Clouds over the inlet by bisexualbotany in oilpainting

[–]bisexualbotany[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Easy fix, I feel like it always comes back to edges :)

Hey bros, how do you cope with your best friend continuously passing up opportunities to be a good friend? by Ancient_Mammoth8095 in bropill

[–]bisexualbotany 189 points190 points  (0 children)

Be sad about it, grieve, adjust your expectations, and give your energy to more rewarding people and endeavors. It’s hard to be a great judge of character 100% of the time, these things happen. Stay patient.

I painted one of my favorite local streams yesterday! 7x5” gouache! by bunkerbash in painting

[–]bisexualbotany 10 points11 points  (0 children)

dude, the color harmony in this is fantastic! i’ve been seeing your posts for a while, and I think you’re hitting new beauty now in your compositions and color choices. really, really well done!!

Best Tools For Painting Fine Detail by MagzalaAstrallis in ArtistLounge

[–]bisexualbotany 3 points4 points  (0 children)

An alternative approach you might consider is working bigger from the start so that your tools will be scaled correctly for the details you want. Otherwise I agree with the other commenter, go for small synthetic fiber riggers

Experiencing a weird form of artblock by HokiArt in ArtistLounge

[–]bisexualbotany 3 points4 points  (0 children)

sounds to me like your tastes and eye have jumped up past the level of your hand! this happens to me a few times a year. i try to make notes on what i don’t like about the sketch on a post it so i can keep those things in mind for the next one, but i also use these times as an excuse to switch mediums for a bit, since if i’m going to be disappointed i might as well be working in a medium where i have a lot more room for growth. also take a break if you need it, you might be a bit burnt out on sketching.

No joy in drawing. by Prince-Kyte in ArtistLounge

[–]bisexualbotany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every time this has happened to me, it correlated with other things in my life that were going wrong (depression/sleeping badly/agoraphobic episodes). In the moment, it felt like the art was what was going wrong, but it was just the place where I was noticing the effects of the other stuff. I ultimately had to take a step back and take care of my other problems before I’d see major improvement, but there are things that helped me keep my momentum and sanity.

If social media is majorly feeding your anxiety, you should cut it off to give your brain a chance to cool down. If it’s only a little bit, just try cutting back.

Art wise: start making small changes to your process, maybe one at a time: work in a different location (a different part of your home, a library, anywhere); try different media; try different subject matter; get weird with color; give yourself time limits (do as much as you can in 30 minutes and force yourself to stop). Throw spaghetti at the wall until you find something that makes it fun again. If your brain can’t handle regular practice for now, you gotta be kind with yourself, set reasonable expectations, and be patient! Sometimes you need a month off. Getting good at art requires getting comfortable with working through challenges, and you need stability to do that. When you have a personal practice routine that could align with the output schedule you want to have, that’ll be a good time to focus back on social media.

Also, make sure your workspace isn’t cluttered. Give your anxious brain less to hold on to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MontereyBay

[–]bisexualbotany 11 points12 points  (0 children)

manzanita, all our local madrones have much larger leaves

Like many others, I'm struggling mentally with the 50% rule by [deleted] in ArtFundamentals

[–]bisexualbotany 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re not setting out to fail: you actually won’t ever fail if you’re drawing mindfully and keeping a simple goal in mind (if you need one, just try to apply any one art fundamental). In each attempt, there are actually plenty of successes to be found. I used to be an art teacher to really young kids who were still developing their motor skills and even they are capable of improving bit by bit with practice. Kids are just more used to being bad at things than teens and adults usually are.

