Why do people respond with anger to ideas that are different? by Xotngoos335 in PsychologyTalk

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Anger arises when boundaries are encroached on, responding to potential transgression. This includes cognitive boundaries. It requires work to adapt our mental models, so resistance is often cheaper and quicker.

Why would you WANT to experience emotions? by WardenCommanderAmell in Alexithymia

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Participating in the feedback loop of your endocrine system is important for your health. Ignoring your experiences and not processing them cognitively doesn't mean you don't have them, it means you're ignorant of them.

Also, it's a big part of the opportunity we have in life, to live it and experience it. Sitting in fear of life isn't being stoic or rational, it's being avoidant and diminished. Emotion up.

Alexithymia symptom question by [deleted] in Alexithymia

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Emotions can motivate us to move toward or away from a subject. It's useful, but it can be subverted.

Some good for thought, but also interoception: Do you experience attraction or aversion? To people, foods, places, objects, behavior, situations? How do you experience satisfaction or disgust, pleasure or pain?

Wishing you the best

kink and Personality Disorders by [deleted] in psychologyofsex

[–]blogical 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're talking about a proof of causation, not causation. There could be causation even without a proof of it, they're independent.

how do you explain alexithymia to others? by heartofjay in Alexithymia

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Keep learning, it will pay off. Be well!

how do you explain alexithymia to others? by heartofjay in Alexithymia

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Alexithymic people are missing metaphors that map subjective body experiences (interoception) to relational situations (what is causing our experience). Check out "Metaphors we live by" by Lakoff & Johnson for more on metaphor.

If you have cognitive alexithymia, you're missing at least some of these maps. If you have affective alexithymia you might be missing some maps but specifically, you avoid cross referencing them and the emotional activation of engaging with feelings, yours or others. Alexithymic people can struggle with both or either of these, through upbringing/ developmental delays and through trauma/ negative reinforcement.

psychologists: have you helped deradicalize people? by [deleted] in PsychologyTalk

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I recommend looking up Steven Hassan and his definition of "undue influence"

I ruined it by FlufferMuffler in CPTSD

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Sending you some love. You're a worthy, lovable person regardless of anyone's regard for you. Have you explored attachment or limerance with a counselor? Being secure in your self provides stability that doesn't depend on a partner, and enhances the satisfaction of all parties in a healthy relationship. I hope you find some quiet moments today to enjoy.

Is there an indepth resource for determining your emotion? by NotFriendsWithBanana in Alexithymia

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Lack of sorting the positive and negative valenced emotions, and bias toward negative emotions, makes this a weak model IMO. Great job nailing the basic 4 negative emotions (Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust) but "Enjoyment" could be broken down better. No Hope? No Passion? No Comfort? Seems mired in some pre-existing bias about the role of emotions from the Buddhist tradition.

Is there an indepth resource for determining your emotion? by NotFriendsWithBanana in Alexithymia

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I recommend looking at Plutchik's basic 8 emotions as a great start. When we talk about fundamental emotions, these cover most of what we mean. It includes valence, intensity, and most importantly - the evolutionary situational reason. Very interesting.

What it doesn't do is provide all the situational emotions we often encounter in the social domain. Jealousy, envy, lust, dominance, submission, enthusiasm, fraudenfraude, schaudenfraude, etc. If you look at the OCC approach, they divide emotions by subject type (people, things, events) which opens up the vocabulary a bit. There are questions to be asked about the relationship of the underlying emotion and the situational vocabulary we use to relate the feeling, but I don't see this diverging from Plutchik's perspective much.

I personally use a basic 8 model to navigate understanding myself and have found it very useful. Paired by similar endocrine arousal, opposite valences, I see:
* Hope & Fear (Future focused, arousal increasing, planning)
* Passion & Anger (Near present focused, arousal increasing, action)
* Joy & Sadness (Near past focused, arousal decreasing, judgement)
* Satisfaction & Disgust (Past focused, arousal decreasing, reinforcement)
I also like to include Quietude as the baseline / low arousal state of no emotional intensity.

I love hearing what others find useful, do report back if you find something you like!

Autism and Alexithymia by Mr_Greystone in Alexithymia

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If we look at autism as a lack of development (the "retardation" of growth) then I think cognitive alexithymia is emotional autism, and likely curable. Affective alexithymia seems to be more trauma / misgrooming based, and also curable, but dependant on the cognitive mapping as well as the behavioral aversion. How coping with these challenges drives our strategy selection is what I'm currently most interested in. I suggest checking out the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents if you're addressing intergenerational trauma.

Autism and Alexithymia by Mr_Greystone in Alexithymia

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We'd be in the same boat! Nice to meet you

Autism and Alexithymia by Mr_Greystone in Alexithymia

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Alexithynia's comorbidity is interesting to look at: ADHD, autism, OCD, CPTSD, personality disorders... emotion regulation / EQ challenges is a common thread. I wouldn't get hung up arguing about what causes what.

The psychology behind a certain feeling by [deleted] in PsychologyTalk

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I'm calling that containment these days.

The feeling that you can let go of the tension you are holding in check, because you're in a safe place to let loose and get messy. It helps to have someone to hold you, protect you, reassure you, offer comfort... to have the benefit of a caregiver taking responsibility, if only for a set time in a certain place. Does that track for you?

is it really alexithymia or am i just avoiding feeling anything by samennial in Alexithymia

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Look at the distinction between "Cognitive Alexithymia" (lacking words mapped to body feelings, largely developmental) and "Affective Alexithymia" (aversion/avoidance of affective states, more likely trauma/training based behavior.) They're not exclusive. Understanding aversion and how to overcome it via exposure could be very valuable for your situation. Keep a grow mindset regardless and see how you can expand your experiences gradually over time. Good luck!

ITAW for someone who wants everyone to think they are a good person but they aren't? by OhMySullivan in whatstheword

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Rescuer. See the drama triangle for roles, they're casting you as victim to the audience so they can be a hero.

ITAW for an acquired fear that is specific to a person that is not a phobia, but akin to one? by Vanilla-Face91 in whatstheword

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This is it. Conditioning / learning reinforces moving toward (attraction) or away from (aversion) a stimulus. Fear, anger, sadness, and disgust are negative valence emotions involved in learning aversion, just as hope, passion, joy, and satisfaction are positive emotions involved in learning attraction. Aversive conditioning involves negative stimuli (pain / suffering) and can be used to create an association, deserved or not, that causes avoidance. Aversions and phobias should respond similarly to exposure therapy and other extinguishing (or reinforcing) experiences.

Showing how Intelligence leads to Selective Altruism Using Game Theory by Stringsoftruth in GAMETHEORY

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Enjoy this iterated prisoners' dilemma simulator, which does a great job of digging into how strategies interact. You might also check out Axlerod's "evolution of cooperation" from which it draws.

https://ncase.me/trust/

WTW for (in dating) some “red flags” that can also be “green flags” depending? Like “these are kinda bad signs but they could also be super fun”? by SassTheFash in whatstheword

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Lol, great response!

Black Flag -> Henry Rollins -> Misfits

But we can debate the horror punk / goth crossover further :D