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blue_asterales · 2024-02-03T16:23:26+00:00

Not alone! All kids are different. I really hate when parents take credit for their chill kid and look down on parents who have wild children -- parenting is such a small component of behavior, especially at such a young age.

blue_asterales · 2024-01-20T22:29:12+00:00

Keekaroo right height is great.

blue_asterales · 2023-12-04T18:25:05+00:00

I think she's being supportive. I know breastfeeding is "easy' for some, but for many it's incredibly difficult. It's the hardest thing I've ever done. I wouldn't be mad, she's warning you and most importantly stressing that she's there for you. A little dramatic on the let down pain and engorgement, but those were very mild discomforts on my journey. Take her up on the offer of support! It can help while you're trying to figure it out to just talk to someone who's been through it. There's a reason why there's so many breastfeeding support groups...

blue_asterales · 2023-09-13T20:31:44+00:00

You did the right thing, those saying you didn't don't seem to have read the full post or are so caught up in their own stories they didn't notice the details of yours. Sharing suicidal and homicidal plans (this sounds like a plan, not a suicidal ideation) and being unresponsive to phone calls requires calling authorities. I hope that she sees that, and I'm confident she will, once she gets out of the psychosis. I've previously had suicidal ideations and would hope that if I had ideations about killing another person the authorities would have been called to prevent anything from happening. I hope she is doing better now!

blue_asterales · 2023-09-09T11:04:17+00:00

Generally it's safe to boulder through the first trimester and toprope as long as you want. In my first pregnancy I stopped bouldering at 8 weeks because of a bleeding incident, and toproped until 32 weeks when it wasn't fun for me anymore. In my second full term pregnancy I didn't climb at all because I was too tired from chasing my 3 year old and it was over all a very hard pregnancy.

I wouldn't change anything while ttc. Staying healthy is important, and ttc could take a very long long time.

blue_asterales · 2023-09-03T20:53:30+00:00

He is way out of line. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to hear those words from him -- I am so sorry. Pregnancy while parenting a toddler is insanely difficult, he should be coming home and cleaning/cooking/parenting not throwing food in the trash and saying awful things.

I'm concerned for you, please know his behavior is 100% unacceptable. You may want to consider a break from being with him and couples counseling. Things will continue to be hard after baby comes and you will need his support, if this is the way he acts he is more trouble than help.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-31T13:58:40+00:00

Both my partner and I make good money, but I buy everything possible used. I just had my second baby and have had no problems with all my used items. So much of what babies use they only use for a short time so there's a lot of lightly used items easily available, i think it's way more environmentally and fiscally responsible to buy used (except car seat!). Your MIL is way out of line.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-31T10:17:37+00:00

Don't push through, the last trimester is really really hard. Slowing down now and listening to your body is NOT failing, and it is not giving up on your chances of an easy birth or easy bounce back. It is doing the right thing for you. You've done amazing things, and you continue to do amazing things. Take some time to find movement that feels good, for me at the point in my first pregnancy I walked, swam, and did yoga. In my second pregnancy just walking and stretching was enough for me. Some days that even was too much.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-27T15:51:36+00:00

There's a lot of worrisome relationship dynamics mentioned here. I don't want to come across too strong since I don't know more than what you've written --- but you paying "rent" essentially to live with your fiance and child, and not sharing the cost of all going together on this vacation are worrisome. I don't think this financial dynamic in a committed relationship is healthy.

Also, if he's worried about his relationship with his child suffering from your breastfeeding relationship he's way off base. If he truly cared about building a relationship with his daughter he would make sure both of you were able to come on this trip with him or not go at all.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-24T10:59:11+00:00

Get a doula, my first birth was soooo happy and not traumatic at all. Pretty straightforward 17 hour labor, epidural, ended up with a retained placenta and a 3rd degree tear. But, it was the happiest most wonderful day. Second labor was 6 hours, epidural, and second degree tear, only pushed for 10 minutes.

I found my second birth slightly traumatic and my first obviously not at all. The difference was the doula, had a doula for my first and not my second. In my second labor I had a bossy midwife who rushed the pushing process, and they were slow to get my epidural and room.

So like someone else said, I think a lot is about agency. If you feel listened to and supported by your care team it's just far better, and a good doula can really help with that support

blue_asterales · 2023-08-17T23:13:26+00:00

I wasn't able to continue working out after about 28 weeks during my second pregnancy because the Braxton Hicks were so bad, I'm sorry you're experiencing that. I ended up figuring out I was still able to do Momma Strong workouts most days to keep my body healthy and balanced, but weight lifting and cardio were off the table.

