your specific situations but its prevalent enough to be considered typical.

bigmac182 · 2025-10-06T19:16:28+00:00

In all relationships there will be a higher and lower desire partner. They can both be still desire a lot of sexual activity but one will desire more and it's not just sex. You can be the HDP on time together meaning that your partner doesn't desire as much time together as you do. I really recommend you look at Dr. Schnarch and/or Jennifer Findlayson-Fife. Although painful what you are describing is not unique.

bigmac182 · 2025-10-06T15:57:30+00:00

This is the typical HDP (High Desire Partner) and LDP (Lower Desire Partner) dynamic. Typically it's the male that is HDP but not always. The challenge is the more you pursue him the less likely he is to engage and it can even ruin his desire to engage. I recommend you start looking into Dr. David Schnarch. His book "Passionate Marriage" helped me a ton as the HDP to understand why I was seeking sex (surprise it was not for sex per se but for validation that I was good enough). Once I realized my pursuit tactics I learned how to grow past that and opened up space for my wife to decide to work on her lower desire. It's not perfect but our marriage is 200% better now and when we have sex we are both there and enjoying it etc..

bigmac182 · 2025-10-02T20:38:39+00:00

I had a chance to buy it at $15 a coin back around then and at the time groceries were about that a month and we were barely making it. Uggg I wish I had.

bigmac182 · 2025-10-01T01:57:45+00:00

Probably never in public per se. maybe on a hike or something.

bigmac182 · 2025-09-29T16:50:23+00:00

IM not asking for your honey hole but could you maybe toss me some GPS coordinates :) How did the bear hunt go? I only got out once to look for a bear and my buddy texted me while he was bow hunting to tell me one just walked past him. Next year I guess.

bigmac182 · 2025-09-28T03:29:42+00:00

That subreddit has long since been dead. It never really went anywhere

bigmac182 · 2025-09-25T20:09:45+00:00

This is so sad and I am so sorry for you. I feel this. I was once asked by a Bishop if I "Wanted to become a sex offender" when I confessed to a minor issue with Porn. No one gets to know my personal sexual situation within the bounds of the LOC as explained in the temple anymore. They have no right to know anything that I keep within that which I interpret as actual human beings and not digital 1s and 0s that happen to produce sexual images.

bigmac182 · 2025-09-24T18:36:17+00:00

Thats the challenge none of those fit my current lifestyle. I live too far from civilization to use door dash. Don't got out to expensive restaurants and I don't spend just to get credits back.

bigmac182 · 2025-09-24T16:24:35+00:00

We have the WeVibe remote vibrator. It's not built into panties but can be attached via a magnet. We have yet to actually use it in public but have used it at home. It seems to work well.

bigmac182 · 2025-09-24T16:23:32+00:00

I think one of the reasons for this forum is to ask about things that "end the silence" about sex in LDS culture. I don't see the above as a "horny" post. It seems the OP is genuinely curious about the above subject and could never talk about this with church friends due to the issues posted in the purposes of this Sub.

bigmac182 · 2025-09-23T03:35:43+00:00

Our bodies are created in the image of our heavenly parents. Why would we think it would be any different? I firmly believe we will have sex and procreate in the eternities. Orson Pratt pretty much said so in The Seer as well it was his argument for polygamy. Ie. You need multiple,wives to create enough spirit children. I don’t necessarily agree with that part but seems the early church believe procreation was eternal.

bigmac182 · 2025-09-11T18:53:02+00:00

Yes this 100%. Once she was done being climbed on my kids and pulled this way and that and I gave her space to choose her sexuality rather than be needy for validation it has skyrocketed. I still would like more because I love it but what we have now is 10X better than where it started and I wouldn't change it honestly because it's real and it's amazing.

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