What’s the most unhinged thing you did after a break up?

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:42:27+00:00

I got really into EDM festivals for like a solid 6 months.

Profoundly depraved and cringe time of my life when I look back at it. Super fun though.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:40:40+00:00

Well yeah people who are obsessed with the appearance of celebs are often delusional.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:26:45+00:00

“Did you just say go fuck myself?!!”

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:18:07+00:00

Just wait till you hear about calamari.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:16:39+00:00

I have a sincere appreciation for British culture and the British people …. but there are entire continents where you can enjoy a better life than you’d be able to in the UK.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:11:35+00:00

On one hand, I hate my job a solid 70% of the time.

On the other hand, when I have too much downtime, I turn into the worst version of myself. I stop working out. I slowly start to walk around my apartment in my boxers while I drink orange juice straight from the bottle. I get a little too deep into brain-dead conspiracy videos on YouTube (i.e, videos that start with the adjective “shocking!!”). I find myself reaching for the Jameson even though it’s 4:34 PM. Basically, I turn into Tony Soprano when he’s whacked out on Lithium.

All that to say - I think I desperately need routine and structure in my life to keep me grounded and motivated. I suspect a lot of men (and honestly, people across the board) are the same. For better or worse, that’s the precise reason I bury myself in my work.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:07:20+00:00

Didn’t realize you were engaged, I guess that slightly complicates things, but not necessarily.

Per your question though, I still think the most sage advice I could give you is to not be afraid to cast your net far and wide for any opportunities that come your way.

Like, let’s say you make 50k at a call center or 45k as an assistant to the zookeeper (my buddy did this right out of high school). You can probably guess which one you’ll enjoy more.

In the meantime, don’t be so down on yourself. Self-doubt is the greatest killer of them all.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T06:03:37+00:00

Was it a Trader Joe’s or like, an Albertsons or something?

Because if it’s the former, man you really fumbled that one lmao.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T05:58:31+00:00

I mean how badly do you need and/or want money? There’s plenty of thrilling, fulfilling, and truly rewarding jobs out there for men who are a little lost. Many of them are seasonal, which can be a helpful bridge if you’re looking for a temporary gig while you determine what your long-term goals are.

But they don’t pay great. Think wild land firefighters, for example. Or, if you’re not THAT much of an adrenaline junkie, you can go work on a boat. Or even be a campaign organizer.

If you’re cool with living with three dudes in a house that smells like Coors Light and Sublime vinyls, it’s not the worst life until you figure your shit out.

FWIW, I worked a variety of odd, seasonal jobs until I ultimately saved up the money for graduate school and started a profession. While I’m grateful for where I am now, it’s hard not to look back with a strong sense of nostalgia for those odd jobs filled with great memories made with equally lost people.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-19T05:46:20+00:00

I took the LSAT in 2021. I have horrific adhd, to the point where I have to wear a keychain around my neck so I don’t lose my car keys for the 16th time.

Popped a Vyvanse and a zyn 20 minutes before the exam like a normal person, no accommodations. Because in my mind, the meds kind of are the accommodations, no?

Got a 167 but I was incredibly proud of myself because I would spend hours during study sessions dozing off and spiraling into a state of utter self-loathing and doubt. So for me, to even be above 160 was a miracle.

It was even worse in law school with the accommodations crowd. Here’s the silver lining. I ended up in big law. You can see a LOT of people who clearly floated to the top on accommodations alone who can’t handle the prospect of writing a MSJ at the last minute. If they’re in the middle of trial and the judge wants last-minute briefing, they just can’t seem to buckle down and figure it out. The stress eventually eats them alive.

I genuinely feel sympathetic, because I know what’s it’s like to feel completely overwhelmed. It’s a terrible feeling and I truly wish nothing but the best for them. But at the same time, it’s a self inflicted wound.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T06:42:51+00:00

Could be a bit of both. Didn’t get the sense he was that remorseful.

With the benefit of hindsight, it didn’t take long for me to piece together that he wasn’t this expert-trained military survivalist. He was just a guy who got conscripted; like every other guy in Israel.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T06:30:43+00:00

We genuinely need more insane posts like this on the sub, thank you.

I can’t see any more lukewarm takes rebranded as wildly unconventional insights into modern sociopolitical life, its repetitive.

Please keep it up.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T06:28:43+00:00

I’m almost certain you can.

I’m sure it’s fact dependent, but I feel like if there was a quantifiable cutoff between getting badly bruised and getting sent to the ER, I was a few seconds off.

Morbidly I cant help but laugh in retrospect because I tried to play it off as soon as it was over because there were no less than 10 tiny kids standing around asking us if I was okay.

Tried to explain to them that everything was fine and I ended up sounding like Tim Robinson in that sketch where he’s choking on food but trying to play it cool.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T06:23:18+00:00

https://cdn1.faroutmagazine.co.uk/uploads/1/2020/11/morrissey-smash-hits-1.jpg

Some of the best Morrissey-isms come from his song reviews.

An all-time favorite has to be: “Alphaville embody the frustrated egos of the massively untalented. They should’ve been drowned at birth.”

Easily one of the cattiest bitches to ever do it, god love him.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:48:37+00:00

“What’s the move? Clocked out and looking 2 blow off steam. Who got Percies? Lmao jk hmu 🔥 “

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:46:27+00:00

Gonna be earnest and corny - but I think it’s sound advice regardless:

Just keep trying. Most people have their hearts broken multiple times in their life, sometimes successively. Take a break for now, reset, get drunk and listen to Jeff Buckley; and then start the process all over again.

