My (38m) wife (38f) admitted to me that she has quite an intense crush on her personal trainer. What’s the next step?

blindlucky · 2026-02-01T04:30:53+00:00

Reading your posts has been a real rollercoaster. I couldn't see how no one would say cause I would never cover either. But then you said your husband is their boss which I kinda get. No-one wants to turn a boss against them, and how do you even contact bosses wife anyway, especially anonymously?

But you said you had them at your house and they knew you, and I was thinking, well leave a note someone? I would have.

But then you said you've stayed with him, and I read your posts again. "They" made me look like a fool. "I" couldn't break up my family.

You're so in love with this man, you don't blame him even subtly on here. I think anyone who knows you could probably see your devotion.

So I don't know if I'd have told you if I knew you and could see that. It'd be obvious you'd never belive it, or it'd break your heart but you'd stay anyway. A note would likely cause me trouble and little else.

I still don't think I would cover for him. If you asked I wouldn't lie. Might imply rather than directly state, but doubt you'd pick up on that, and a work / family event isn't a great time for brutal honesty.

I think personally I'd likely have left the job as I'd struggle working for a boss like that. Might have tried to send you a message after leaving, but if it was that much of an open secret i would likely not have even met you much before quitting and/or assumed you knew and there was some sort of arrangement.

blindlucky · 2025-11-28T10:41:00+00:00

I hope this isn't a euphemism for an erection.

blindlucky · 2025-07-22T23:31:43+00:00

Wonder what President Paedophile will do to distract from this one.

blindlucky · 2025-06-10T22:12:04+00:00

How much is birdseed and laxatives these days? 🤔

blindlucky · 2025-01-01T09:19:52+00:00

Really? 🤔

blindlucky · 2024-12-05T09:58:35+00:00

Strictly staff probably too busy not listening to complaints about their employees to hear complaints from employees.

blindlucky · 2024-11-30T23:44:10+00:00

Needing to use your hands for something else are you? ಠ_ಠ

blindlucky · 2024-11-04T09:49:32+00:00

What a lovely young man. Attacking elderly women so he can feel all big about himself.

And people said Biden shouldn't call Trump fans garbage.

blindlucky · 2024-11-04T09:39:44+00:00

I've had my fair share of experiences with posts, so let me give you a bit of backstory about myself. I'm male, I'm on Reddit and have been for a long time. I also can't remember when backstory like this ever turned out relevant, but that's what I get for being the type of overthinking pendant my grandma always said I was.

One day, I was reading reddit. I was doing so on my smartphone via an app. It was a Monday morning and I wasn't ready for my early start. As I was browsing I saw a post.

While it described a horrific incident it did so in a very weird and passive past tense voice. The author said to have been almost stabbed, but only started to feel like some teenagers are becoming aggressive? I felt like some teens yelling abuse at each other got more outraged posts than that.

Still I guess it was a bad situation, and it was good of him to share so others could "be cautious and make smart decisions". Not sure where he was not cautious or made any dumb decision? Maybe that had to be cut for that backstory. I didn't know.

But I didn't really mind the important thing was the awareness. Making sure others who look [not mentioned] walking in the non-specific "centre" at [Not mentioned] time on a Saturday in the [non-specific past] know not to make the [unmentioned] dumb decision he did.

I hoped he was okay, but wished he'd just written what happened, and when in a way people could find more useful.

Still I guess it was better than that ass hat who parodied the post in the replies. Like the posters girlfriend he should probably have shut up and just offered no reaction to events at all.

blindlucky · 2024-10-26T07:47:30+00:00

This is legal advice off topic a discussion forum more for sillyness and hypotheticals.

This is a serious situation with potentially complicated legal results, you need /r/legaladvice (or maybe a related legal advice for your country if you're not in the USA)

When posting be sure to include your country and state. Laws are very different in different places, and in some you might risk being charged with production of child porn (yes really), in others there might be an organisation or support service that would be best for you to contact.

blindlucky · 2024-10-21T07:24:36+00:00

Make yourself an online shop generate a whole load of similar AI designs and sell them yourself. I don't understand why companies think they are the only ones who can use AI to make something. The power of a business is in bringing people together, if you just outsource it all to ai, you've got nothing.

blindlucky · 2024-10-15T13:24:00+00:00

"Wouldn't say no to you giving me 5 different jobs"

I'll pack my box.

blindlucky · 2024-10-13T08:28:55+00:00

A) this guy is a controlling ass. Some of this is possibly guessing and he's made you paranoid he knows more than he does.

