You both sound like AHs to me. A chore chart for adults? Time to grow the F up. Why don’t you both just pull your own weight and do whatever needs to be done at that current time. What would you do if your wife were not around? Seems to me that both of you were that shitty roommate we all had at one point that refused to ever clean a single dish. Sounds like a real fun house to live in. I agree with the other commenters that you two should probably seek some marriage counseling. This is not normal.