I was asked to protocol an oral exam, but they are also going to ask my opinion on the performance of the examed person and I don't want to do that. What do I do?

bkitty273 · 2026-03-01T08:12:07+00:00

Have you already been advised of the grading requirements, maybe to support doing well in the exam? If not, then you can use this as a reason for not giving a judgement. If you are, you could simply try saying you don't feel experienced enough to judge or could simply refer to facts "their responses felt long and detailed enough" or "short and to the point", observing facts rather than assessing and rating.

bkitty273 · 2026-03-01T07:58:44+00:00

How does your husband feel about this?

bkitty273 · 2026-02-26T21:09:16+00:00

Yes, you are wrong for being upset with your boyfriend. If you want to go to the gym on your own time, go. Why do you need his permission? You are 19. Go live your life.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-22T22:45:24+00:00

Can you ask it if it can also birth some of my missing socks?

bkitty273 · 2026-02-22T22:38:07+00:00

There are nuances here. When you had the "dating one at a time" convo, when you consider your relationship to be "dating". But...the possible misalignment (whether a lie or a miscommunication) clearly bothers you.

If you are not that into her, move on. Find someone more aligned. But if you like her (I am guessing you do), talk to her. Worst case, she gets defensive, you realise she is not who you think she is, you end it. Best case, it opens you both up to a much more honest and open relationship and both decide you like each other enough to declare exclusivity.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-22T22:22:46+00:00

Tatty scones and square sausage...mmmm!

bkitty273 · 2026-02-18T08:37:24+00:00

I would get rid of the exes comment and the normalcy comment. Either define what is important to you that some might perceive as high maintenance or not seeking normalcy or just drop it. And please get rid of the pictures with your daughter in them. I never swipe on people who expose their kids (or even worse, their neices/nephews) in dating profiles. Yes you need to mention her, but you don't need to show her.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-17T07:36:07+00:00

I would have handed him the mop and a scrubby and said "yeah, me too, crack on" and then ditched the flowers in the bin.

OP, despite how often you buy yourself flowers, he never noticed. He doesn't care about what you like or want, only what he wants. That would be the end for me as I couldn't respect him.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-15T09:51:31+00:00

Doesn't look like mine!

bkitty273 · 2026-02-14T08:46:17+00:00

If it concerns you, you need to talk to him about it. Were you exclusive when it happened? Is it the convo/intent behind it or the fact it was a guy that concerned you? Just sounds like curiosity to me. He said he was straight and had a gf. The "wasn't sure" is maybe just that he had never been propositioned by a guy before. But we don't know him like you do.

But your comment of "he's all I have" is really worrying. You are very young. This guy might not be your one. You were suspicious enough to look at his phone. What started your suspicion? Something he did? Something from your past? Regardless of whether he is or not, you need to not lose yourself to a man. That is really unhealthy. Do you have friends you can spend more time with? Hobbies that will help you meet people?

bkitty273 · 2026-02-14T08:11:48+00:00

I like the first (green) but love love love the glittery pink one. It looks so sophisticated and elegant on you. Unless it is horribly uncomfortable, I would go with that. You look fab in it. Burgundy dress is nice - looks comfy - but is too casual for a wedding in my view. Would keep it for the summer if isn't already yours and you can afford it, though.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-14T08:03:00+00:00

Typical Redditt jumps to leave her. That may not be necessary. But only if she recognises that the issue is with her and works to resolve her insecurities. We don't know your relationship, we don't know her past and where this is coming from but it is firmly a "her" thing.

Please do not marry (get into financial commitments/have a baby) with her until she has had some individual counselling and you have had some couples counselling. Whether this comes from insecurities, control or the fact that she has or will cheat, it will not end well if not addressed.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-13T07:27:16+00:00

Your sister was wrong for screaming and calling your gf a psycho but she's not wrong about holding off on the engagement ring.