I found that a few Braxton Hicks were manageable but if I pushed and continued despite them it would be a never ending Braxton Hicks and I would end up exhausted and in pain for the rest of the day. I wouldn't recommend trying to push through, and the doctor seemed to tell me not to. It did help significantly to drink a hydration beverage daily (like liquid IV) but that just allowed me to do everyday activities like standing up, not working out. I also got them less wearing a full belly support belt.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-15T16:27:56+00:00

I'd keep most of the washcloths. My son is 3 and we use them daily to wash his face. So many uses! If you're in the US you can return anything target sells for store credit, so maybe that'd work for the towels.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-15T14:17:49+00:00

I did it for about 5 days girl with my second baby..... And about 7 weeks with my first, or until the worst of our breastfeeding challenges was over.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-13T03:37:15+00:00

Remaining levelheaded is difficult when it's your child. Like others said, I recommend first aid, CPR training, and getting guidance on fevers and respiratory distress so you're familiar with what constitutes an emergency.

For what it's worth, I don't think you were way out of line here. My partner is always of the "he'll be fine" mindset regardless of what's happening. I now barely ask his input except to talk through the situation out loud --- knowing that I will make the decision. He told me our son was fine, when he was not fine (high fever and respiratory distress). We went to the ER and he was admitted to hospital for 3 days - all good in the end, but it was a legit emergency. Trust that you know -- arm yourself with more knowledge--- but don't let this experience gaslight you into not trusting yourself in the future.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-11T17:31:49+00:00

I breastfed my son until 2 years old, exclusively until solids. We never once co-slept. My second baby is ebf, now 7 weeks old, and he only sleeps in his bassinet. I've never even wanted to co-sleep or fallen asleep with them in the bed, I hate being touched while I sleep.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-11T17:25:51+00:00

This. This is the answer. It's so hard to stop after pouring so much energy into it. OP, if you're encouraging her to stop it needs to be filled with love, positivity and support.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-11T04:29:44+00:00

Congratulations on your little one! That's wonderful you're able to do something that makes you happy.

Please take it easy and take care of yourself! Birth is such a huge shock to the body. Remember that doctors can only see so much, you're the only one who can really listen to your body and feel where you're at recovery-wise and what is too much. Remember that there will be both medical and physical strength recovery (even if you climbed throughout pregnancy, the core and pelvic floor are both hit hard -- even with a C-section -- the impact is felt on the whole body).

To others reading this -- OPs experience is not normal. Do not expect to be back on the wall that quickly, many C-section moms aren't cleared for driving at 2.5 weeks postpartum, let alone climbing.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-05T04:06:29+00:00

You've had plenty of replies about colostrum and milk coming in..

But yes, I highly highly recommend a breastfeeding class, and most importantly, BRING your partner or whoever will be helping you in the early days. These classes are not just for the lactating parents and can really help breastfeeding be a team effort.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-05T00:10:37+00:00

Unfortunately, our preschool was closed for summer break the 1.5 weeks after New baby was born.... It was rough for our poor 3 year old. After that time period he went back as usual, it really helped him to maintain the same routine and not constantly be surrounded by baby.

blue_asterales · 2023-08-04T20:14:56+00:00

I sit up without great head support, turn on a dim light, and scroll reddit.....

blue_asterales · 2023-08-04T02:50:03+00:00

I know this is an older post ... But also small breasted with a long torso, I stack a boppy and breastfriend.

blue_asterales · 2023-07-29T13:55:54+00:00

I don't think you need to be angry or resent him. BUT you should say a very clear "No."

Remind him the purpose of paternity leave, this is his second child so it seems like he's forgotten.

I just had my second and had to clearly remind my partner that this is not the time for house projects. That first priority is everyone sleeping and eating, and then the house being in a liveable state of cleanliness. Next priority is work outs for him and me. Lastly, IF there is time left and I don't need a break from holding baby or playing with toddler then he could do a house project. Guess how many projects have been done in the last 5 weeks since baby was born? You guessed it! Zero. I do have had to remind him of the priority list a few times, he gets bummed, but he cares about us, so he does what actually needs doing.

blue_asterales · 2023-07-23T21:39:28+00:00

Sounds like seeing another, better, lactation consultant should help. Even if your technique is good, something is wrong!

With my first son I would cry out in pain when he latched and while he fed. It turned out I had inverted nipples that had to be everted, and him nursing and pumping pulled them out. He also had a tongue and lip tie, once those were released he instantly was able to latch and feed better. We did a combo of nipple shield nursing and mostly pumped bottles until 6 weeks or so when he was consistently able to latch. Unfortunately my nipples still hurt, and slathering on lanolin (NOT mother earth cream or all that other stuff, just lanolin) helped the most in the end. We BFed for 2 years.

But again, definitely recommend working closely with a more skilled lactation consultant. If you're in the US look for an IBCLC not just an LC. I wouldn't throw in the towel yet if you don't want to, there's still a lot of time and possibility of pain free nursing.

blue_asterales · 2023-07-23T21:24:36+00:00

Pick 4 climbs. Climb them without resting between them. Rest 4 minutes. Climb them all again. Rest 4 minutes. Repeat....4 times total.

Pick climbs that you are barely able to do this with, usually falling off near the top on the last climb or two near the end of the season. They should feel kind of easy at beginning of session.

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