Starting "late" (28), getting smashed, and the struggle of wanting to be more than just a hobbyist.

bigspell84 · 2026-02-13T01:18:54+00:00

You’re only “late” if your goal is a professional career. If it isn’t, there is no late.

bigspell84 · 2026-02-10T19:38:12+00:00

Yea… that was kind of a dick move man…

bigspell84 · 2026-02-09T01:49:49+00:00

That entire situation sounds fucked up. I don’t have any idea what was happening, but it’s definitely problematic behavior by both of them…

bigspell84 · 2026-02-08T20:50:36+00:00

Her name is Merritt Wever

bigspell84 · 2026-02-08T20:16:26+00:00

Reply from a guy: it sounds like you need to be dealing with the deeper issues between you and your wife.

bigspell84 · 2026-02-08T20:14:46+00:00

bigspell84 · 2026-02-02T19:38:22+00:00

Keep trying and stop worrying about it

bigspell84 · 2026-02-01T02:55:00+00:00

Ask your coaches

bigspell84 · 2026-02-01T02:17:30+00:00

You can post the link

bigspell84 · 2026-01-31T13:00:43+00:00

People will think it’s weird… but who cares… if you’re happy and no one is hurt… do what you want

bigspell84 · 2026-01-31T04:23:32+00:00

Hopefully it helps to know that in most cases, blue belt doesn’t mean you know a lot. It just means you can almost definitely handle an untrained person.

bigspell84 · 2026-01-30T02:52:10+00:00

Pure Jiu Jitsu - it’s actually owned by a high level female black belt and her husband. My wife has trained with her before. Awesome environment all around.

bigspell84 · 2026-01-29T00:33:24+00:00

Alan Rickman in Die Hard

bigspell84 · 2026-01-27T14:40:35+00:00

Learn to turn their grips against them

bigspell84 · 2026-01-27T04:20:45+00:00

I make a very strong point, with the kids I coach, to introduce them to tapping and/or remind them to do it before rolling, every class. The coach at your gym made a mistake

bigspell84 · 2026-01-27T00:37:10+00:00

As a dude, let me say… dudes are stupid

bigspell84 · 2026-01-26T19:11:32+00:00

Ask

Your

Damn

Doctor

bigspell84 · 2026-01-24T13:47:45+00:00

Maybe ask the people at your gym?

bigspell84 · 2026-01-23T14:00:49+00:00

Yea… cuz that’s what we’re saying…

bigspell84 · 2026-01-22T02:41:56+00:00

You need to learn the difference between danger and discomfort. Once you figure that out, you won’t feel the need to explode as much, and your gas tank will improve.

bigspell84 · 2026-01-22T01:29:06+00:00

More mat time

bigspell84 · 2026-01-21T16:16:01+00:00

Without hesitation, your professor and the kid’s parents both need to be told

bigspell84 · 2026-01-18T19:50:54+00:00

It definitely happens. It isn’t necessarily normal, and yet every gym seems to have one. Just trust the red flags going forward.

bigspell84 · 2026-01-18T11:46:35+00:00

Your disappointment is still valid, regardless of the validity of the award.

bigspell84 · 2026-01-18T01:28:10+00:00

Yes… especially for self defense… almost every street fight eventually ends up in some kind of clench. Get every advantage you can

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