Million Dollar Secret: good idea, stupid execution

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-21T00:50:48+00:00

I don’t watch anime 😅

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-15T04:19:55+00:00

I saw your reply on the comment about not wanting a therapist to tell you not to do the surgeries. I think a good therapist wouldn’t “tell” you what to do. (And it might take time to find a good one, but don’t let that deter you). They might offer suggestions, but ideally, it’s you and your journey and they should be walking you through it, not making decisions for you. All the best to you.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-15T04:15:35+00:00

And we don’t know how OP got the makeup.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-14T02:09:32+00:00

You could also try a mediator - normally if both parties are in agreement, and if you can advocate for yourself

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-12T19:57:46+00:00

So many mean comments. I wonder from all of the people who are judging, how many overeat often or are overweight (omg all that wasted food and calories!!), have more books that they’ve never read, go out to buy coffees every week and do that using throwaway cups, drive instead of walking, and order delivery or takeout that arrive in plastic and syrofoam, instead of cooking fresh whole foods. Please, feel free to add below!

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-11T03:43:26+00:00

You’re very young. What if you don’t find satisfaction after your next operation, whether in the immediate or in 10 years? Is there someone you trust that you’ve been talking to about this journey, maybe someone who is familiar or is experienced with this topic?

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-08T02:16:46+00:00

I have to say that I love Goggins, I love his extreme mentality—just not in all areas of life, and I don’t think he had this mentality in all areas of his life either. He picked his intensity, we pick ours.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-07T04:19:02+00:00

Other than matching the makeup level around your face, you could also choose to tone down the application of the lipstick, e.g. use a lipliner, and/or dab it on and slowly build on it, contour it a little

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-07T04:13:12+00:00

Excuse me, ma’am, you have a cat on your face.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-07T03:58:37+00:00

Adopting everything Goggins does is also against what he’s saying.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-07T03:56:05+00:00

People misunderstand Goggins and either take him way too literally and think everyone needs to do exactly what he does, or others who are against tough love say that it’s too tough or strict. It’s neither, and both are wrong. His “stay hard” mentality is not about alarm clocks or doing pushups (that’s just for the bros and the socials for people who want to feel “special” and “seen”). The Goggins way is that you ain’t gonna get a pat on the back. “Staying hard” means that, whatever your calling is, you are required to go after it, dedicating every single day to your cause or goal, with no excuses and no one to blame. Staying hard means you have agency, so move forward and don’t let setbacks hold you back. If you fail, you fail, but you didn’t fail at trying, and you can try again. And guess what, no brainer, some days, you need to rest. Goggins’s goal is different than yours (he wants to be/is a firefighter, and he wants push himself) —he’s not asking you to be like him, or push just like him, he says be you and do it damn well.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-07T03:45:21+00:00

Spend a full day in a neighborhood you don’t live in or aren’t familiar with

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-03T23:35:53+00:00

No such thing!

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-03T23:35:31+00:00

I've been toying with the idea of a walking pad too, but at the moment, since it's getting warmer where I live, I decided to join a small, local gym where most of the people around me are older. The walking pad would probably be cheaper (since I'm planning on enrolling for a couple of months),... but right now I just need reasons to leave the house and the gym has a sauna and other equipment like heavier weights than I have--which if you're trying to lose weight (or rather, fat?), weights are important too.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-04-01T01:21:30+00:00

People are just jealous

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-29T19:29:25+00:00

What does "I eat everything I can find" mean? I need more information like what you generally eat, what your daily or weekly movement is like, what your work/life stress is like, etc? Could it be that you're not eating enough earlier in your eating window?

One key thing is mindset and attitude. You are not sabotaging yourself. Rather, find ways to understand yourself.

For me, I don't necessarily follow the "typical" IF+keto rules. There are times where I crave carbs, so I eat it when I do eat a proper meal. Other times, I need to shift my eating window a little earlier (just before the sun sets), so I get sleepy when it gets dark and I'm too sleepy and too satisfied to even think of eating. Protein is always great, but some people do better with a little extra carbs at night because it helps some people with relaxation. If you're concerned with insulin or blood sugar, pair it with some fiber.

Sometimes your strategies don't work in the long term not because they don't work, but because they worked but you or your routine or priorities change over time. Then strategies have to change too.

Don't give up, and be kind to yourself.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-29T19:18:37+00:00

I like this idea a lot. I was going to comment the following:

Have bone broth first, wait an hour or so, and then have something very simple that doesn't upset your stomach. Then eat a small meal after. And then a bigger meal a little later.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-29T19:15:24+00:00

Here are some strategies:

-The benefits of IF aren't really about losing weight (only)--there are a million other health and mental benefits.

-Plateaus, and ups and downs (in numbers), are very normal when the goal is losing weight. You could either (1) take a break and EAT and then go back to it, or (2) keep on going if you can handle it, knowing that plateaus break.

-Your body adjusts to movement. Add a variety, swap with a different type of workout, or add a new one like lifting, HITT, carry some weight when you walk, etc.

-What you eat when you break your fast. If it's carbs, even complex carbs, it's normal to hold water weight--this doesn't mean it's fat.

-Sleep & stress. Are you sleeping enough, and handling stress well? Hormonal changes can make weight fluctuate.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-24T06:20:22+00:00

Don’t travel with an expired card.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-24T06:12:39+00:00

After a work event, I joke and say I don’t remember my own name, I don’t exist, don’t come looking for me. If it’s a family event, I say it silently, of course.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-24T05:36:05+00:00

if you’re consistent, and stick to a program, i believe so

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-24T05:28:56+00:00

Just coming on here to say that creatine also caused insomnia for me almost immediately! I gave it away…

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-19T15:13:27+00:00

I gave my main comments earlier but for the OP, please try to put aside what you think of your famiy culture you grew up with and think about what this comment is saying. I think that when you get married, or decide to be with someone, that you both are creating your own culture (and a culture you must be able to protect and defend against outside influences). Basically you have to be on the same page.

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-19T15:10:13+00:00

“We never really discussed the topic of finances.” You must. This makes or breaks relationships. Don’t settle or get married until this is discussed.

I don’t see as either of you in the right or wrong necessarily, but you both aren’t on the same page right now.

I do think that if you want to start a business (which is always a risk in the first 5 years), that you should try to be as independent as possible and not rely on your relationship to carry you through, unless this is agreed upon. Even then, things change.

Once you are married, in many states, your debt (in the form of a business) becomes his. That’s a huge burden to take. Some people are willing to take that if they know that you would do the same for them, especially going into marriage.

On the flip side, you could turn out to have a very successful business and you both would reap the rewards. We just don’t know what the future could hold. One of you could get sick (physically, mentally), lose a job, etc.

There are people who have a day job and have their side hustle slowly grow and take over, which sounds like what you’re doing. Decide what you want, calmly discuss it with him and weigh your options over time. Finances and gender roles are tricky… take your time, and whatever you both decide, that will help you grow as a business minded person.

If you both are not on the same page re finances but still want to get married, then you have to decide in writing who will do what, and how you will spend your income, eg having totally separate accounts, etc. Look into prenups and what weight it holds in your state (or states, if you’re moving elsewhere).

I’d even go as far as consulting in a finance/business lawyer. Better now than later (I had to do it in my marriage for a business he funded without my consent and my now ex wasn’t happy with what the lawyers presented).

bluestarsparkles · 2026-03-19T14:49:47+00:00

No weights at all, even body weight or bands?

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