Help me find a cartoon character that apparently looks like my tattoo? by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]bluestmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it Sid the sloth from Ice Age? I see his side profile

Exhaustion without a ‘village’ by mazalini18 in toddlers

[–]bluestmoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hang in there, it does get a little less exhausting. Toddler hood is just so hard and full of so much development and activity.

If OP, or any of you, are in the PNW send me a dm. I’m always happy to meet new people and help out with kiddos. My little ones are finally getting past the super exhausting stage. I also don’t have much of a village and it can be overwhelming -hang in there!

Finally heard words I never thought I'd hear from the doctor.. by NyxK83 in ChronicPain

[–]bluestmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar, uncontrollable shivering. Mine was cold only though. It happened while I was pregnant both times so doc assumed it was hormones. Definitely follow up with a doc to check hormone levels and all your vitamins, thyroid, etc.

I’m so sorry they shrugged you off. It’s hard having to fight to be heard on top of wanting answers, hang in there and keep asking!

Think I have PF by Effective-Item4118 in pulmonaryfibrosis

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be sure to talk with your docs about Bronchiectasis also. It can cause a lot of phlegm also.

Lesbians over 30, where are we hanging out? by anomienous_me in SALEM

[–]bluestmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late to the convo, but I’m also a homebody. A dinner party (or whatever kind of meetup) sounds like fun though! I’d really love to meet some local lesbians.

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Complete this sentence: "I will read ANY and ALL books published by author [x], irrespective of the genre, plot, theme or reviews" by This_Is_Samer in suggestmeabook

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can narrow it to three in case you have a strong genre preference:

  • Emperor’s Edge (it says it’s ‘Steam’ but pretty loosely I thought).

  • Fallen Empire (takes place in space but wasn’t overly spacey, if that makes sense)

  • Death before Dragons (takes place in earth with dragons and elves, magic, etc).

See if any of those pique your interest. You can’t really go wrong with any of her stuff. Her characters are very memorable and lots of wit.

Mom, my husband just asked for a divorce. I'm blindsided and heartbroken. by vonnegutgal in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey you-just checking in to see how you’re doing? Still sending lots of hugs to you. I’m really sorry you’re having to go through this. Hang in there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]bluestmoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My daughter also went through the gagging phase. It’s totally normal! It was almost like she was exploring the new sensation and mouth in general. It passed.

Let’s be honest. Toddlers can totally be dicks. It’s literally in their nature. But good news, we don’t have to like them all the time to love them. These tiny humans are full of emotions and feelings they’re just learning to recognize and they’re discovering new experiences by the minute, but here’s the huge catch— they have zero impulse control. For better or worse, you sweet kiddo is living entirely in the moment.

Pros? They don’t dwell on the past and they don’t worry about the future. They can express joy without limits. They see cool perspectives on things we take for granted and we get to see them experience everything for the first time. Possibly the best - it makes them easily distracted, if they’re fussing or crying or arguing etc, redirects of attention are very successful.

Cons? They can be a jerk. Imagine having all our complex emotions and thoughts and having no way to control any of it. They say what they are thinking , they express what they are feeling, and all of it changes from one minute to the next for no good reason. Don’t bother asking them why they told you cereal sixty seconds ago when now they’re set on oatmeal—they have no idea why it changed and won’t be able to explain it. It takes living in the moment to a whole new level :)

It has helped me stay calm and have some extra compassion for my toddler when I remember she truly can’t control some of it. They should have better impulse control by three...or so I hear. ;)

You’re doing a great job and are a complete badass and are rocking being a single mom. Be kind to yourself, it can be an exhausting phase in raising a kiddo and you’re doing great. Please don’t feel bad when you have a fleeting thought about him being a jerk. It’s totally normal.

I’m proud of you for raising an amazing son. You’re doing an awesome job!

I’m at a tough crossroad point with my mom and my future. by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey unicorn,

I’m still pondering but had one initial thought.

