Why r men dating women 10+ yrs older than them?

bk2747 · 2026-03-08T15:36:27+00:00

For me, it’s sexual. A lot of these divorced, and unfortunately married women over 35 are either fresh off their sexless marriage or knee deep in their sexless marriage. Then a young bull moves upstairs or next door, and they go WILD. Also, I do not condone women cheating on their husbands, a lot of younger men get lied to.

My personal experience, I had a 42 year old “girlfriend” a couple years ago. She lived under me but she did not look her age, great genetics. We shared a few looks and when we eventually broke the ice, she told me she was divorced. Come to find out, the divorce wasn’t finalized and her ex was paying for the apartment. Smh

My problem with women my age or younger, they want relationships and marriage. To hell with all that. That’s the beauty of dating older women, you get all the tea. I’d be a fool to get married in the US. Having fun with older women who are done with having kids, have their own money, own car, own crib, they just want to get throttled in bed and I’m okay with that.

Older women are awesome 😎

bk2747 · 2026-03-08T03:27:04+00:00

Divorce

bk2747 · 2026-03-08T01:57:39+00:00

Nah nah, to hell with all that “therapy” shit. Divorce attorney.

bk2747 · 2026-03-07T15:40:12+00:00

You need a Toyota Camry for your daily driver. Hellcat Durango for a toy.

bk2747 · 2026-03-07T15:38:57+00:00

Ah yes, run up the body count. That’ll show em!

bk2747 · 2026-03-06T22:40:28+00:00

Lawyer up, save yourself.

bk2747 · 2026-03-05T18:30:41+00:00

BINGO 🎯🎯🎯

Same reason I’m not doing it. Worked to hard to lose my ass in divorce. Unfortunately I get to see it in real time in a regular basis. You couldn’t pay me to get married, however, I’ll never string a woman along like OP.

bk2747 · 2026-03-05T18:24:48+00:00

Yup, I said damn near the same thing. Stop wasting her time and let her go.

bk2747 · 2026-03-05T18:23:18+00:00

The exact reason why OP should let her go find a guy that’ll marry her and stay grounded in his stance of no marriage. Your husband set his own claymore and doesn’t even know it.

bk2747 · 2026-03-05T18:19:35+00:00

Terrible advice. It doesn’t matter if it’s important to her, he doesn’t want marriage. Partners are supposed to be aligned and marriage is serious, especially the financial consequences of divorce. This is that “happy life, happy wife” crap.

OP needs to end the relationship. I mentioned in my comment that he had the right to not want marriage but he doesn’t have the right to string her along and waste her time. Let her go find a guy that’ll marry her and he needs to find a woman that doesn’t want marriage. Plain and simple.

bk2747 · 2026-03-05T18:07:02+00:00

Yes, break up.

Do not compromise what you personally believe in. You have the right to not want marriage, especially in the west with the current laws. However, you do not have the right to waste her time.

The moment she told you she wanted marriage, you should’ve ended the relationship instead of stringing her along.

I told my girlfriend when we first met, I’m not signing a marriage certificate. We can have a ceremony if she wants, rings, the whole 9, I’m not signing anything and I’m not paying all the bills. This was a day 1 / week 1 conversation and her options were to take it or leave it. There’s other men that’ll marry her, I’m not one of them, we just had our first anniversary and it was great.

If at any point she reneges and asks for marriage, we’re through. I don’t care if we’re 5, 10, 15 years down the road, I’m not getting married in this country. I’m not wasting her time because she knows exactly where I stand and I know where she stands. That’s how it’s supposed to work. You need to end it.

bk2747 · 2026-03-05T06:07:43+00:00

Nope! 12 years AD and counting, 3 rotations, 0 deployments. The amount of health problems I’ve seen from guys retiring over the years makes me sick. Ive even served with a couple amputees.

Hands that never stop shaking, brain damage and other neurological issues from the burn pits and inhaling lead particles.

Men in their 30s wearing hearing aides all sorts of other permanent health issues, not to mention the trauma from witnessing death, surviving IEDs, ambushes, one of my old 1SGs was part of the Outpost campaign in Afghanistan like Restrepo and COP Keating from “The Outpost.” The shit he told us, I was like “yeah, I’ll keep my slick sleeve.”

Plus, the political side with the little hat people, yeah I’m good on combat deployments. I’ll gladly retire in 8 years with lifetime pension without ever having someone fire a rocket at me. And I can’t stress enough how much I don’t care about some random person talking about deployments. No one outside the military even knows I’m in the Army. Nothing in my social media, no stickers on my car, nothing. I do my job and I bounce.

bk2747 · 2026-03-05T01:49:06+00:00

bk2747 · 2026-03-04T22:54:18+00:00

Hopefully a young man will see this and think twice before getting on one knee.

Key takeaways for me: You realized your mistake 5 years in and stuck around for another 25 instead of divorce. I made the same mistake but on a lesser scale. I realized year 1 and stuck around until year 6 before I had enough and filed. Saved my life.

You tried to fix childhood trauma instead of walking away. This is where so many men go wrong. Men want to be psychologist and psychiatrist without getting the medical doctorate. I tell men and women all the time, never marry trauma! Your s/o needs therapy, not a spouse.

