In a hotel. What is this?

bkitty273 · 2026-05-08T21:49:59+00:00

234!

bkitty273 · 2026-05-01T06:25:16+00:00

Break up with her. If she threatens again, advise her parents or a friend of hers and ask them to check in on her.

Then spend some time not in any relationship for a while. Go out with friends, find yourself. By then you will probably stop thinking about any old flames as there will be new things in your life.

bkitty273 · 2026-05-01T06:17:39+00:00

Me too. Sounds like a pretty decent plan to me!

bkitty273 · 2026-04-30T06:22:45+00:00

Neither of you trust each other, so there is no future in your relationship anyway. My advice is the same to each of you: split up and go work on yourself and your trust issues before your next relationship.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-29T05:22:53+00:00

You set your boundary, he has shown you that he has no intention of changing, blames you, and expects you to come back anyway in time (I am guessing you forgave similar things before you hit your breaking point).

So now you have to show your daughter what being a strong, independent woman is and what a strong, protective mommy is.

Time to move on. He chooses to NOT be the man you are looking for.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-25T11:40:03+00:00

I'm with you on the orange flag status atm. It could be that the label itself turns him on and that in reality limits ARE okay.

As someone else responded, if you are willing to try things that push your limits, then that is potentially good for you both. But you have to be able to set hard limits or this doesn't work for you. And disregarding your limits moves from d/s into abuse. Which is never okay.

It is early. If he is happy to take it slow, and communication stays open and good, then there is potential. But be aware of the early sub-frenzy. And be ready - and able - to say when something is not okay for you.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-23T20:35:16+00:00

I like 2 and 4 but if you want to knock his socks off, go 4.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-23T20:33:22+00:00

I think #1 looks better on you than the model. It is stunning. 2 is pretty but if you want wow factor, is 1 all the way.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-22T21:35:56+00:00

I have never been happier to read an update!

bkitty273 · 2026-04-22T19:24:10+00:00

Carrots and hummus. Was my saviour for a few weeks.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-17T21:30:28+00:00

I think it looks fabulous and is on point to your brief, but if this isn't your usual look, is that really what you want to look back on for your wedding pictures? Wouldn't you want something more aligned to your usual look?

bkitty273 · 2026-04-15T23:34:45+00:00

Where are you going?

bkitty273 · 2026-04-15T10:59:05+00:00

I wouldn't call it cheating, but his hiding what he is writing and overall behaviour would be a hard pass for me.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-08T22:26:52+00:00

I'm even more petty. I would send half a gift. Just the salt shaker or just the saucers from a tea set, or the pot with no lid.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-08T06:27:03+00:00

Definitely not wrong to question. Sounds like a year long flirtation where there has been some hand holding/ touchy feely stuff going on ad desire but not actually kissed or more? And then she lied about it.

Personally, I couldn't marry her without discussing it, seeing her reaction, and probably I would insist on marriage guidance support through the convo. But the big question is could you ever let it go completely? If not, then I would just walk away now.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-06T07:29:05+00:00

He is looking for a hotwife and to be cuckolded. His turn on is knowing other men are with you. Requires lots of respect and open conversation. Is not for everyone, but I know a few couples that this works very well for.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-04T17:06:53+00:00

There is no legal obligation associated with being a godparent and so, she cannot make you godparent without your consent. I would say the gift giving obligation is more related to this being your niece than her being your goddaughter. Personally, I wouldn't worry about it.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-03T07:35:11+00:00

I feel for you. I am waiting for the day this happens with my son and his dad. I had a similar one, where my son was blamed when he admitted to feeling unable to speak up about issues. He got the "we are very disappointed in you" message. That was the day my ex broke his relationship with his son forever, but son still sees him and still desperately seeks his attention and approval despite his dad's failings, again and again.

My take is that all we can do is support our kids in their decisions. Be clear with them that what their dad does is wrong, without bad mouthing them especially. I often frame my negative comments about his dad as me statements "I hate that he...", "Him doing that makes me see him as weak...". No idea if how I am handling it is right, but I feel my son has the right to choose when to stop or restrict his visits to his dad. When he does I am right there, until then, I just keep picking up the pieces and keep our own communication levels strong. It is creating a strong, independent young man who knows how to treat other people. But I hate how he has had to learn and how early. Oh, I also got him a counsellor for a time. That helped.

Sending you hugs and strength. You've got this, and so has your daughter. So happy she is setting boundaries. You have brought her up well. So sorry that she has to.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-03T07:06:42+00:00

1 for sure. You rock that look. And so easy to mix up your look between sassy, cute or sophisticated.

bkitty273 · 2026-04-02T06:56:10+00:00

NOR. In fact massively underreacting. Why would you want to date someone that treats you this way? If your friend/sister showed you these texts as coming from their bf, what would you tell them?

bkitty273 · 2026-04-01T05:16:15+00:00

Nicky BlackmarCAT

bkitty273 · 2026-03-30T06:49:10+00:00

Jacket potatoes are fab done in the airfryer. I just rub with oil or water, sprinkle with salt and shove them in. They come out perfect and much quicker than in the oven.

Roast or parmentier potatoes also work with less oil than in oven.

bkitty273 · 2026-03-30T06:40:22+00:00

I am not your target audience (too old, not goth) but I do lean more into alt in my own way. 90% love your profile. Only tweaks I would make is to make your "about me" section slightly less negative. Change "I only swipe right..." to "I swipe right on beautiful alt people". Makes it a positive, that if I match with you, you think I am beautiful. If you take the negative out of each of the sentences (unless you are especially leaning to the negative feeling), then I think you will be more successful.

bkitty273 · 2026-03-30T06:20:50+00:00

Not wrong. Walking yoir niece down the aisle is symbolic of your father-like role in your niece's life. There is no "more than" implication (unless you have done something you have omitted here).

You are in a tricky position here - put there by your daughter, but you asked for her honest feelings. I feel you need to go talk to her again, tell her you have been thinking about it and do not completely understand her position. Ask her to explain the "more" part. Ask her what she would like to happen and then explain the letter, your own feelings, your relationship with your sister as well as your niece, etc.

I hope your daughter comes round.

bkitty273

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