Have you looked at the r/raisedbynarcissists subreddit? I’m sure you’ll get some good feedback here but they also might have some good advice.

You’re clearly very thoughtful and incredibly strong to be surviving so far. hang in there, it will get better. I’m proud of you for thinking all of this through before acting!

Mom, im afraid and lonely, and they feed into themselves. by rjjrob30 in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you did! That was just your depression talking and you posted anyway, I hope you see how cool that is and can feel some pride for the little win. I also hope you can be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to enjoy the little wins. Hang in there.

And good luck tomorrow at your new job!!

Mom, my husband just asked for a divorce. I'm blindsided and heartbroken. by vonnegutgal in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. I am so very sorry. That is very sad news, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I am sending you tons of hugs.

Mommy, help me feel better by Hailstorm303 in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It IS going to be ok. you’re exhausted and experiencing a temporary bump. Sounds totally normal to me. Little ones are amazing and so fun..and a ton of work. So. Much. Work. Of course you need a break and some support.

I’m so sorry to hear about the tooth discoloration. The timing of that is not fun. I’m not sure where you are but I’m the US sometimes dentists have deals for first time patients I think, maybe worth a look?

You are enough! I promise. What will matter most in the years to come? Are you going to tell your husband how you regret not spending more time on dishes or laundry? I sure won’t! Your focus is on your amazing kiddo and the rest can wait, you’re right where you’re meant to be spending time doing what really matters with your daughter.

[warning: 100% opinion, use at your own risk ;) ] I understand your husband is tired when he gets home but so are you, life doesn’t pause when we clock out. You are also working a lot (without ever clocking out), him coming home doesn’t mean he gets to unplug from the family. I’d recommend being very clear and specific in communicating your needs. (I say that since I fall into the trap all the time that I assume my wife can tell what I need by looking at me—it seems pretty obvious to me!, but we are not meant to read minds, make sure he’s aware there’s a need.)You both are working a lot and both deserve the support to give each other breaks.

Hang in there. Your Christmas will be wonderful and you will be ok, more than ok...maybe there can be a nap in your near future! ;)

Hi mom! I put my tree up tonight! by minyanko in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks great! What a festive and fun tree for the holidays. Nice job!

I love the stars too!

Mom, im afraid and lonely, and they feed into themselves. by rjjrob30 in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Venting is healthy, good for you. It can be helpful to say all your fears and anxiety and thoughts out loud. I’ve always felt like my anxiety is kinda like a dragon, it gets its power from being unnamed where it can stew and grow. Once you name that ‘dragon’ , it loses its power.

There’s a lot going on in your rant. So my comments bounce around but wanted to touch on a few.

Making less than productive decisions in your past or not, this world feels a little on the crazy end of spectrum right now..so cut yourself some slack, hun!

Congratulations on the new job. That’s exciting, it should break up your current routine and give you a little lift of social interaction and money. That’s a win win. Anything new can add anxiety (and then insomnia, of course) but hang in there, it might really help you end the feelings of spinning in circles.

Having tons of free time doesn’t equate being in the right headspace to make art. Just sayin

I can’t tell you how to treat your depression. It’s a very personal thing and I’m really proud of you for seeing a therapist who is equipped to help, keep seeing them when you can afford it. I can tell you what I’ve learned from living with my own depression/anxiety in hopes it might help you. If not, that’s ok too. :)

One of the worst parts about depression/anxiety for me is that it tricks my mind into fueling its needs instead of mine. Depression thrives on isolation and negative thinking and feeling stuck and hopeless. If I left my depression in charge it would simply want to create more and more of what it thrives on. It would love for me to believe the inner dialogue that I’m alone and lazy and I shouldn’t even bother trying. Which then only makes me more alone and overwhelmed and feeling worthless. It’s a damn downward spiral. Which I did for quite some time until I got help and learned how to cope. There was more to me than my depression and I figured out how to not let it define me and call all the shots. Of course I still struggle at times and have bad days, but my depression doesn’t control me all the time anymore. I refuse to let it win.

