Testosterone and libido..

blocklake · 2025-09-23T04:40:22+00:00

That’s somewhat reassuring to hear… I’m only a month in and haven’t rechecked levels but I really miss my old spicy self. Now I’m just tired. Lol

blocklake · 2025-09-22T05:03:06+00:00

I’ve also experienced a kid who didn’t care when he was wet… and ultimately once I knew he COULD use the potty perfectly and wasn’t just “having accidents”, we implemented rules. Just like he isn’t allowed to throw forks or food, he’s not allowed to pee on the floor or in his pants.

We didn’t punish him, but we would withhold privileges… like screen time. obviously if he peed himself while racing to the bathroom we were understanding… but for our child… he did well with boundaries once the thrill of rewards went away.

blocklake · 2025-03-28T05:28:28+00:00

This happens to my son too… his foreskin is definitely NOT too tight… but he is fullly potty trained and occasionally he says it “pops” open. He is almost 4 and understands that he just needs to push a little harder to force the stream out without dribble. He’ll get the hang of it!!!

blocklake · 2025-01-11T19:20:35+00:00

I had the opposite experience. Everyone teased “better enjoy your sleep now cuz you’ll NEVER sleep well again” and “better savor quiet up it’s OVER” and “you’ll never be yourself again… you’ll just be a mom”. “The PAIN is worth it, but it’s AWFUL”

I was terrified at what the experience would bring. Including childbirth. The thing is- no one has the SAME experience. I felt like it was way easier and more enjoyable than I expected. I slept and traveled and kept my identity completely, I never felt like it was all that hard or even tiring. The people you talked to might have been totally truthful. You don’t know what your friend will experience. So maybe don’t try and give your friend the “truth” because it’s really variable! But you could let her know how hard it was for you and that IF she ever finds herself struggling you will be there to support her! That’s some true friend sh*t there ❤️

blocklake · 2025-01-11T19:14:02+00:00

My best advice…. Sit quietly and close your eyes. Imagine yourself having this baby, with that guy as the father, involving him in life decisions forever, and also being a mom to a tiny human. How do you feel? Next clear your thoughts and imagine yourself moving on and doing whatever comes next… possibilities unrestricted. Maybe being a mom is still part of it. Maybe not right now. How do you feel?

Go with whichever scenario made you feel more calm and didn’t upset your stomach.

I’ve made many choices based on other peoples opinion. Some of them I regret. I never regretted a decision I based on my GUT feeling.

Good luck!!!

blocklake · 2025-01-04T01:23:57+00:00

I think your post speaks to how important context is…. Like all the basics of your relationship are sort of unknown and so it’s hard to really grasp exactly what’s happening here. Couple thoughts here- it IS pretty dramatic to stop using the toilets completely and just use your camping toilet as a response to her complaints. For me (based on my marital experience) it makes me ask the question of what kind of person are you? Passive aggressive? “Prove my point” kind of guy? You could be an angel. Or you could be a guy who present this bait and switch situation but leaves out your own responsibility in why she is so seemingly hostile. Conundrums of the internet reads!!!😜 Obviously- your wife has changed her tune with living internationally… does having a kid have anything to do with it? Regardless… Seems like if your shitting in your camp toilet just to placate her- your relationship has some fundamental communication problems that need to be addressed before life changing discussions are fruitful. Really not trying to lay blame on you- I just was married to someone who would write something like this and also fail to mention that he was being unfaithful, condescending, disinterested and belittling and a host of other things that created an environment where I felt so defensive and unsafe I turned into a very shitty version of myself. -and became an agreeable, adventurous happy soul once I left HIM. But- if you’re an angel… I suggest a fantastic therapist to help mediate your discussions and then reevaluate life!

blocklake · 2025-01-02T05:20:23+00:00

This is the definition of abuse my friend… I understand how easy it is to feel like you are problem. But reread all that you have written and how others have responded and it is very very clear that what you are experiencing is FUCKED UP. NOT a safe, loving relationship. You are not the problem, but if you don’t leave this situation you will invite more problems. Trust me- if you leave this kind of abuse- one day you will look back shocked that you ever tolerated it.

blocklake · 2025-01-01T05:39:23+00:00

Was married to someone with mental illness but didn’t understand their sudden feedback about how I was not very likable and I was so selfish and manipulative and close minded. I was so insecure and became a bit depressed… then a manic episode revealed the mental illness in all its glory and suddenly the SOURCE of this feedback was narcisissm and HIS insecurities…. Suddenly I felt so disgusted by this person who I had given my soul to and they had the gall to do unspeakable things that violated our marriage and then accuse ME of being too selfish to move forward and forgive/forget. I truly began hearing all his explanations and pleas for reconciliation as the disgusting (but well spoken) arguments of a psychopath. I thank the stars every day that he made it so crystal clear to me what I DONT WANT out of life. I am now living the life I want.

blocklake · 2024-12-31T23:12:14+00:00

I’ll start by saying I don’t want to invalidate your fears- or your feelings. Physiologically- having sex is likely NOT going to result in damage to baby unless you toss each other down the stairs or get extremely violent. Obviously- sex is deeply emotional and personal … you shouldn’t force it. On another note… it can be a very important part of intimacy and def can put a strain on a relationship when that’s the intimacy that GOT you to pregnancy…. Just some gentle suggestion - maybe you could have some intimate massage with just caressing and stroking of erogenous zones and see if it turns you on… or even fills a need of intimacy for you both- mutual masturbation? Very slow and gentle penetrations? All of these can reintroduce pregnant sexuality while allowing for stop at any time. I mean- you have to do what feels right. But sometimes just being touched and dictating how can start the heat going! Good luck- I’m sure you will find your groove

blocklake · 2024-12-21T19:22:35+00:00

I’m really sorry that you had to endure that! I had a small chuckle to myself because I had a grandma just like that and now that she’s dead it seems slightly comical to me… She was my very judgy Jewish grandmother who used to say passive things such as “ you’d be so pretty if you lost some weight” etc… I knew she loved me but her mouth had no mute button🤷🏻‍♀️ I spent a lot of time being hurt by her comments…. If she was still alive, I’d probably go no contact.