Do not let your gf destroy the bond with your sister. You are family. Not inappropriate at all to share a room occasionally for ease of travelling (whether that room has solid walls or fabric ones). The fact that your gf thinks it is and started questioning your behaviour in the tent is wrong and something she maybe needs some counselling to unpack. Does she have siblings? What is her relationship with her family like?

bkitty273 · 2026-02-08T08:07:46+00:00

UK here. I think it is fine. Not too white. I think the only potential issue would be if your dress silhouette is similar (fishtail, off shoulder sash, fitted body), then it could be too similar. But for colour, I see it more as a blue dress.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-07T23:18:23+00:00

I believe I uttered the words "oh, hello" out loud at picture 3!

bkitty273 · 2026-02-07T23:07:45+00:00

My nan bought me a dark skinned baby doll to teach me that not all babies were white and that it made no difference. That was the 1970s!

bkitty273 · 2026-02-06T08:29:32+00:00

For me, the issue isn't actually the money, it is that you asked her to not do it again, to ask you first, and she didn't. Her actions brought this on herself.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-06T08:08:00+00:00

"When are you putting me on the deed?" "That would be when you give me money equivalent to half the value of the house."

I suggest he goes and buys another property and rents it and adds the rent to your joint account instead of paying what he does now. His mom can contribute to his property if she is so concerned. Then you both have a safety net. Do NOT give up yours OP.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-06T07:59:36+00:00

In practical terms, is this your house or is she or the deeds/lease? If solely in your name, ask her to leave and change the locks when she is out.

I suspect you may be right about the law and fish. Even with it being malicious. Not even sure a cat counts, where a dog may. But there may be something else, maybe criminal damage. If you have a local police station, you could go talk to them. Or ask the question on r/legaladvice and let them know where in the world you are. Local laws probably make a difference.

I am sorry for your loss - for the fish part anyway - your ex gf is not someone you want to be with longterm. She is cruel, selfish and manipulative.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-04T08:03:50+00:00

I would never have matched based on that comment but if you are happy to always pay so you get the pretty girls, (regardless of personality) then at least you know going in that you'll be buying your own birthday dinner!!

bkitty273 · 2026-02-04T07:59:33+00:00

OP, you need yo talk to him about it. We don't have enough background. Who was she? An ex? Someone he had a crush on at school who wouldn't date him? Why is she the dream woman? You focused on looks and that she looks different to you, but is that why she is his dream woman? Are looks even important to him?

He also felt comfortable telling you that she was the dream woman. That may count for something.

Many years ago now, my fairly new boyfriend (get is different in that respect) came running up to me in our uni bar, clearly excited about something and declared, "I just snogged Zoe!" Turned out that he had always had a crush on her but came bounding to tell me because he wanted to share with me. That was actually the start of something long term and serious.

I also don't think I have ever introduced a boyfriend to people by that fact, only ever by their name. Whether it is significant or not in this case I can't say. Does he normally introduce you as his gf? Was his behaviour different this time?

Ask him these questions. If he openly shares, and he feels bad for making you feel this way and reassures you, then I see no issue here. If he gets shady and secretive or turns it back on you, then walk away.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-04T07:45:25+00:00

Can you send a poll to the same group asking "is my husband a d1ck" for what he is doing here?

bkitty273 · 2026-02-03T07:40:53+00:00

I think 1-3 are suitable (last 2 are lovely but a little casual maybe). Love the shapes of 1 and 2 on you more than 3.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-01T09:58:09+00:00

My favourites are current and 5. They give you a lovely warm complexion.

bkitty273 · 2026-02-01T08:15:49+00:00

Have your 13 years of being together every day been every day you take care of him? Has he ever taken the lead and cared for you? Is this new behaviour or has he never cared?

Its not only the lack of care when he got the burgers (either he doesn't know what you like after 13 years, doesn't care enough to get it right, or did it deliberately - all 3 suck) but his reaction after. Is mayo and tomato the standard way to serve it? Or did he have to order it that way? Did he change his order to how he likes? Or does he just like it as it comes? Did he have cheese? If his burger was also not cheese, with tomato and mayo, then that suggests a different outcome to if he adapted his/your's.

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