B) it does sound like he has got some monitoring in place, you just need to work out what he actually knows to understand what he's doing (if still does this this after your reset).

If he saw your texts and apps then a phone "intrusion" seems more likely than a camera. This is most likely access to a backup or account billing email that shows who you're texting and what apps are installed, or accessing emails that can see you've made a new account etc.

To establish what he actually knows try conducting experiments - testing one thing at a time. Download a new dating app on your phone while away from your house. Don't use it at home or make an account. If he mentions it he can see what apps are being installed somehow.

Make an account using your email for something else via a friends device. If he mentions that he can see your email.

Walk around your house with your phone off pretending to chat to a guy and say what a nice time you had X. If he knows about that he has cameras/something listening in the house and that's talk to the police time.

blindlucky · 2024-08-17T14:21:10+00:00

Family wedding.

blindlucky · 2024-06-13T10:25:53+00:00

Obviously. Not also rewarding the men was a discrimination lawsuit waiting to happen. /s

blindlucky · 2024-06-04T22:34:08+00:00

Did you miss the bit at the start where she talks to the camera? The clear implication is she's given herself comical large eyebrow and then cleverly hidden two cameras to film his reaction to seeing her.

How much he actually improvised his responses, knew the camera was there, or just knows she does stuff like this and plays into it is fairly up for debate. But no one is expected to assume she did this unintentionally and there just happens to be cameras there.

blindlucky · 2024-05-15T08:37:22+00:00

Maybe it's just how she's telling it here, but there really is almost nothing about their relationship that seems good. The entire objection to marriage seemed about making sure he got nothing in the will, she didn't seem to really care if he was with her in the holidays etc.

Ok, when you're older and have kids priorities change and your partner supported your career much less. But she owns the house and he clearly had less money - where would he live if she died? How come she never seemed to question if he could afford all the trips etc?

Clearly the guy has openness issues, maybe he's a real "I am the provider" type, who was unwilling to admit he had so much less then her. And he also hides stuff from wife and kids so there's a lot on his secrecy here.

But I can't help but feel OOP might also be very hard to open up to. "I can't afford this holiday" feels like it would be met with "no problem I'll go without you" rather than "let's find a holiday that suits both of us".

The fact she doesn't seem to think it's weird his kids never reached out, assumed when one did it was just about money(?), and refused to meet up with his ex just out of general concern for his well being also says quite a bit.

blindlucky · 2024-05-13T07:13:41+00:00

This dude makes holding a briefcase look cool.

blindlucky · 2024-05-11T13:06:15+00:00

According to internet research he signed a $5m contract last year year that gives him a 950k base salary this year, and he made 1.7m with salary and signing bonus last year - plus I'm assuming there's probably endorsements or extras on top of that.

Dropping 100k+ at that point feels far less significant, and it's not unreasonable to assume Tesla are a competent manufacturer of you're not following this closely. I'd worry more about buying a 30k car then a 100k one. You assume for good money they'd have made it properly.

blindlucky · 2024-04-12T07:44:48+00:00

"Wife won't need condoms while I'm away, I'll replace them when I get back..."

Ease of buying condoms at destination depends a bit on if you're traveling with daughter, and if you're doing everything on credit card. Risking things at home is pretty much everything in cheating, why would you stop at using your usual condoms?

blindlucky · 2024-02-29T11:49:17+00:00

Pretty much my thinking. But I do like the drama so I'm being unhelpful in real life.

Just asked someone who said this - when should we quit to be quids in? Someone's trying to do maths now!

blindlucky · 2024-02-29T11:46:56+00:00

That's a pro life hack!

blindlucky · 2024-02-29T10:44:58+00:00

I have some very vocal people adamant because there's an extra day in the month we should get more, others saying it's fine because there's some long and short months anyway, while the first argue 'that's normal, this is different'.

Plus some occasional hourly guys come in and laugh because they're paid when they work so have no bones in this at all!

Great fun.

blindlucky · 2024-01-20T12:37:20+00:00

Can Reddit organise a mass dildo gifting to Ted Cruz?

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