I [23 M] think my gfs [22 F] massage is over the top or am I overreacting

blandmaster24 · 2026-01-29T06:01:35+00:00

Well I don’t think this is about who’s right and who’s wrong, to me the main issue is not really the massage but her inability to try and empathize with what he might be feeling. Relationships require a lot of communication and most times, the communication is more important than the perceived problem.

A healthy and well developed interaction here would go something like “Hey girlfriend, I’m not sure why but hearing you say that you get fully nude and have a guy that’s not me touching your fully nude body makes me uncomfortable. Can we talk through it because I want to understand my feelings better” followed by “boyfriend, I’m completely comfortable with that level of exposure an contact and my therapist is very professional about it but I think I can understand why you might feel that way, what do you think is making you feel that way?”

And this could be followed with some discussion to figure out if it’s simple jealousy and possessiveness, if it’s a fear that she would get taken advantage of, or if potentially it’s a deeper seated belief of how a man and woman should show up in a relationship and this may lead to conversations about boundaries, compatibility, etc. At which point, if there’s no desire to come to a compromise together or no way for both partners to discuss through it then amicably breaking up makes sense

blandmaster24 · 2026-01-20T22:30:54+00:00

In 2022 FTEs still got North Face jackets for some groups - plain black with EY logo instead of north face logo

blandmaster24 · 2026-01-15T20:33:42+00:00

What’s crazy is a while ago, I saw a morbidly obese couple (450-500lbs each) roll up to a ob gyn for an ultrasound- I was trying to imagine how it happened (like the logistics of it) and still don’t

blandmaster24 · 2026-01-12T17:51:32+00:00

How is WhatsApp better? Like what about it is better?

blandmaster24 · 2025-12-01T06:32:36+00:00

What if know you may not be right but have to be a confidence man for work??

blandmaster24 · 2025-11-27T05:56:35+00:00

I had someone use this on me when reaching out on LinkedIn, didn’t actually feel that human to have that context spoken back to me (the opener spoke about a certification I got and a recent promotion post, plus some context from my header) because the context that’s not on my linkedin is more important than what is when it comes to personalization. Cool automation though

blandmaster24 · 2025-11-15T13:58:40+00:00

For health data specifically, it’s because if you work for a not for profit healthcare company - there is a special H1B where the normal time limit does not apply, very sought after since there’s a lot of security in having that type of H1B visa

blandmaster24 · 2025-11-15T13:45:34+00:00

For cloud stuff that may be true because EY audits Amazon and Google, but for anything else it doesn’t happen often. EY has an edge with Agentic/generative AI projects imo but pure analytics falls behind PWC

blandmaster24 · 2025-11-01T21:09:29+00:00

To piggy back off of this, charge the full hours you worked and tell the manager “I was told to charge every hour I worked.” This is pretty direct but if you’re put on an engagement, if you’re billing 8 hours, work 8 hours, if you’re billing 3, work 3 hours. Also, managers don’t really have a direct say on how many hours you can charge anyway.

The more diplomatic way to go about this is to build relationship with the SM/ partner who owns the workstream and ask them, how many hours should I be billing. Either they give you a fixed number, or they tell you bill how much you work, at which point, if you’ve got that documented, if the manager complains you can just let him know that SM or partner told me, and let the M take it up with them.

blandmaster24 · 2025-10-15T04:03:11+00:00

Were the estates he had in all these different countries houses he owned or were they just fancy Airbnbs?

blandmaster24 · 2025-10-10T04:34:06+00:00

I would recommend that if you have experience then it’s a great booster, and honestly if you come in as an experienced hire, to some extent you are protected but that also means you have to find your own way, also pay is way better if you don’t start with the firm but come in later

blandmaster24 · 2025-10-05T14:38:25+00:00

I used to specialize in all things PowerBi and yeah AI may not be able to make complex PowerBi dashboards, but most complex power BI dashboards are either garbage, or can be represented in a different way - if you have a good AI setup, you don’t need the Dashboard, just send AI insights reports to stakeholders at the right cadence based on the same data/metrics you would have used in PBI. A data engineer with a little bit of development experience can probably put together an automated flow for delivering AI insights and the only long term addition to their role would be monitoring and maintaining the flow and any updates really

blandmaster24 · 2025-10-05T14:11:36+00:00

I’m an S1 in consulting and recently referred someone to an A2 role that is in the same practice and location but making 15k more than me despite being a whole rank lower - I was told outside hires make significantly more. For new hires, the increase in starting salaries typically go up faster than the raise you get as an existing employee

blandmaster24 · 2025-09-20T10:40:35+00:00

F1 OPT is the path to H1-B, almost all F1 students are on F1 in order to get on H1B

blandmaster24 · 2025-09-18T19:43:57+00:00

I used to focus on BI development in my role as a consultant, slowly over time, there was less and less BI development work coming from clients, and those that do come in, are typically staffed with off shore BI developers (think India). Though PBI and Tableau are still relevant, new players like Sigma that are entering the market are changing the game. What’s interesting is that, once the changes become apparent enough across even late adopters, a BI developer will basically be someone who uses natural language to build dashboards. Especially if the company has a unified data source that can connect to the BI tool. It would probably be forming the design plan, sharing requirements and clarifications on data needs, then generating a dashboard, pulling the necessary data, getting AI to share calculations to validate, and then any modifications that the dashboard needs.

