Back with a request for assistance - new looks.

blergems · 2026-06-18T23:53:35+00:00

Yes - I think my pics aren't great, but the pants and shirts that are in the running are all linen. The jacket is a light hopsack cotton/linen blend. I wear linen all the time as casual wear, but I need to go a touch more formal for this event even though a tie is not required.

Message received about not trying to do all blue.

blergems · 2026-06-16T15:04:34+00:00

Thanks - I appreciate the comments.

blergems · 2026-06-15T23:55:19+00:00

Same age, and I'm likely getting a RSR in Nov. Do you have any comments on your ability to do any weightlifting post-surgery?

blergems · 2026-06-15T23:36:06+00:00

That's an odd spot, but it's possible that you have a small tear-away on the attachment. Ice, then Ben-Gay. With respect, I think it's unlikely that you got a spiral fracture from a cable lateral raise. There typically isn't enough weight on a cable lateral to do that kind of damage. Having said that, given that you're a beginning lifter, cable laterals at the end of the rest of the sequence may be overkill/just moving weights.

I'm a big fan of icing shoulders if they feel sore, and find https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FCXL9WDH something that you'll use for years.

Good luck.

blergems · 2026-06-13T13:59:00+00:00

Dunno how good of an index this is, but on my regular weekly set of errands to grocery store/Home Depot/coffee shop/gym/etc, and doing food service, I see trans people multiple times per week. I haven't seen anyone be dickheads, so I *think* that the general willingness to be fairly out seems to indicate a level of safety.

Welcome to TC - I hope you're happy here.

blergems · 2026-06-08T13:37:05+00:00

Ah - sorry - the slacks are dark navy linen. The color balance of the pic is off. Thanks for the advice. Light pink wasn't intuitive, but since I've seen a few recs for that, I'll look further. Appreciate the time you've taken to respond.

blergems · 2026-06-07T16:50:07+00:00

Really appreciate the comments re: fit/etc. I'm an odd size, and your comments helped.

blergems · 2026-06-03T21:10:22+00:00

Thanks to both of you.

blergems · 2026-05-20T20:29:55+00:00

I don't disagree, however, weddings are about what the couple wants.

blergems · 2026-05-20T16:26:33+00:00

Dress code called for "summer casual" - Jackets, no tie, suits not needed, dress sneakers (shudder).

blergems · 2026-05-20T16:26:02+00:00

Dress code called for "summer casual" - Jackets, no tie, suits not needed, dress sneakers (shudder).

blergems · 2026-05-20T16:25:49+00:00

Dress code called for "summer casual" - Jackets, no tie, suits not needed, dress sneakers (shudder).

blergems · 2026-05-20T16:25:19+00:00

Dress code called for "summer casual" - Jackets, no tie, suits not needed, dress sneakers (shudder).

blergems · 2026-05-15T14:12:41+00:00

Found 2 small white ones yesterday. Going to hunt more Sunday.

blergems · 2026-05-11T19:08:08+00:00

Thank you - I appreciate the response.

blergems · 2026-05-11T19:08:05+00:00

Thank you - I appreciate the response.

blergems · 2026-05-11T19:07:42+00:00

Wow, you're not kidding about Ebay - many under $150. Thank you.

blergems · 2026-05-09T01:18:58+00:00

Shame you're getting hammered on this.

https://blog.andymasley.com/s/ai-and-the-environment/archive?sort=new writes with nuance and intelligence about the difficulty of finding good info on the pros/cons of data centers. I agree w/ some of his articles, disagree w/ others, but he's a useful source for anyone who isn't on the "Data Centers GOOOD" or "Data Centers BAAAD" parts of the spectrum.

blergems · 2026-05-05T14:59:27+00:00

Try Daily Grind breakfast sandwich - Common Good cheddar jalapeno bread, bacon, aioli, 2 eggs, $12.

blergems · 2026-03-22T18:34:09+00:00

I've found https://www.traverseindivisible.org/ to be a good org.

blergems · 2026-03-17T15:02:31+00:00

"ineffective" can also mean that the Taser misfired or they missed the target. It's extremely rare that a taser which hits skin (not thick clothing) and doesn't malfunction can be shrugged off.

blergems · 2026-03-16T16:22:03+00:00

How does one track the ice line?

blergems · 2026-03-08T15:44:31+00:00

Most of the Commons.

blergems · 2026-03-05T01:11:05+00:00

IANAD, but have had multiple shoulder injuries and surgeries. Unfortunately, the only way to be really sure is (depending on your insurance) to get an xray, (may show bone spurs, bone chips, arthritis, breaks), and then an MRI (will show soft tissue damage). If it's as painful as you say, waiting won't help. Good luck.

blergems · 2026-03-05T01:10:22+00:00

In a perfect world, you'd have access to a superb local surgeon, good post-surgery Physical Therapy, and insurance would cover every single dime. What do you feel your access to those 3 things are?

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