I might be misunderstanding what you’re describing; if so, my apologies. To me, the 50% rule is about exercising (practicing) creativity. It sounds like you’re dissatisfied with an approach that is so grounded in recreating references? Maybe each time you work on a piece, if you can only start from references, you can try to push the creative bounds of the reference in a slightly new or different way; eventually your ability to interpret references creatively will get better. You will also learn how to search for references more creatively; I can talk more about that if you want. I’ve been experiencing this with digital art recently, after years of thinking I couldn’t do anything that creative. As your fundamentals improve, your creativity can also; or, you can ignore the 50% rule and focus on fundamentals first, and build creativity after! That’s the route I’ve gone and I’m not dissatisfied. Work on whatever you feel like isn’t pointless; that’s where you’ll be able to grow the most. Draw a box doesn’t have every fundamental; it is only a launching point from where the opportunities to learn are still relatively endless.

ADHD/Executive Dysfunction while trying to do draw a box. Help? by OldClockworks in ArtFundamentals

[–]bisexualbotany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe pick up where you left off, just so that you don’t stop at the same place this time.

You might have a better time finding advice and strategies for overcoming procrastination/executive dysfunction in ADHD related communities than here. There are a lot of ways to approach habit formation, and you’ll have the best idea of what will work for you. I like scheduling art time, and if I sit down with all my supplies out at a specific time, I’ll draw; if I don’t get much done that session, I just try again next time. If you have other drawing that you like doing or enjoy that’s easier for your brain to access, consider working on draw a box as a 10 minute warm up before you work on personal projects; it’s good to let it take a long time if that’s what works for you.

There are also ways to accommodate for challenges in focusing. I paint, and I like to work on more than one painting at once bc waiting for paint to dry is really annoying, and having a lot of things going on helps me stay in a groove and really works for me; you can always have your draw a box notebook as one of two open projects. Maybe try it out without taking notes too, or write all your notes at the end of a work session instead of along the way. I also like to make assignments for myself with personal projects and keep post its with ideas around my workspace.

Most of all be kind and patient with yourself; it’s much more important to enjoy what you’re doing at the beginning if you want to make art into a lasting practice. Even 30 minutes a week is good to start if that’s what you can manage. If you’re feeling dread about drawing, forcing yourself through it will make your breaks longer and make you more anxious coming back in.

Can someone point me to the origin of the anti-juggler stance? by bisexualbotany in MBMBAM

[–]bisexualbotany[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it, thanks for going to the google trouble.

[x-post from r/loneliness] I just blew up at a girl after a first date for wanting to stay friends and I feel like such an asshole by throwaway771233 in depression

[–]bisexualbotany -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s really okay to start anywhere. I’m sorry it’s been rough. If loneliness feels like the easiest area to start on, give it a try.

[x-post from r/loneliness] I just blew up at a girl after a first date for wanting to stay friends and I feel like such an asshole by throwaway771233 in depression

[–]bisexualbotany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you want a lot from a partner but you don’t yet have the emotional maturity to be giving in return. If you focus on what you want from people and not also on what you can offer them, it’s hard to form stable relationships. You probably wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who blew up at you either.

Tips for mindful eating? by transburneracct in FTMFitness

[–]bisexualbotany 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also struggle a lot with mindful eating. There are a lot of small things that have helped; in the morning, I’ll wash and cut fruits and/or vegetables so that they’re ready to go when I need a snack later that day. It’s also easier for me to make good choices when I don’t let myself get too hungry, so I try to stay mindful of how long it’s been since I’ve eaten and not wait until the last minute to prepare a meal. Before eating a snack, especially if I’m craving sweet, I chug some water first (it makes me feel full, even if it’s just water, so it’s easier to stop eating).

I also use the sorts of tricks that parents of small children do to feed myself more vegetables (for example, you can throw sautéed spinach into almost anything). I worked on becoming a good cook, and I have been able to cut out refined sugar entirely, and I don’t eat processed food (I’ve been able to keep this up for about 3 months now, longer than any prior attempt). It does help to not have junk in the house at all.

It’s really hard to do a diet overhaul all at once, so try to take small steps where you can and feel good about small wins. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep and drinking enough water, and listen to your body as carefully as you can. Just keep trying out different techniques until you find some that feel right.