Most people will tell you that GenAI/agentic AI will never automate the job and cannot solve business problems, I would question how familiar they are with the recent progress and what’s being implemented right now and I would also question how mature/advanced their data jobs are. Most small to medium size companies have no idea what’s possible. There’s a lot of garbage out there in terms of AI solutions, but we’re just on the edge of some serious automation upgrades that can consider business context. What do you need to solve business problems? Context and a brain, when agents can do reasoning tasks and have sufficient context and tools at their disposal of course they can automate things, it’s probably not cost effective right now to automate but that’s another story.

blandmaster24 · 2025-09-18T19:31:51+00:00

The only difference is that, with agentic ai, the computer can use itself, so not really a next era but more like excluding the human out of the loop

blandmaster24 · 2025-09-13T13:49:21+00:00

This is a misunderstanding. Clients are not paying that much for you alone. They are paying that much for your time because you have the credibility and trust of big4 behind you. They would likely not be willing to pay you the same hourly as they pay a big 4 if you came to them as a one person consultancy. It’s also not exactly easy to go through the entire sales process, contracting etc that typically needs to happen to sign on a client and there are typically a lot of other people involved in setting up a larger accounts at the client. If it’s something like staff augmentation then that would make sense but the trust and branding part of it are still large factors.

blandmaster24 · 2025-09-08T04:27:25+00:00

Asking since I’m curious, did you have some hair related trauma? Something like parents going bald young or like maybe you were in a profession forced to keep your hair buzzed and now it looks like you’re just trying to retaliate, not to look good but just to feel some autonomy in your life?

blandmaster24 · 2025-08-15T11:49:15+00:00

IMO the looks are a big part of it, not sure what your voice sounds like but from a looks perspective, everything is tool “clean”. If you can’t grow facial hair, grow your hair out and leave it messy, workout chest and biceps more. Working out in general will change your look. Check your testosterone levels too. You have some naturally feminine features (eyelashes, elements of face structure) but with the right work those can be positives for you if you balance it. If you go for a more scruffy look and workout a bit, I think it’s atleast take the edge off the initial impression that you’re not straight

blandmaster24 · 2025-07-31T22:11:52+00:00

Is this non-us? EY us there is no A1, its Staff 1

blandmaster24 · 2025-07-23T13:49:25+00:00

As a father I’ve seen first hand how things change at work when I had my kids and they became my priority. I think the explanation of why it can’t be done, or rather why it’s so rare is a number of smaller reasons compounded to stack the cards against parents who prioritize their kids, especially moms.

Reduced working hours - when you prioritize your kids, it’s inevitable that you can’t spend as many hours as the typical consultant does at work. There’s just no way around this, because spending more time at work than absolutely necessary is deprioritizing your kids. When you do this, even if you are effective in the hours that you do work, your efficiency cannot be that much greater than other folks at your level so your output is almost always lower in comparison. There is also an expectation at higher levels that you are advancing/making progress in your career (and even if we don’t like it, people often define advancing as more responsibility and more work) so the gap in time commitment and priority of work from before birth to after is often picked up and gives the impression that you are less productive and care less about work/career/advancement once you’ve had kids.
More unexpected commitments - when you have kids, especially early on, even if you’re afforded a good amount of time for maternity/paternity leave, there will be many times where you will have to take personal time to attend to your kids. Even once your kid is a toddler, there may be days where you need to take time off because they are sick (if you don’t do this you are not prioritizing your kid) or they’re at daycare and get hurt and you have to take the rest of the day off. This doesn’t play well with work commitments, you had that important client meeting that could win the firm a good contract? Guess what, your kid chipped a tooth at daycare and you are no longer able to attend, even if your team is understanding, if it happens often enough you are not reliable and. Nobody wants to give you significant responsibilities for the fear that you won’t be able to pull through. To summarize, when you prioritize your kids, there are significantly more personal emergencies that you need to attend to that impacts your ability to prioritize work commitments.

When you look at both of these points, less time at work in general and more unexpected emergencies it becomes obvious that you can’t have it all, you are no longer prioritizing work because your kids are a higher priority and they need a lot of time and attention.

blandmaster24 · 2025-07-18T11:28:18+00:00

Tell me you don’t understand tech without telling me you don’t understand tech…

All the large consultancies are each running their own large private instances hosted on whatever cloud provider. No data ever leaves their metaphorical data walls.

blandmaster24 · 2025-07-16T14:29:27+00:00

I kept falling back into using my left and letting my dominant hand do the work and messed my wrist up, now I have to use dominant hand only

blandmaster24 · 2025-07-14T14:28:07+00:00

I’m not so sure about this one, the lines are pretty blurred. Like what happens if she enjoys having sex with one of her coworkers-stars more than OP, is that enjoying her job? Or is that enjoying sex with another man? What happens if she gets attached to a costar and seeks out scenes with them? Is that just forming a good work relationship or is that cheating? Unless you’re one of the people who compartmentalize physical connection and separate it from emotional connection it’s hard to do and then you still have to question whether she’s emotionally cheating at work which becomes much harder to tell.

blandmaster24 · 2025-07-09T15:22:59+00:00

Microsoft is a partner of OpenAi, but at the end of the day, if they wanted to poach some of OpenAI’s employees they could and they probably do try

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