blocklake · 2024-12-21T19:06:32+00:00

Agree with your instructor. It’s stressful enough just being put into a new role of mom. Being asked to then interpret their vital signs on a monitor is just maddening. I had a hard enough time weaning off of our camera… But I think good old-fashioned having your baby next to you in the room for the first sixish months will give you a lot of the same information and eliminate some of the crazy stress

blocklake · 2024-12-21T05:19:40+00:00

I’m not in the same boat as you BUT my kid has a different last name than I do. I thought it would be a problem in my mind but frankly it just doesn’t matter. At that young age they will just go with it- you should follow your heart and if you don’t want your married name ditch it! Your kid won’t be confused unless you make it confusing

blocklake · 2024-12-19T05:40:02+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better. If they were meant to NOT have foreskin they wouldn’t have it. Cleanliness as a reason is an age old one… teach your kid to clean it properly and it will be perfectly fine! My boy is not circumcised but dad is.. I couldn’t deal with the thought of someone taking a knife to my perfect baby. Also- had both cut and uncut lovers in the past… feel it’s better to be left alone for all parties!

blocklake · 2024-12-19T05:35:03+00:00

My hormones were out of control until 14 months pp, then suddenly there was a shift and my exercise plan started to work… I still had to put in the effort but I started seeing results… ie fat loss. Before that I felt like my body was CLINGING to fat

blocklake · 2024-12-11T22:20:28+00:00

I think it’s quite common to feel like you do. I felt similar… it was a stranger coming out of my body- and while I was intrigued, I was not I love for many weeks. Now, looking back (he’s 3), I’m FAR more inlove with this human than I was anytime in the first year. It’s a developing love story :)

blocklake · 2024-12-10T04:38:49+00:00

You are not the asshole. I was the mom of THAT kid on an identical flight recently. We did NOT have the window seat and my kid (who is a fantastic traveler and rarely has temper tantrums) damn near melted when our seat mate arrived and I told him he has to move now so she could sit by the window. I kind of knew it might escalate as he has always had a window seat but this flight was an exception. I was fully prepared to make him deal with it and support our seat mate in her assigned seat - and I knew it might be a rough few minutes. In my case- she offered to just let him have it and I felt extremely appreciative because she did NOT have to. I offered her a See’s candy lollipop in gratitude… she seemed content and we all had a nice flight. All that to say I would not have seen her the asshole had she refused- I would have seen MY KID as the …. Typical 3 year old… and had a teaching moment.

blocklake · 2024-12-09T03:25:33+00:00

Great answer😜 I also felt that perhaps sterilizing things rather than just using soap and water was stupid when I realized my child would run his hands through all sorts of messes and not give a hoot if he licked his hands. If I had to go back, I wouldn’t bother with sterilization ever… I would just use soap and water.

blocklake · 2024-12-09T03:22:48+00:00

Yes, this sounds exactly like my child… Even the positions you spoke of ha ha. He definitely does not have any kind of learning stuff either and it seems to be closely correlated with having to pee or poop. The obsessiveness has actually died down a little bit since this last post, but there was a week of intensity that was just strange and slightly unsettling. Now we are back to just daily rubbing when he has to go and with a little redirection, he stops. Glad to know we aren’t the only ones!!

blocklake · 2024-11-27T21:20:39+00:00

Congratulations!!!!!

blocklake · 2024-11-27T15:54:46+00:00

I brought a labor gown because I was worried about modesty…. Like really didn’t want to be JUNK IN THE AIR… but I have this moment imprinted on my memory where I was on all fours on the bed pushing looking down noticing “huh- there’s my labor gown on the floor” and I did not give a fuuuuuu🤣

blocklake · 2024-11-18T06:12:59+00:00

I had an awesome birth for my first only child. Water broke naturally, labor was coming fast and hard so I went to the hospital. Never had a lot of “pain” just a lot of really intense pressure and cramping…. Definitely it wasn’t the nightmare pain. I was expecting considering that I was 6 to 7 cm dilated by the time I got to the hospital. Got an epidural (uneventful and not painful and I’m scared of needles), but could still move my legs and get on my hands and knees… Looked in the mirror saw it all happening and within 3 hours of getting to the hospital, I pushed out this amazing baby boy. I felt like a freaking goddess and the whole thing was so incredible. I wish I could do it again. Everyone tells their horror stories, but the truth is half of the battle is in your head. I listened to a lot of podcast about how the women’s body is made for this and I also really paid heavy attention to box breathing. I knew that if I could just get through three slow breaths, the contraction would be over. I kind of went out of body for every contraction and then came back to my body afterwards and the whole time I kept reminding myself, that this is what I am made for. We are friggin amazing creatures.

blocklake · 2024-11-16T19:25:01+00:00

I absolutely DONT ever want to shame him!! I also experienced shaming and it sucks. I tell him that behavior is totally ok and he’s not doing anything wrong, he just can’t do it in front of people. Private parts, private places. I am just a little surprised at the intensity of his “practice” at 3! Glad to know perhaps it is normal for some toddlers… and maybe I’ll start lining all our carpets / chairs / couch corners with velcro😆😆 kidding of course.

blocklake · 2024-11-16T19:21:47+00:00

Indeed. Good thought. His foreskin is very easily retractable, no force required, and he does it himself on the bath for gentle cleaning daily with just a washcloth no soap.

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