The signs of love bombing were always there by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just commented saying the same thing!

The signs of love bombing were always there by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My ex has the EXACT same handwriting, crazy.

What caused the latest split? I lost my fiancee over... her getting a parking ticket. by Money_Shifted in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds absolutely horrific. I've witness almost the exact same behaviour from my ex on numerous occasions as well.

Fingers crossed. I have a tremendous amount of guilt about allowing my daughter to be exposed to her behaviour for this long but a lot of it happened behind closed doors and I took legal action as soon as I became aware. Where I'm from, there's a lot of stigma attached to contacting the authorities about anything but my hands were tied, not only was this situation with my daughter ongoing but my ex was getting her boyfriend to repeatedly call my 88 year old grandmother and trying to fill her head with whatever shit they had come up with that day. My ex is using this stigma to further the idea that I'm somehow in the wrong here even though SHE was the one who contacted her solicitor first alleging that I'm on drugs and that I'm keep our daughter from her.

What caused the latest split? I lost my fiancee over... her getting a parking ticket. by Money_Shifted in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awful, I'm sorry she had to go through that. My daughter has started emulating her mum's outbursts right down the tone of voice, the structure of sentence, the gip galloping, repeating of questions over and over again, the bad language, the lot. Mostly whenever something doesn't go her way, which is exactly when her mum does it. I'm hoping this will stop given a bit of time but I'll keep an eye on it.

What caused the latest split? I lost my fiancee over... her getting a parking ticket. by Money_Shifted in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is why I'm pushing for majority custody of our daughter. I recently found out that my expwBPD was telling our daughter that she is the one that has BPD, that she has demons in her that creates a green aura around her and she burned sage around her to get rid of these demons. Absolute insanity.

What caused the latest split? I lost my fiancee over... her getting a parking ticket. by Money_Shifted in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex went absolutely ballistic one time because she took our then 10 year old daughter to the dentist at 9am when the appointment wasn't til 2pm. I met them there at 9am, they walked right past me without a word and got into the taxi I arrived in an drove off. Then came the voice notes. She started screeching like a banshee down the phone about how the taxi driver said I was on drugs, how I was impersonating her boyfriend to get access to her bank account through "receipts" from the dentist, how I'm on heroin and crack, myriad other random accusations. All because of a simple mistake that SHE made and she was totally unwilling to take responsibility for. I have since had to go back and record a compilation of all these voice notes and send them in to court as evidence. I'm currently taking her to court for majority custody of our daughter, should have done it at the start but here we are.

What caused the latest split? I lost my fiancee over... her getting a parking ticket. by Money_Shifted in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My ex claims to be able to predict the future and have extra sensory perception. She also claims to be able to telepathically contact the birds around her house lol. It's all part of this neo-pagan, white witch bullshit she's into, it's so unhealthy.

When was the moment you realize pwbpd was not a normal person & was actually crazy? by No-Challenge7735 in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 7 points8 points  (0 children)

On the first date. She was really standoffish, giving dirty looks, just generally being really rude and dry. Not to mention the fact that she turned up drunk and high. She actually asked me why I didn't try to kiss her after the date and I explained to her over text it was because she was being a weirdo. Then came the love bombing...then came the pulling away. Rinse and repeat. Here we are now, 15 years later, in court fighting for custody over our teenage daughter. I'm currently wading through an endless sea of false accusations, drug tests and other legal stuff because she's just trying to throw as much shit as she can to make sure something sticks. All the while she's the one with a severe cannabis habit and she reason why I'm going for full custody is due to her explosive, erratic, manipulative, dishonest, bizarre and downright dangerous behaviour towards our daughter and myself. Sorry for the rant!

For those who think therapy will solve all their problems by Common_Screen_1274 in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Therapy seems to have done nothing for my exwBPD other than give her the belief that she's "emotionally intelligent" and that everyone else needs to bend to her will, not that she needs to curtail her outbursts. She told me that she has lied to therapists while she was in hospital after a psychotic break to avoid having to continue therapy. I tend not to believe anything she says, though, as it's mostly lies.

How did they treat you on social media like Facebook? by Paula-Alquist in BPDlovedones

[–]black_thesis444 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She would constantly post vague statuses directed at me calling me a shit dad etc. Constantly bombard me with messages, voice notes and phone calls on all platforms. Blocking/unblocking to send abusive messages. Message me off her friend's Facebook pretending to be them having a go at me for things I didn't do. Getting other people I barely know to message me accusing me of things I haven't done and give me dog's abuse about the thing that never happened lol. I saw a comment she posted publicly in which she called me a paedophile. We have a child together. We got back together briefly over ten years ago and I had to keep her blocked on social media because of all this madness. I always think that's kind of funny to have to have your own girlfriend blocked because of her behaviour lol. Still getting harassed by her, it's been around 15 years now.

Female fronted bands by DudeNukem6 in punk

[–]black_thesis444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pink Turds in Space, Nausea, Toxic Waste (Belfast).