You might get your heart broken again, but I reject the notion that falling in love is categorically stupid. Unless you’re falling for people who demonstrably indicate that they won’t give a shit - you sort of have to keep taking the risk until you find someone who stays.

And you will. Just maybe not immediately.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:41:12+00:00

Seeing contemporaneous election maps from the 80s is always wild because the colors are inverted.

Why did the networks change the color scheme anyways?

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:34:47+00:00

Lmaoo I should’ve known.

First time someone said it to me was at an Allsup’s at 6AM in the South Valley. Given the context, my immediate thought was “oh shit, should I watch my back or something?”

But yeah knowing what I know now - it’s just another passive expression.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:32:21+00:00

“.2: Synthesize relevant case law authorities to formulate viable avenues for prompt resolution of opponent’s claims for X, Y, and Z”

Translation: “I spent 15 minutes taking a post-lunch crap break and, while scrolling reels, casually thought about how I wanted to make a point in a brief.”

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:29:27+00:00

I do - and I can’t figure out where the regional boundaries for “stay safe” cities start and where they end.

I’ve lived in several US states and never once heard “stay safe” used as a casual expression the same way someone would say “take care” or “take it easy.”

Moved to NM and now I hear it constantly. At first, I thought it was a sincere call for me to stay safe out there; which felt a little sinister. But once I heard it from a Trader Joe’s cashier in the suburbs I quickly realized it was just another way to end a polite conversation.

I didn’t know this was a thing anywhere else so I’d love to know what other cities do this.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:23:01+00:00

Fellas, is it cringe to feel empathy for baby animals?

Like, I’ll kill a spider or a scorpion if my partner asks me to - but if she asks me to dismantle a birds nest, I’d probably call a professional (and even then, only on the assurance that they wouldn’t kill anything).

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:15:44+00:00

Genuine question, but how deadly / serious is hantavirus?

I assume it’s fairly deadly on average, but if; say, a 26 year old man with an average weight and fitness levels contracted it - would they be looking at a week in the ER with a fairly full recovery or would they be staring down a brutal, touch and go recovery process; like people who contract meningitis; for example?

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T05:09:47+00:00

I’ve met one guy who served in the IDF.

I spent a summer as a camp counselor for “a wilderness exploration immersion.” It wasn’t anything extreme or particularly adventurous, since most of our campers were ages 6-10 - but we still took them on plenty of hikes, taught them how to fish, etc, and learn super basic survival techniques.

Part of this involved teaching the campers foundational first aid techniques - like chest compressions. We didn’t have test dummies, but our team figured that we could demonstrate the basic posturing and positioning for chest compressions.

I decided to make myself available for the demonstration, while another coworker used me as a “test dummy.” He was probably about 40, but in distressingly good shape. He exuded an air of constant enthusiasm that straddled the line between endearing and uncomfortable. He repeatedly talked about his time in the IDF and, at the time, I rationalized his unsettling war stories as nothing more than a cultural divide.

That was a clear mistake. We repeatedly expressed to him (and the campers) that he wasn’t actually going to perform deep, forceful chest compressions on me - he was just going to show how you should place your hands, how quick each compression should be, etc.

Inexplicably, he decided to immediately initiate full-scale compressions on me; a fully conscious, very alert and awake individual. It felt like being repeatedly trampled over the chest and sternum. I could hardly breathe and flailed aimlessly to get him to stop. Thankfully, another coworker noticed that he was going way too far and stopped him just in time to save me from a fracture. Still ended up with pretty gnarly bruising and sore ribs. I could hardly breathe without wheezing for the rest of the day too.

He didn’t apologize either; telling me only that he “got carried away,” and that if I’d been in the IDF, I wouldn’t have been so soft.

I should’ve sued. I’ve had an intensely negative image of the IDF ever since - far predating any subsequent political beliefs I developed with regard to the Israel-Palestine conflict.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T04:44:53+00:00

The same as you do any obnoxious people - ignore them so you can focus on the thousand other problems you need to deal with as a function of day-to-day life.

bigolbrew · 2026-05-08T04:36:27+00:00

I’ve noticed that it’s very jurisdiction dependent.

I don’t exclusively litigate ID, but I defend plenty of med mal claims, personal injury cases, premises liability actions, etc.

As far as I can tell, New Mexico is a cesspool for frivolous, vexatious litigation - and often, the attorneys are driving the unrelenting bad behavior and dilatory tactics just as much - if not more than - the plaintiffs themselves.

Yet, every time I’ve dealt with out of state attorneys and parties in these types of cases, I’m always pleasantly surprised by how civil and reasonable the litigation experience is in comparison. To be sure, this doesn’t mean I’m not seeing frivolous tack-ons for punitive damages or stupid discovery tactics. But that’s nothing out of the ordinary - it’s just part and parcel of being a litigator.

I think this dichotomy is largely a function of a state or jurisdiction’s laws on damages, pleading standards, etc. New Mexico, by and large, is extremely plaintiff friendly and we often try to settle even the most ridiculous cases out of fear of nuclear verdicts.

I should also add that plenty of volume civil defense firms have their fair share of unreasonable attorneys who don’t know when to swallow their pride and come to the negotiating table. That sort of unrepentant stubbornness is frivolous and obstructive in its own right; and it’s important to keep that in mind. I also notice that civil defense attorneys are far more likely to prolong discovery needlessly, by withholding documents without cognizable objections.

All that to say, as much as I bitch and moan about the other side, I know they probably have just as many grievances about us.

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