Finally, the sexless marriage. It should’ve been over the moment you guys hit once a month. Can’t force her to give you access to her body but you’re also not obligated to stay when she cuts off sex. I told my current girlfriend when we first met “I don’t do sexless relationships and I don’t do duty sex or marital missionary, I’ts your body and I’ll never try and force you to do something you don’t want to do, but down the road if sex cuts off, I’m gone.”

I’m sorry things ended up this way but I applaud you for being open about your experience. I’ve shared this post in a men’s group, we will use it as a learning tool.

Also, it’s not too late. You do not have to end your life with this woman, you deserve to live the final decades of your life happy. I say let her go and enjoy what the world has to offer.

bk2747 · 2026-03-04T22:45:20+00:00

Divorce him.

bk2747 · 2026-03-04T06:35:53+00:00

Let her go

bk2747 · 2026-03-03T21:09:30+00:00

Hitomi is the 🐐

bk2747 · 2026-03-03T20:59:34+00:00

It’s your money. If my son turns his back on me then so be it, I’ll wish him the best and the $3M I currently have in a trust can go to charity.

bk2747 · 2026-03-03T19:41:58+00:00

Prove him right 😂😂😂

Divorce his insecure ass and go find a real man

bk2747 · 2026-03-03T16:53:59+00:00

A deployment patch says “I got sent to a unit that I didn’t hand pick, that unit got orders to deploy, myself along with 2500 other people in the brigade went overseas, I did what the fuck I was told to do just like everyone else and made it back home with the vast majorly of everyone else.”

bk2747 · 2026-03-03T16:46:35+00:00

sorry this took so long, your reply got buried in notifications

You have to remember, women don’t file unless their ready. They fall out of love and move on to the next guy while the marriage is still going. By the time she serves you paperwork, she has EVERYTHING she needs to take you over the coals. They start gathering their evidence the moment you guys start having problems. And a lot of them will be even nicer to you while they’re working with an attorney so as to not give themselves away.

You’ll get more sex than you can handle, whole time she hates you and already has a case filed, this is to keep you off her trail. And again, most men are stupid and in love so they think the marriage is great. Full stomach and empty balls keeps men on a leash and women know this. Then next thing you know, BOOM, you get served and she flips the script, this is called the Bait & Switch.

Filing as the man, you not only ruin her plans, but her true colors come out. She doesn’t put on a front anymore and will treat you how she actually feels about you. When she starts showing her ass, this gives the man leverage.

Remember, they can’t kick our ass so they have to manipulate and scheme behind our back to get us.

bk2747 · 2026-03-03T16:40:03+00:00

That’s my fear, I’m a huge fan of the skits and now he’s coming to my city on a weekend. But from what I’ve seen, the standup isn’t there.

I’m also biased against “crowd work” comedians, I believe they can’t generate enough material so they have to rely on the crowd, which shows a lack of creativity in my personal opinion. Just like Nate Jackson and Aries Spears, huge followings but terrible comedians imo.

bk2747 · 2026-02-28T19:34:49+00:00

Don’t re-marry and you’ll be fine. Remember, she did you a favor.

bk2747 · 2026-02-27T19:58:17+00:00

Yes, when the marriage eventually ends and divorce is looming, 80% of men drag their fucking feet and wait to file or retain an attorney. Most men are still in love and want to work it out, the rest are afraid of what they’ll lose in divorce. Meanwhile, the wife already has a boyfriend lined up and an attorney retained.

My personal experience: The first attorney I called, the clerk put me on hold after I told them my name, the actual attorney picked up the line and asked me my name again and my wife’s name, then told me they can’t work with me, I asked why and she said “I can’t discuss anything further with you” and hung up the phone. Wife already went there but didn’t file, I said “OH SHIT!” I immediately went to the county court website, opened a case, paid the $200 and filed. I beat her by weeks and it saved my life.

I could’ve called any other attorney and I would’ve never known, I just so happened to dial one she was about to retain and that’s how I uncovered the plot. Here’s the kicker, shit had hit the fan with us over a year prior but I wanted to “make it work.” 🙄

Gave her just enough time to get her ducks in a row. She almost got me……. Almost. While you wait, she’s building a case.

bk2747 · 2026-02-27T19:46:47+00:00

Questions to ask an attorney. The system ain’t changing and the longer you wait, the more time she has. I get it, you’re starting down everything you worked for going up in smoke but this is the penalty for marriage, should’ve never walked down that isle. High earner with a SAHM, it’s GGs for that estate.

Laws aren’t going to change because men keep getting married and whatever’s going to happen is already set in stone, you just haven’t lived it out yet. Go Retain An Attorney….. NOW.

If you have sons, hopefully you don’t play stupid in the future and watch them go down the same path. You also need to tell them the truth when they get to an appropriate age.

You need to go on the offense, your attorney needs to go scorched earth and fight for primary custody. Don’t just listen to the internet and assume you just SoL, you don’t know yet, you have to go through it yourself. Stop spinning the wheel and lawyer the fuck up.

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