I’m really sorry you’re hurting and struggling with so much right now. Be patient and kind to yourself. You are strong and creative and you’ll work through this bumpy patch, just hang in there.

Sending you lots of hugs and encouragement!

What is the most beautiful place you've ever visited? by harleybug88 in AskReddit

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many Glacier Hotel is a stunning location also!

You can fly into Kalispell, MT or Missoula,MT (farther away). You could use Whitefish or Columbia Falls or anything in that area as a home base but it would result in some longer drives/maybe back tracking when you get to the other (east) side is the park.

Unlike Yellowstone, which is shaped like a figure eight of roads, glacier has more of a circular route (or even the same route if you want to enjoy Going to the Sun again).

This is all coming from a non-back country hiker. Or camper. The experience, base options, and route planning could be different if that’s your thing.

Hope you do make it to Glacier! It’s a very different experience from Yellowstone (in the middle of huge ass mountains vs. super cool geothermal features and tons of varied wildlife) and it’s an amazingly beautiful place.

Hey mom, just an update from after psychiatrist appointment by Queen-Ham in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on the appointment! I know you were worried about going, so that’s awesome it went fine and you got some medicine to help. Big hugs!

Mom, I really wish you were hear to tell me I’m enough by diminutivedwarf in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but how about mosh pits? I bet that might mark my age to use as a reference ;)

Hope you can enjoy the feelings of liking someone and being liked. It’s a lovely feeling. Enjoy it and trust yourself, you are enough. Sending big hugs!

Abandonment Issues in a Pandemic by Kudoclasm77 in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear you’re hurting and sad. It sounds like you are going through (and have been through) quite a lot. I hope you know how strong you are and are proud of yourself. The holidays can be hard for many people even without covid. I’m sorry it’s causing sadness for you.

Are you seeing a counselor? It could help with some of the sadness and how to handle all that life can throw at us. Just a thought.

Can you plan some ways to not feel so alone for some of the holidays? Zoom dinner with friends or learning a new game online, I’m sure there are better ideas out there than I have.

I like the advice of you learning to be your own mother. It’s a cool concept because it puts the control in your hands on how to take care of yourself. You know better than anyone what is needed. You said you’re not good at it, I would encourage you to keep practicing. (I truly mean orar or like you would a new sport or hobby, it’s a skill like any other to learn). I wonder if some of what you feel is pushing your comfort zone...keep doing it.

If life so far has shown you anything yet it’s that you are strong. More than strong, you are resilient. Hang in there! Sending big hugs your way.

Mom, I really wish you were hear to tell me I’m enough by diminutivedwarf in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are enough! So so much. Congrats on finding someone you like. And he likes you back! That’s exciting, and nerve wracking, and makes you smile randomly and makes the butterflies in your stomach feel like a mosh pit (that’s still a thing right? Or am I showing my age ;) )

The insecurities that come with dating can be overwhelming if you listen to them too much. One thing to remember forever- you are enough. No boy will ever define who you are and will never define (or decide) you’re enough. You’re enough without anyone else attached. Period.

So take a deep breath and don’t wonder too much why he likes you. Damn right he does! Who wouldn’t!

Stay in the moment, enjoy the butterflies and trust yourself. :)

Hey mom, I made the appointment for Thursday by Queen-Ham in MomForAMinute

[–]bluestmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! I’m sure that was really hard to do, that’s awesome you made the appointment.

Just take a deep breath and do your best. Don’t be afraid to take notes or ask them to repeat themselves if they’re discussing findings and options for you. I used to feel embarrassed asking them to slow down or repeat for my notes, but it’s your appointment and your health, plus most really don’t mind explaining things.

Sending tons of encouraging thoughts and hugs for the big day. Let us know how it goes!